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Virtual happenings at the Great Neck Library – Community News – The Island Now

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Art Celebrating World Giraffe Day

The giraffes of Great Neck Library Sunshine, Doris, GiGi, & Raffe are a beloved part of our community. Help us celebrate them, and World Giraffe Day by submitting artwork to be uploaded to the Librarys website and social media.

We will collect artwork through World Giraffe Day, June 21. Send to childrens@greatnecklibrary.org

Summer Reading

Summer Reading Celebration with Jester Jim: Thursday, June 18, 2:00 3:00 p.m.

The public libraries of Nassau County invite you to the 2020 Summer Reading Celebration with Jester Jim, a 40 min. live, interactive broadcast packed with tricks, balancing, and laughs. Kids of all ages.

Watch the show here: https://youtu.be/MC0ljPmvSBI

Pride Month

DIY T-shirt Beach Tote Monday, June 15, 5:00 6:00 p.m. Decorate for pride or the beach. Meeting ID: 937 6096 5193 Password: beach lsweeney@greatnecklibrary.org

Pride Month Book Club: You Asked for Perfect by Laura Silverman Friday, June 19, 6:00 7:00 p.m. Zoom Meeting ID: 924 6156 0810 Password: pride To access a copy of the book for free go toHoopla(or download the Hoopla app) and use your GN library card to check it out. jlagasse@greatnecklibrary.org

DIY Pride Arts & Crafts 8:00 9:00 p.m. Craft some rainbow-themed items and show off your pride. Meeting ID: 945 5320 5176 Password: pride lsweeney@greatnecklibrary.org

Finance Meeting Wednesday, June 17, 7:00 8:00 p.m.

Finance Committee Meeting Via Webex https://gnlskype.my.webex.com/gnlskype.my/j.php?MTID=mbb751ef922cd0e21d926f45f8bb2c881 Meeting number: 954 697 415Password: ePWJHBQf434 (37954273 from phones) Join by phone +1-650-215-5226United States Toll

More Online Programs: June 13 to 19

Play Reading: Saturday, June 13, 5:00 6:30 p.m. Choose and read a play as a group. Zoom Meeting ID: 813 614 2806 Password: password jrobinson@greatnecklibrary.org

Zoom Puppetry: 7:00 8:30 p.m. Meeting ID: 826 2404 5619 Password: kermit bweil@greatnecklibrary.org.

Organic 3D Design: Monday, June 15, 3:30 4:30 p.m. Learn how to create a truly organic design such as a tree or alien with Sculptrics, a free Windows and Mac computer software you can download. Make sure your system can support this software. https://pixologic.com/sculptris/ Meeting ID: 970 6099 2411 Password: Sculpt stemlab@greatnecklibrary.org

Harry Potter Trivia: 7:00 7:30 p.m. Join Librarians Justin and Kat. Zoom using Kahoot. Meeting ID: 966 2701 3576 Password: 676967

Yoga Flow facilitated by Carolyn Series Open to All: Tuesday, June 16, 9:30 10:30 a.m. Yoga mat, meditation pillow, water and small towel,comfortable clothing. Join Zoom Meeting. Meeting ID: 863 9285 4948 Password: 723725

English Conversation Class with Barbara: 12:30 1:45 p.m. Join Zoom Meeting Meeting ID: 956 0540 7377 Password: class

Book Club: Lone Ranger and Tonto Fistfight in Heaven by Sherman Alexie: 7:00 8:00 p.m. Join Librarian Justin. The book is available through Hoopla here: https://www.hoopladigital.com/title/11568211 Zoom Meeting ID: 966 2504 3141 Password: 533683

Gertrude Stein and Friends presented by Mary Dono: Wednesday, June 17, 2:00 3:30 p.m. Zoom Meeting: Meeting ID: 829 9237 6289 Password: 749730

Jeopardy: 5:00 6:00 p.m. Play alone or on a team in the classic answer and question game show. Meeting ID: 819 1192 4805 Password: Trebek mmeehan@greatnecklibrary.org

Pajama Storytime: 7:00 7:30 p.m. Join us on Wednesdays in June. LIVE on the Great Neck Librarys Facebook page, which you can visit by clicking here:https://www.facebook.com/GreatNeckLibrary/

Discover the Power of Now: Thursday, June 18, 12:00 1:00 p.m. Join Librarian Mimi Rabizadeh in a discussion of The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle Zoom Meeting Meeting ID: 839 5492 5407 Password: 215055

Yoga Flow facilitated by Sharon Epstein Series open to all: 7:00 8:00 p.m. Yoga mat, meditation pillow to sit on, water and small towel,comfortable clothing. Join Zoom Meeting Meeting ID: 826 2618 7198 Password: 584172

Virtual Project Runway: 8:00 10:00 p.m. Draw fashion designs. Zoom Meeting ID: 895 9214 7840 Password: projectrun jrobinson@greatnecklibrary.org

Friday Film: The Cobbler (2014): Friday, June 19, 12:00 1:00 p.m. PG-13Comedy,Drama,Fantasy Watch on Kanopy for free with your library card. ZoomMeeting ID: 811 7415 7765 Password: 010871 https://zoom.us/

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‘The Call To Unite’: Oprah Winfrey kickstarts live stream event and fans can’t wait for Avril Lavigne to join – MEAWW

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In times of the coronavirus crisis, The Call To Unite spreads the message to celebrate someone who has been there for you through the global pandemic. The 24-hour livestream event brings people together to share how you plan to #AnswerTheCall for someone else in need.

Locked down in our homes, what is the best thing we can do? Timothy Shriver, organizer of The Call To Unite, says it's time to co-author the "book of us". It's all about "justice" and "joy." Oprah Winfrey kickstarted the event by speaking to spiritual leaders from across the globe. "I spent 47-38 days in lockdown, I've had a lot of time to reflect what this moment means to us as a family and a community," she said.

Delving into the basic struggles people are facing, Shriver said, "If not now, when? If not us, who? So many people are starving. We all are looking for a way to trust each other. I think one thing we all need to do is the language you use to get together. It is a massive positive movement in the right direction."

