How to Cut Yourself Some Slack During the Pandemic – Health Essentials from Cleveland Clinic
Posted: May 16, 2020 at 1:41 pm
Life during the coronavirus outbreak is hard. Give yourself a break.
You havent learned a new language, reorganized your closet or baked a single loaf of bread. If you believe your social media feed, you are the worlds biggest coronavirus slacker.
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Pro tip: Your social media feed is a liar. Yes, you may have some overachieving friends perfecting their sourdough recipes during self-isolation. But there are plenty of good reasons to go easy on yourself, says psychologist Scott Bea, PsyD.
Weve been forced into this novel situation, and its draining, he says. Few of us are living up to our ideals right now, and its important to cut yourself some slack.
In general, most of us arent great at giving ourselves a break. Weve internalized a lot of perfectionism in our culture, Dr. Bea says. We worry that if we cut ourselves some slack, were lazy, or terrible things will befall us.
But a lot of the standards we set for ourselves are ridiculously high and not very helpful, especially during a global pandemic. Humans rely on habits to make our lives easier and reduce tension. Weve had to adapt our habits to this new situation, and our brains have to figure out a lot of things weve never rehearsed before, Dr. Bea says.
Maybe youre figuring out how to work from home for the first time or how to deal with unemployment. You might be working out how to manage homeschooling or how to get along with your roommates in cramped quarters, 24/7. No wonder you feel like you could sleep for a week. That exhausted feeling is legitimate because your brain is working harder than its used to, Dr. Bea adds.
You know whats worse than feeling exhausted? Feeling exhausted and also guilty about not being more productive. But it doesnt have to be that way.
With practice, you can learn to give yourself a break. These ideas from Dr. Bea will help you get started.
What you see on social media isnt real life. Still, your news feed might fool you into thinking that other people are thriving in social isolation. It can produce a lot of feelings of poor me, even though we know people are posting sanitized realities, Dr. Bea says. Now, especially, it can be useful to limit social comparisons.
Were often harder on ourselves than we are on other people. Start treating yourself like you would your best friend. Its an acknowledgment that were human. We are all flawed, and its helpful to adjust your expectations to accept that, he says.
Make a daily list of things youre grateful for to help you learn to appreciate what went right, instead of judging what you did wrong. You can put a spin on the gratitude journal by noting your accomplishments, no matter how small.
Youre grateful you managed to get dressed today. Or you called a friend whos been struggling. Or you didnt lose your temper when your dear child started arguing for more screen time yet again. Youre accomplishing more than you realize. We can train our brains to notice the good, Dr. Bea says.
A lot of us are stressed and sad right now. We dont need more pressure to meet unrealistic goals. But it can be a boost to accomplish smaller goals.
Instead of telling yourself you should be working on a novel, set aside a few minutes a week to write in your journal. Rather than tell yourself you should be planting a vegetable garden, spend some time mowing the lawn or pulling weeds. Being a little active toward things we feel are worthwhile can produce good feelings, he says.
The pandemic wont last forever, but learning to go easy on yourself is a skill that will keep on giving. We often face a bevy of self-criticism, but we can become more practiced at cutting ourselves some slack, Dr. Bea says.
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How to Cut Yourself Some Slack During the Pandemic - Health Essentials from Cleveland Clinic
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