Oprah then spoke to Bishop TD Jakes and Eckhart Tolle. Talking about how we divided the world into whites, blacks and browns, Bishop said, "Wed become too tribal, too separated into our own groups. This is, after all, something affecting all of humanity."

Tweeting some of his touching words, people united on social media. "We must feel the fear but never let it drive the car - Bishop TD Jakes #AnswerTheCall," one tweet read and another said, "I have an idea. @Oprah should be @JoeBidens VP. They would sweep. We need her. Also, heal us, Oprah."

"The bishop says he hasnt spent this much time at home in years, but its given him time to appreciate simplicity," one said and another said, "Its the dignity we bring to the suffering that determines the outcome, #BishopTDJakes #TheCalltoUnite."

Meanwhile, some fans noticed Jakes' peculiar live stream setup. "TD Jakes has a better livestream setup than Teddy Riley. Go Bishop! #AnswerTheCall #verzuz," the tweet read along with a picture. Meanwhile, some can't help but wait for Avril Lavigne to join in. "At which time does Avril Lavigne #AnswerTheCall," one wrote and another said, "@AvrilLavigne about what time are you joining the #AnswerTheCall live stream?" One fan posted, "She isn't shy anymore on social media. I'm very happy that i can see her live again & get to hear her voice often. Thank you so much."

Feeling the inspiration and motivation, people are waiting for more celebrities to join in. "Can't wait to tune into @TheCallToUnite, so many amazing people are coming together to #AnswerTheCall & unite our community during this pandemic. Hope you'll all follow along!" one tweet read. If you're wondering when your favorite celebrities will pop in, here's the schedule for you.

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My Life in the Age of COVID: Event Planner Bryan Rafanelli – Boston magazine

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Weddings

The man behind celebrity weddings and high-end fetes talks hoarding frozen pizza and the future of celebrations in the era of social distancing.

Photo by Joel Benjamin

As the COVID-19 pandemic upends every aspect of Boston life, were checking in with some local residents to learn how theyre processing our new normal. Theyll share serious thoughts on their concerns for the cityand yes, some silly recommendations on what to binge-watch, too. For the rest of the series, clickhere.

As the founder and chief creative officer of Rafanelli Events, Bryan Rafanelli has spent the last 20-plus years throwing luxurious soirees around the worldincluding several Obama-era White House state dinners and theweddings of celebs such as Chelsea Clinton and Allison Williams, to name a few. Now, for the first time in his career, the party has stopped as coronavirus and social-distancing policies have canceled events both locally and globally. Yet, for the leader of the Boston and NYC-based firm, these quiet, solitary days have been some of his most jam-packed as he plans for the day when we can fill dance floors once again.

What is your level of concern right now?

First and foremost, [Im concerned for] my family, my friends, my staff, and of course, my amazing clients, [who I hope are] staying safe and being well.

Thirty-five percent of my businesses is [planning events for] nonprofits, so my other concern is how we can maintain the success of these organizations that are doing great work in real time, whether theyre on the frontlines at MGH or theyre Boys and Girls Clubs. Every day I wake up thinking about how we can we help them and make sure that everybody understands they need to be helped.

Its an interesting time to be in the gathering business. The left side of my brain is like, We have to plan for the future, and we have to be honest with ourselves about what gathering will look like. So for example, if Mayor Walsh or the governor will allow assembly in the fall, Im thinking about [how to plan] events for 20, 50, 100 people so that theyre safe. I dont do events that small, but I am thinking to myself, How can I be there to think this through for people? I literally have been having calls with some of the most incredible people in our business about [things like] how we are going to serve food, how well do drinks, and how we are going to park cars. As long as this virus is around, we have to be thoughtful and proactive about the things that are going to make people as safe as possible and allow them to come back together. Inherently, as humans, we want to gather; my concern is that we do that the best [way] we can with the information we have.

Have you come up with any creative solutions that will allow us to have gatherings later this year, even if there are ongoing social-distancing requirements?

With Zoom, we are already gathering virtually. Thats happening in real time, and what came out of that for me was [wondering], Is there a hybrid of that for if and when we can assemble in small groups again? If we have an event for 300 people, is it actually three 100-person events instead? Or six 50-person events? So thats something were working on. Its a hybrid event product; people can still come together safely in small groups, but feel the connectivity of the larger group. Thats what I think the future of events looks like in the fall. And then as all of these amazing treatments and vaccines come out, [we can] come back together as a collective. Until then, we need to be thoughtful about how we do this.

Any advice for couples whose weddings have been affected by the coronavirus outbreak?

Our first wedding was [supposed to be] last weekend, and we had weddings that were supposed to happen in May and June. My best advice to these amazing, young, smart, brilliant people who fall in love and are supposed get married is, look, youve gone from a short engagement to a really long one. Itll be a yearits not forever. You have to realize how fast time moves. Accept where you are right now, and then reimagine the future. Its exciting stuff. Not everybody gets to plan these beautiful wedding stories with their families, and you get to do it a little bit longer. And thats okay. In fact, you might actually have more time to do it and not feel the pressure of planning a wedding. Youll really be able to dig in and say, What do I really want this to look like? What stories do I want to tell about my family? Who do I want to connect to? I think time is going to give you more choices. So focus on that.

How have you been coping so far?

My husband and I have been couples distancing, we call it. We have a house in Boston and a beach house in Provincetown. So we will be together for four days, and then one of us will separate. It gives us a little bit of a change, even though were not seeing anybody, and that has given us a little relief. Look, Im a very fortunate guy. We have a beautiful place in Boston. We live in a [former] church in the South End, so we have these beautiful views of the city every day. Although its been quiet, its been really magical to watch spring come.

Walk me through your average daily routine right now, starting with the first thing you do when you wake up.

I have a golden retriever named George Clooney that makes me get up and take him for a nice long walk. Then [I work out for] 30 minutes with my trainer virtually. Hes literally on my iPhone in the corner of my bedroom. Next, I insist that I shave every day. Pre-COVID, I would go five days without shaving. Now, for some reason Im like, You need to get up, shower, shave, and get dressed. And you need to wear a collared shirt. Im really trying not to break my routine.

Then I go to work. I check in with my chief of staff, we go over my day from top to bottom, and Im thinking, How am I going to tackle all of these Zoom calls? I have never worked harder, and Ive been working for 25 years. Im kind of a madman about working. But its just constant conversation: Whats going on? How are we going to handle it? What are we going to do? Wheres the money going to come from? I believe so strongly in talking to every single client, as well as my teams, as much as I can every week.

And then I sit on the advisory committee for Mass General and on five boards, from Huntington Theatre to the Boys and Girls Club to Camp Harbor View. Each one of them is facing real challenges right now about how they should be doing things and raising money. Im having those calls every single day.

The other thing Im doing is connecting with 25 producers and designers from around the world. Once a week, we get on a Zoom call and talk about business, best practices, PPP, and how to finance the future of events. I also will fully admit that every Friday I get on a call with a bunch of them, and its just a cocktail party. And we agree that we have to be two drinks in when we get on the call.

How have you been navigating relationships and staying connected?

I do a call with mother every single day, and [a call] once a week with my whole family. [I also do a call] once a week with my husbands family. Its been very healthy to do it and Ive enjoyed it. Ive never been closer to my family, quite frankly. I mean, I love them, theyre super supportive, but the idea that wed talk every week is unheard of. Seeing my nieces and nephews, who are all graduating from high school or college or getting marriedwere having really interesting life conversations that we probably wouldnt have normally.

What do you miss most about your former, pre-social distancing routine?

Im in the gathering business. I love celebration. So Ive missed that like you have no idea. I keep imagining how that first party will feel. I just saw a photograph of flowers from an event we did for a clients 65th wedding anniversary, and I was staring at the image thinking, Oh my god, those flowers. I miss that beauty, and Im not somebody who ever took it for granted.

Have you made any interesting changes to your personal or work routine that you want to keep doing even when things return to normal?

Its so weird, but I havent really cooked a meal for myself or my family in at least 15 years. Its a lot of takeout from Whole Foods, and I love restaurants and going out for breakfast. But I have been shopping and cooking and setting the table, and I like it. That I could see could stick. Its not great food, but theres something about it that Ive realized is really important.

What have you been keeping in your fridge for comfort food?

I think the strangest things happen in this situation; I only really eat healthy food, but I have so much pasta and lasagna and stuffed shells and frozen pizza that youd think this was an Italian restaurant. But Im buying it from Whole Foods, and its just always in there. I would eat it morning, noon, and night because its so good, and its definitely piling up in [my fridge].

Whats been your binge-watch/read/listen go-to to take your mind off things?

A friend was telling me that she and her husband started to watch a lot of comedy instead of watching MSNBC. I thought, What a great idea. So I have been going through John Mulaney and Wanda Sykes and old Joan Rivers clips on YouTube. Just when I start to go into a little bit of a dark place, I say, I should watch some comedy. Ive watched John Mulaney at Radio City three times. Its just unbelievably funny.

Whats a habit youll use this time to break?

Im trying to break the habit of getting too worried. Every morning I start on a high, and then it starts to slip during the day. Theres a book I often go to called A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. He basically writes about this Eastern religion idea of balancing lifes super high highslike doing a state dinner for the Obamas at the White House or Matt Damons weddingwith challenges like my best friend having cancer for the last five years or COVID-19, and not getting too drawn into the dark. Im trying to stay in the middle, so what Im trying to do is catch myself and say, Bryan, stay steady. I think if we all stay steady, we will be better off on the other side.

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Eckhart Tolle & COVID-19: Some much needed Words of …

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Relephant read:Elephants Continually-updating Coronavirus Diary. ~ Waylon

Like many people throughout the course of this week, I have received far too many messages regarding COVID-19 from Amazon, Toyota, Best Buy, and practically everyone I have ever purchased anything from in the previous decade.

Every printer, car lease, and non-fiction book comes with a free message of hope and responsibility should a global pandemic emerge unexpectedly. I wasnt moved.

However, when Eckhart Tolle burst onto the YouTube feed offering some much needed words of comfortthen, I was game. I needed to hear what he had to say.

Id like to share with you a short passage from the Bibleit doesnt happen very often that I read from the Bible as part of a teaching he began in his humble and quiet demeanor.

Then he continues:

everyone who listens to these words of Mine and does them will be like a man building a house who dug deep and laid the foundation on the rock. And the rain came down, and the torrents came, and the winds blew and beat upon that house; and it did not fall, for its foundation had been lain upon the rock. But everyone who hears these words of Mine and does not act on them is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.

This, a much quoted parable from Matthew 7:25, as Tolle goes on to explain, is where we can find all the comfort we need if we are willing to pay heed. We are the man and we are the house and the weather elements are the adversity. We are now in a period of great anxiety and fear and if we do not keep it in the momentif we allow ourselves to go floating off into the projected fiction of what could happenwe will be lost.

It is the message that Tolle has been espousing since he came to prominence as a teacher many years ago, but with a sage like Tolle, we do not expect, nor do we need anything novel. As with all great teachers, the gift lies in the practice of a simple and counterintuitive approach to life and, most especially, to less than desirable circumstances. Breathe.

In essence he is trying to remind us that our apprehension will kill us as fast as a virus if we allow it to. If we continue to approach this unprecedented situation armed with only our thoughts and our sense perception, we will be building our house on sand.

It clocks in at about 23 minutes and, as far as I am concerned, has been one of the most useful pieces of information that I have gotten off my computer since this all began unraveling in the last few weeks:

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For more, check out some of Elephants most mindful, helpful COVID-19 articles: How to Enjoy Life Amidst the Coronavirus Fear: Your Go-To Guide from Books to Podcasts & Wellness Practices. What the Coronavirus is Teaching Me: 5 Lessons from Uncertain Times. The Artists Stay-at-Home & Stay Sane Guide. 10 Simple Ways to Boost your Immunity without Leaving the House.

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Image: Eckhart Tolle / YouTube

Editor: Julie Balsiger

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When Aditi Surana was 14 years old, a handwriting coach pointed out that she had spent the better part of an hour carefully drawing a string of zeroes on the page. Instead of feeling apologetic or embarrassed, Surana looked at the writing carefully and found that there was definitely a pattern there. And patterns usually say something or can be decanted for meaning.

Graphology seems a rather odd gateway to a podcast, but what Aditi Surana has done is combine her longstanding passion for handwriting analysis with her skills as a high-performance coach to create the context for conversation.

In each episode of IVMs new podcast series, Absolutely Write, Surana engages with a guest to unpack their personal journey while she peers into their handwriting for clues to their personality. The conversations are open-ended and somewhat winding, peppered with friendly banter and some serious reflective pauses.

Complicated conversations actually offer insights to the passive listener, says Surana, explaining what she hopes to achieve with her podcast. Just listening to someone talk about their journey in a non-judgmental space can create clarity.

Surprises, anyone?

Guests on the show so far have been IVM insiders, hosts of other podcasts, and hence there is a level of comfort and familiarity that comes through. This is also the limitation, precluding any real surprises for either the host or by extension the listener.

Surana is quick to note that this is by design, as the team wanted to include guests who were comfortable with the medium. To her credit, Surana is able to bring in a measure of the unexpected when she unravels the dots and crosses in the writing samples from her guests.

Trait and reason

Speaking with her first guest Anupam Gupta, host of the business podcast Paisa Vaisa, she points to his habits of close observation and attention to process as a basis for decision making, expressed in parenting styles as much as in advising on stock market moves.

Rather than becoming caught up with the handwriting itself, Surana then pulls back to ask Gupta on how he applies this trait to his work as a financial analyst. This is where, potentially, the learning for the listener takes place. Clearly, having a seasoned podcaster as a guest helps smooth awkward pauses, though tell-tale nervous laughter does punctuate some of the early shows.

Podcast episodes toggle between interviews with these selected guests and shorter pieces launched every Friday where Surana focuses on a topic that is essential to your personal growth. These deal with such themes as our relationship with money, building and breaking habits, and finding flow (recalling Eckhart Tolle), speaking, clearly, to an audience that enjoys self-help as a genre.

Achievers in conversation

If you are among those who enjoy listening to how someone found their groove, Id like to recommend another show that recently came to my attention. Former NPR journalist and U.S.-based leadership coach Chitra Ragavans When it Mattered engages achievers in conversation around their professional journeysand the personal moments that propelled them to success or brought them back from the brink of failure.

Started in July 2019, the podcast has had guests including former FBI Director James Comey and physician-astronaut Shawna Pandya.

Ragavans long experience with radio and her training as a journalist comes through in her audio style, the research that informs the interviews, and the expert way in which she guides the conversation to yielding those decisive moments.

The Hyderabad-based writer and academic is a neatnik fighting a losing battle with the clutter in her head.

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Tracee Ellis Ross Is Here to Soothe Your Frazzled Nerves – W Magazine

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Tracee Ellis Ross New Royalty: Television

Ross wears an Alexander McQueen dress; Gianvito Rossi shoes.

Photographs by Mario Sorrenti, Styled by George Cortina; Hair by Recine for Rodin; Makeup by Kanako Takase for Shiseido at Streeters; Manicures by Lisa Jachno for Chanel at Aim Artists.

Earlier this month, Tracee Ellis Ross shared a video on Instagramnot a groundbreaking action necessarily, especially since many of our favorite celebrities have upped their social media usage in quarantine. But her message broke the so-called fourth wall. In her typical slapstick way, she let the leaf of her house plant flop around near her face. Using a faux-husky voice, she said, "I want to share something that's been helpfulit's not what you expect." Then, on a dime, she shifted, her voice normal again: "How are you guys doing, seriously? How are your hearts? I know my heart feels really heavy." For me, this clip epitomized the singular way Ross has balanced humorsomething we need desperately right nowand genuine outreach to her audience during the coronavirus pandemic, and made it into something of a salve for uneasiness. She is equal parts comedienne and activist.

When she got on the phone from her home in Los Angeleswhere she's currently working on five film and TV projects, along with her hair-care brand Patternour conversation went the same way. She'd dive into a goofy joke, and the next minute, deliver a credo on patience, humanity, and life itself that sounded straight from the pages of an Eckhart Tolle book. Her careful consideration and real interest in people calmed me down a bitsomething I haven't felt in a while. Needless to say, she took on a persona her followers bestowed upon her, and went full Aunt Tracee.

In this interview, Ross discusses her approach to social media during a crisis, the importance of her group text (it's called "Keanu Forever"), and why listening to David Sedaris audio books helps her sleep at night.

Where are you right now?

Im in L.A., at home, like most of us. I havent been out of the house since March 12, I dont think. Last week was a doozy. It was like, okay, wait a minute, is this still happening? This is still going on now? I feel like its the least amount of sacrifice considering what so many others are showing up to do to keep us all afloat. Being uncomfortable is a privilege when theres so much real pain and loss going on.

I just keep reminding myself that staying home is for a higher good. If I think of it as me being of service to people that are faced in a more immediate and direct way with danger, it relieves the pressure of feeling bad that youre feeling bad. My friend Kerby Jean Raymond reminded me of that when we were catching up on the phone last night. He always thinks about more than himself, it seems. Its really easy to forget the helpful things, and thats why I like to swim in a currency of good stuff, and good reminders. He was so helpful in reminding me of that: Youre being of service, and you can take the self out of it.

I also think theres a lot to be said for allowing yourself compassiontheres some space to give yourself on the feelings. This is a collective experience that none of us have ever been in before. Our physical well-being and our health is the overarching theme right now. But at the same time, theres also a mental well-being that all of us are navigating that is part of the whole experience. That is no joke.

How have you been keeping up with friends and family?

Ive done a lot more luxuriating on the phone and FaceTiming. Its been supportive to the experience. My core group of girlfriends are all in New York, and I dont see them all the time. Ive cooked dinner with them and talked to them more often than normal. Its been really helpful. Ive had dinner with Romy [Soleimani] and cooked dinner with my friend Monica, and we have a really fabulous text thread. I would have to ask them if its appropriate to tell you the name of our thread because its so good. You know what, Im gonna breach our privacy. Theyre probably gonna get so mad! Our thread is called Keanu Forever. It happened ages ago, because I rode in an elevator with Keanu during last years Met Ball. It was literally just Keanu and me in an elevator. It was such a short elevator ride. I thought so much was gonna happen. Like a proposal.

At the very least.

And so I went on our thread afterward, and was telling the story. I dont know which of us changed the thread to Keanu Forever. It just stuck and its hilarious. I have another thread called Cabo Bitches.

Those have been the most helpful: the friendships that Ive had continue to bolster me, and that love and connection has been so fulfilling. The group calls with my family make me cry. I have a very close relationship with my family and I dont just mean my mom and her kidswe do those regularly, and with all the grandkidsbut also with my aunts and cousins and uncles, and my mom and all of her siblings, and all of the cousins I grew up with. It is so special. I not only love my family, I really like them.

And theyre incredibly smart, one of my first cousins is a doctor, and she is in Detroit. Her specialty is OBGYN, but like most doctors with specialties right now, theyre leaning into just COVID 19. My cousin Stephen's wife, Gina, is also a doctor with a specialty in OBGYN and something that I cant pronounce, shes in Atlanta, in a hospital there. My cousin Alaina is a civil rights attorney. And the three of them are actually the ones I did a post on, my two cousins that are doctors and my aunt whos a doctor as well. They all helped me put together the post that I wrote about how this is disproportionately affecting the African American community in terms of mortality rate.

What has been top of mind these days?

That pain is not something that you compare. For some people, boredom and discomfort does fall into other categories, where it really is more than boredom and its more than discomfort. Its a real mental anguish. So I have deep compassion for all this, because I feel like theres such collective trauma were all making sense of with no roadmap. None of us have experienced anything like this before. Its hard to wrap your mind around and your heart around. Its like a sci-fi movie. And it doesnt seem like anyone has any answers. That in and of itself is difficult. The unknown is always difficult, but we have the illusion of some sort of plan. And now, theres not even an illusion of a plan. Were just figuring it out as we go. Its just like, Okay, my god! Whos the parent here?!

With that in mind, how do you go about figuring out what you want to share on social media?

Ill be honest, I have not been on social media as much as I am when Im working. When Im working, social media is such an easy place to kind of scroll through, because of the pace we work at. And I can never really dive into a book or e-mails, or other work because Ive got lines swirling around in my head. Ive been going on to look at my DMs, to post, and I kind of swipe around a little bit, but I havent been intensely connected through social media.

When I do post, I try really hard to research my information and to go to people that are experts and actually know what theyre talking about, to give that information credibility and share accurate information. Share joyful information, share a loving, connected, honest, accurate information. Because I find that theres a lot thatit could be true, but we dont really know, because it hasnt been researched.

Its interesting to me that youre saying youre staying off of social media, because it feels like youre giving people an inside look at your lifewhich youve always done, but in a way, it seems really personal right now.

Its funny, because its hard for me: Ive picked particular places in my home that Im comfortable sharing. Its not that Im a private person, I just have a real sense of what sacred means. And I honor those things with great care. Those things that are sacred to me are not for public consumptionhowever, I have grown to be somebody who enjoys sharing how I hold myself emotionally. And now, some of those things have been really fun to share. I really loved sharing the socks on my hand. People were writing me: You know, you can buy gloves for that. Im like, I know! But I got socks! So why I gotta buy the gloves? I get it, I know I can. But, like, I got the socks. So were good, right? These seem to work just fine. Theyre like a mitten, with no thumbs!

I dont know if you know how many articles were spawned from that Instagram post. There are three pages worth of Google results.

Are you serious?

Yes, people are like, Check out this life hack that Tracee Ellis Ross does for her hands!

People were like, I dont know if you know whats in Bag Balm. I was like, no, I dont know whats in Bag Balm! Am I in trouble? Whats happening? You can use whatever you want, its the socks! Thats the key, the socks, people!

Do you know how much people use your likeness in photos and videos as memes? Like that video of you with the Ulta bag is so widely used as a reaction meme.

That kills me. That shit is hilarious. And I get it, because I do think that to a certain extent, I move like a cartoon character, and I feel things in very big ways and Im an animated, gesture-filled human being. My personality is probably perfect for memes.

One thing I really love about your approach to social media is that youre able to have this, at times, comedic approach while youre talking to your followers, but also maintaining a sensitive message. Im wondering how youre able to balance that.

Someone asked me the other day: Do you think theres a place for comedy in this? I dont even know if comedys the right word. Theres always a place for laughter. Theres always a space for joy. I think that is a revolutionary act, in all honesty. Its a choice thats about perspective and how you look at things. I think I am truly being very mindfulI really am just very aware of all of the different responses and experiences that people are having. I think social medias old use does not match where were at. The crassness of some of the humor at other peoples expense, all of those kinds of things, the glimpse into extravagance and all that, just doesnt match where were at. We do have to be extremely mindful of everybodys vulnerabilities and sensitivities right now, and the fact that everybodys nervous systems are a little bit shot.

I dont know about you, but most everyone I know has gotten a nice big, basket or tunnel of fear just sitting there, waiting, and it takes everything in my power to keep turning my attention somewhere else and to a different narrative. One thats like, What can my hands actually do? What do I actually have control over in my world and in my mind? What am I going to eat today? Who can I call to check in on someone else, particularly when I need to be checked in on and nobody seems to be checking in on me in that moment? How can I take that feeling and turn it around toward somebody else and find a connection there?

Today, it seems the biggest joys I get are deciding what Im gonna make to eat, how Im gonna prepare it for myself, so that when I sit down to eat it, it actually looks beautiful. I have found that my mindful practice of being present with what Im doing when Im doing it, knowing where my hands and my feet are, has been extremely helpful. Allowing myself to let my heart feel the heartbreak and anguish that so many are feeling and not try and push those feelings away but give them space, but not let them be the full story, because that will make anyone go down a rabbit hole. I know weve done a lot of thanking of the first responders and all of those that are doing essential jobs that are keeping us all afloat. But i also feel a real call to continue to remember that although this virus is invisible for the majority of us, for the first responders and the healthcare workers, it is not invisible.

We need people. And I think part of what all of us have been navigating in our own private ways is how do you find comfort for yourself? Where do you go when you are frightened? Without a hug, without the distraction of making a plan to go to dinner, without the ability to hear an impulse inside you and know all of the ways that we used to answer those impulses, What do you do in this? And how do we want to envision what it will be after? What are we making sense of, while still honoring the human experience and the reality of what that is? And it really does highlight the compassion that all of us should have always been dialed up on, surrounding so many different parts of how our society treats people and responds to people.

How did the transition to working from home go?

It was a little bumpy for me, 'cuz Im not going to lie, I am not the most technically savvy human being. When it comes to Zoom, and Blue Jay, and all these other things, Im like, I dont fucking know what Im doing. I thrive in isolation, and I am a person who plays an extrovert in my job, but Im really a bit of an introvert. And I will also admit that I dont spend a lot of time at home. When I started quarantining, I was like, why the fuck is this Internetmy mom told me I should stop using so many curse words, so hold onwhy for goodness sakethere we gois this Internet so slow? I finally got on the phone with the right people at my Internet provider; and that man was so kind. We checked my Internet speed, and he said, Yeah, thats very slow, maam. I dont think your equipment is up to date. Its from 2010. I was like Oh! Goodness me. So the beginning of transitioning to online work was not easy.

But now, I am great. I do all the Blue Jays and Zooms and FaceTimes. Keeping up with the work has actually been very encouraging. It gives me something to look forward to. Its given me an opportunity to continue to use my mind; I have more time to think creatively right now, I have more courage to think creatively. One of the things I had to remind myself, which has also reminded friends of mine, is momentum and the course that we are on, the energetic journey of what we were all doing in our livesif that is a path you enjoyed and were happy about, whether that was you in college and getting a degree, or you on the path to getting married, got halted and shifted during this time, remember that has not stopped. Its just changing. Because there was a real sense of grief and disappointment, that of course you have to temper, because it is not the grief of loss of a human, of somebody you love, but of a way of living, or dreams. Theyre not gone, theres just a transition in how those things are going to happen.

I read an article in which you said youve been listening to David Sedaris audiobooks. Are there any other titles youve been loving?

David Sedaris is wonderful for going to sleep, because I kid you not, I go to sleep laughing. And for some reason, during this pandemic, falling asleep has been very difficult for me. I get tired, and usually cannot get myself to fall asleep until about 1:30 a.m. It seems that is when I am most acutely aware of the collective sadness and trauma thats happening, and its really hard for me to settle my heart and my mind. So David Sedaris has been really wonderful in the evenings. It distracts you in the right way. I can turn off the lights, and just allow that to be what Im hearing, instead of my thoughts.

I usually read multiple books at a time, so Im still in process with Untamed by Glennon Doyle. I started by listening to that as an audio book, but my sister suggested I switch to the actual book, because she said there are so many pearls in it I'd want to underline, highlight, and earmark. I also have not finished The H-Spot by Jill Filipovicits really worthy and its been fantastic. I just finished The Nazi Officers Wife by Edith Hahn Beer, which I enjoyed, and Less by Andrew Sean Grier, which I loved.I am a huge Ann Patchett fan. For anybody who hasnt read Bel Canto, it is a must-read. I have read every single one of her books. An all-time favorite is The Bluest Eye, which is actually read by Toni Morrison and Ruby Dee. It is like going to the theater; theres music, it is literally like going to see a Broadway play, but you get to use your imagination.

What music are you listening to in quarantine?

Okay, Ill be honest: Yo-yo Ma (laughs). He gets me every timelovely for a Sunday afternoon. Theres a great new Frank Ocean song. And I was a huge Fiona Apple gal growing up, and Fiona Apples new album is wonderful. Theres a song called Heavy Balloons that shatters me open. Im always a fan of Drake, and Rihanna. I've gone back to the favoritesI have a Bill Withers essentials album, and thatll get you through any cleaning experience, I can tell you right now. Bill Withers will take you through the bathroom. You will make it through the toilet with Lovely Day going. You will forget what youre doing, and you will absolutely make it to the other side, no problem.

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Picture a teenage girl sitting in a neon lit clinical room, having had her doctor excuse himself to an incoming emergency. Hear the sounds of the medics running back and forth in the corridor outside, while she stares down at grey-chalky stained t-shirt and hands following a rather spectacular vomiting session induced by liquid charcoal, the treatment of choice for patients taking an overdose. Thats quite an image, right? Welcome to my first suicide attempt.

The shame I felt as I heard the medics deal with someone who had not chosen to be in hospital, was equal only to the shame I felt as I saw the distress on my friends and relatives faces as they found out what I had done. This shame only served to drive me back into the hospital at a later date this time, in a less serious physical state, but a severely deteriorated mental state, having called an ambulance myself and told them I was going to kill myself.

Between the ages of 16 and 25 I bounced between therapists, concerned teachers, doctors, psychologists, and two crisis teams. Their combined efforts, along with a few select friends and family, made sure that my suicidal thoughts remained just that. Thoughts.

These dark thoughts, or as I like to refer to them, my doom demons thrive on uncertainty. Given the opportunity, my doom demons feed on worry, and panic, and gradually chip away at my morale until I struggle to see the positive in any moment. Eckhart Tolle wrote in The Power of Now that the thing that brings humans the most pain is holding onto the illusion of control in their life. For me, that spoke volumes. What would happen, if I stopped trying to control what is happening, or what will happen, and instead focussed on how to respond to it. What would happen to my demons?

In 2019, I attended a workshop with a Jack Canfield, and he uttered one simple equation that changed my life. Event plus response equals outcome. You cannot change the event. So the only thing affecting the outcome, will be your response. Change your response, change the outcome. As simple as that. Before I knew it, I was living my life with an entirely new mindset. I chose to take a learning experience from everything that happened to me. I chose to assess my reactions, to see how they affected the outcome, whether positive or negative. I chose to complete a certified course that allowed me to have such a deep understanding of mindset work that Im able to teach it to others. I chose to start accepting that while I could hear my doom demons making noise, I didnt need to feed them.

Skip forward to 2020, in the middle of a global pandemic, and I find myself locked down in Italy, with no idea when life will return to a normal state. My doom demons are rattling the bars of their cages, gnashing their teeth in hunger. They are the loudest they have been in a long time, and who can blame them. Their perfect meal is right outside. A world in conflict, an unsure economy, social media rife with judgment, negativity, worry and misinformation. Contradictory media, lonely isolation, and fear for the health of my family and friends. In the past, this situation would have empowered my doom demons into a state I would certainly struggle to come back to. But Ive learned that my mental strength matters. My doom demons cannot break out of the cages Ive built; using mindfulness, accountability, and most importantly empathy and forgiveness. Its ok that I didnt want to live before. Its ok that I missed opportunities because my mind was in a mess. Its ok that Im scared and worried, and its ok that sometimes I wake up feeling like a superhero and sometimes I wake up feeling like a sofa burrito. Forgiveness has forged the strongest bars. I might be in lockdown, but so are my doom demons.

Life certainly wont return to what it was before and I have no control over what will be. But for the first time in my life, Im alright with that.

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Like many others right now, Selena Gomez is occupying her time with a little help from friends like Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, and the complete cast of Saturday Night Live - virtually, that is. The singer recently shared her list of entertainment recommendations in an earnest Instagram post featuring candid photos of herself cooking. "I shared a few lists in my stories of things I'm watching, listening to and reading to keep me positive and help pass the time," Gomez wrote. "Hope it helps you."

"Hope it helps you."

Gomez's extensive list of movie recommendations includes recent releases like Invisible Man and Uncut Gems, in addition to cult classics like Clueless and Election. Gomez also appears to be filling her feed with hilarious content, as her list of Instagram accounts to follow includes a nostalgic basement-based video store and one that is a near-perfect re-creation of Gomez's own account, except starring a doll in her place. Perhaps the most intriguing recommendation, however, is on the music list, which includes "Snowchild" by The Weeknd, whom Gomez dated for nearly a year in 2017. Hey, maybe she's just relieved to not have been the entire subject of his recently released heartbreak album, After Hours. (That's for a different ex to worry about.) Later, she shared a playlist with even more tunes for Spotify's Listening Together collection, including songs by Taylor Swift, Kacey Musgraves, and Dolly Parton. Browse all of Gomez's suggestions ahead.

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Waking up at the lake is a radically different experience from waking at my home in the Bay Area. Why you might ask? I think it has something to do with perception, a deep listening, the kind of listening that is so absorbing, its as if your life has become a living concerto. You know what I mean? A musical composition if you will, one solo instrument, accompanied by an entire damn orchestra. Its magnificent.

I stagger out of bed with the rising sun, my husband is already up, space he recently occupied still warm, dented, rumpled. I glance in the mirror on the way to the loo and smile. The truth is my hair always looks good at the lake. Its true. No one has bothered to study this phenomenon but I have a suspicion it has something to do with that radically seized perception I was just speaking of. I actually see it differently.

My silhouette is narrower, like a block of cheese lightly grated, Im fully aware this has to do with a warped mirror, but thats beside the point, and admittedly it plays into the deployment of my mood.

When you have an intense contact of love with nature or another human being, like a spark, then you understand that there is no time and that everything is eternal. Paulo Coelho

Im acutely aware of the way my pajamas caress my skin, the crispness of the morning air, the cool tiles beneath my feet, the density of the warm mug in my hand, the aroma of the french roast. My eyes scan the scene spread out before me, as if butter on warm toast, melting into the landscape. January is stark, naked, and brazenly alive. The dormancy of the trees is striking against the lush foliage, a hibernation of sorts, in that everything slows down, goes into a prolonged fast, primitive, emptying, quiet. Im drawn into the alchemy of this primal world as if it were deeply embedded in my soul.

The only thing that is ultimately real about your journey is the step that you are taking at this moment. Thats all there ever is. Eckhart Tolle

The ripples on the water boldly reflect the rays of the sun, smiling, winking, laughing as if a child at play. I notice the way the fog tantalizes the tit of the mountain, erotic, raw, unapologetic. The gentle movement of the clouds migrating ever so slowly across the sky forces me to concede as to the uniqueness of each and every day. I allow my eyes to hitchhike with a flock of pelicans moving west, scanning the irreverent flow of the water below, and then gliding ever so gracefully onto the surface as if a fleet of small seaplanes.

Gratitude is the understanding thatthe underlying gift of life and incarnation as a living, participating human being is a privilege.

David Whyte

I hear Larry say, bring me a cup? I literally have to rip my eyes away from the sumptuous view, as if removing the wax seal from a personal note, the trance is irrevocably broken. I move slowly back into the kitchen, reaching for his favorite mug, filling the vessel with a generous pour of fragrant dark roast.

[This is as far as I got with my post, the weekend at the lake slipped away, we drove back to the Bay Area in silence, back to our jobs, responsibilities, old wounds. I attempt to continue the tale but the mojo is broken, try as I may, I cant recapture the essence, so I allow it to flow in a new direction.]

I love the line from the movie The Way, you dont choose a life, you live it. The film is about pilgrimage, transformation, and spirituality, not necessarily religious, but rooted in the heart. Were currently viewing it in one of my classes. It illustrates the idea of letting go of what we think should happen, including our illusion of control, and living in the present moment, the only place in which we can actually emerge from the colossal womb of life. Osho says intelligence is the capacity to be reborn again and again, to die to the past, and live in the present.

If you are depressed, you are living in the past, if your are anxious, you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present. Lao Tzu

Most people would agree compassion, prudence, kindness, perseverance, courage, wisdom, generosity, discipline, even humor are all important virtues. How we employ these virtues becomes our unique contribution to the world. If we knew just how powerfully our thoughts, words, and actions affected the hearts of those around us, wed reach out and join hands again, and again says Tara Brach.

Sometimes I live as if I have a personal canon, set in stone, and that which lies outside my limited comprehension is simply rejected. Jane Leavy warns trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief. It seems to be the human condition. Birth is suffering, growth is suffering, the seed suffers the earth, the root suffers the rain, the bud suffers its flowering claims, Hermann Hesse. Oh, the injustice of judging others by our own warped compass?

Its mid-January, I might be succumbing to the darkness, frigidity, and barrenness of my surroundings, but sometimes I grow weary of the daily grind. I think thats why waking up at the lake is so incredibly illuminating. Eckhart Tolle reminds us, unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry all forms of fear are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence. For some reason, Im most present when Im at the lake.

Just to be is a blessing. Just to live is holy. Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel

I hand Larry his cup of coffee, in a different room, another home, a divergent environment. Moving towards the window overlooking my beloved patio, I return to my messianic view of life, to the sheer bliss of being part of this present, fragile, transient moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land, there is no other land, there is no other life, but this one says, Henry David Thoreau. Its more than I deserve, more than I can fathom, more than I am able to properly explain. The best we can do is savor the momentous living concerto playing out before us, our only response, a loud and exuberant Bravo!

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Financial planning is about your future. The money aspect focuses on the question, Will you have sufficient funds to secure and sustain the future you envision? Financial life planning embraces the greater complexity of life and relationships, recognizing that finances are only part of a life-centered, holistic and integrated solution encompassing multiple issues.

Consider your life transitions timelines. On paper place a dot with your age, and then extend a line connecting another dot representing your age in 10 years. Extend a second line with another dot representing your age 10 years beyond that, 20 years from now. Do the same thing for loved ones, everyone who depends on you. That may include spouse, children, parents, grandparents, even key employees or partners in a closely held business where business continuity and succession is involved.

Its a startling question. How old will you be in 10 short years? Ten short years beyond that? What challenges are you and those you care for likely to confront? Suddenly you see the future and how quickly time passes.

A life transition is a significant challenge positive or negative, planned or unplanned. The most jarring are those that hit like a bolt out of the blue. Psychotherapist Richard Joelson notes, Most life transitions begin with a string of losses loss of a role, loss of a person, loss of a place, the loss of your sense of where you fit in the world.

To that wed add a major financial loss that compounds the difficulty of whatever else you are coping with. A risk adjusted investment policy combined with overall good money habits and what if? planning is crucial to managing the slings and arrows of life.

Life transitions planning to some extent relates to your age and the ages of those you care for. From your late teens into your early 30s you may be dealing with adulting, growing up, leaving home, adjusting to college or workplace, career decisions, marriage, a new baby. In your 30s and 40s, you may encounter parenting an infant, child, or adolescent; miscarriage or loss of a child; birth of a special needs child. Marital challenges may emerge disagreement, divorce, separation, infidelity. In your 50s, you wake up and realize that in 20 short years youll be in your 70s, and you have major and expensive life events ahead of you. Career and business decisions, education of children, caring for aging parents or grandparents, planning for retirement, defining what retirement means for you and your life partner.

Somewhere north of 60, issues of aging are likely to appear. Late in life divorce, physical or mental decline of self or loved one, remarriage. Disagreements involving retirement, where to live, potential relocation, are nettlesome when spouses are not on the same page. Older folks may be bailing out adult children, raising or subsidizing grandchildren. Business owners, skilled professionals, and other workers with a lifetime of experience may have trouble seeing whats next when it come to retirement planning and/or business succession issues. Older couples may fight over spending, travel, hobbies and passions not shared by the other. Grey divorce, the Silver Splinter, is on the rise.

Not a respecter of age are challenges like death of a spouse or other loved one, accident, serious injury or impairment, military deployments, job loss or career setback.

Notes Atlanta-based Dr. Drew Adelman, staff psychologist, Georgia Tech Counseling Center, other challenging life transitions include questioning lifes meaning and purpose, questioning faith and spirituality, questioning sexual or gender issues. Comprehensive financial life planning often requires a team approach, involving spiritual counselors, medical personnel, psychologists, legal counsel, human capital experts. Talk with your financial planner, but he or she should not stray into areas where they lack expertise or licensing.

You may go through more than one major life transition at the same time. In fact, one circumstance may lead to another. Money troubles make everything worse! Solid spiritual grounding is foundational to mental health and the handling of major challenges, especially those of the jarring or enduring, seemingly never-ending, variety. People of strong faith seem better at coping, crafting solutions, finding ultimate peace.

To successfully complete a life transition, you must leave something behind. Those who cling to what was never really transition. They remain trapped in draining confusion with diminution of financial, mental, and physical health. When faced with a challenge, seek advice. You want to identify the best alternatives to deal with the challenge, plus resources (financial capital and human capital) to power the best alternatives. Begin your quest with the end in mind, clearly defining expectations, what you wish to experience.

Change begets opportunity. Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle counsels, Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. Attitude is more important than facts.

Lewis Walker, CFP, is a financial life planning strategist at Capital Insight Group; 770-441-3553;lewis@lewwalker.com. Securities & advisory services offered through The Strategic Financial Alliance, Inc. (SFA). Lewis is a registered representative and investment adviser representative of SFA, otherwise unaffiliated with Capital Insight Group. Hes a Gallup Certified Clifton Strengths Coach and Certified Exit Planning Advisor.

Lewis Walker, CFP, is a financial life planning strategist at Capital Insight Group; 770-441-3553;lewis@lewwalker.com. Securities & advisory services offered through The Strategic Financial Alliance, Inc. (SFA). Lewis is a registered representative and investment adviser representative of SFA, otherwise unaffiliated with Capital Insight Group. Hes a Gallup Certified Clifton Strengths Coach and Certified Exit Planning Advisor.

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