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Waking up at the lake is a radically different experience from waking at my home in the Bay Area. Why you might ask? I think it has something to do with perception, a deep listening, the kind of listening that is so absorbing, its as if your life has become a living concerto. You know what I mean? A musical composition if you will, one solo instrument, accompanied by an entire damn orchestra. Its magnificent.

I stagger out of bed with the rising sun, my husband is already up, space he recently occupied still warm, dented, rumpled. I glance in the mirror on the way to the loo and smile. The truth is my hair always looks good at the lake. Its true. No one has bothered to study this phenomenon but I have a suspicion it has something to do with that radically seized perception I was just speaking of. I actually see it differently.

My silhouette is narrower, like a block of cheese lightly grated, Im fully aware this has to do with a warped mirror, but thats beside the point, and admittedly it plays into the deployment of my mood.

When you have an intense contact of love with nature or another human being, like a spark, then you understand that there is no time and that everything is eternal. Paulo Coelho

Im acutely aware of the way my pajamas caress my skin, the crispness of the morning air, the cool tiles beneath my feet, the density of the warm mug in my hand, the aroma of the french roast. My eyes scan the scene spread out before me, as if butter on warm toast, melting into the landscape. January is stark, naked, and brazenly alive. The dormancy of the trees is striking against the lush foliage, a hibernation of sorts, in that everything slows down, goes into a prolonged fast, primitive, emptying, quiet. Im drawn into the alchemy of this primal world as if it were deeply embedded in my soul.

The only thing that is ultimately real about your journey is the step that you are taking at this moment. Thats all there ever is. Eckhart Tolle

The ripples on the water boldly reflect the rays of the sun, smiling, winking, laughing as if a child at play. I notice the way the fog tantalizes the tit of the mountain, erotic, raw, unapologetic. The gentle movement of the clouds migrating ever so slowly across the sky forces me to concede as to the uniqueness of each and every day. I allow my eyes to hitchhike with a flock of pelicans moving west, scanning the irreverent flow of the water below, and then gliding ever so gracefully onto the surface as if a fleet of small seaplanes.

Gratitude is the understanding thatthe underlying gift of life and incarnation as a living, participating human being is a privilege.

David Whyte

I hear Larry say, bring me a cup? I literally have to rip my eyes away from the sumptuous view, as if removing the wax seal from a personal note, the trance is irrevocably broken. I move slowly back into the kitchen, reaching for his favorite mug, filling the vessel with a generous pour of fragrant dark roast.

[This is as far as I got with my post, the weekend at the lake slipped away, we drove back to the Bay Area in silence, back to our jobs, responsibilities, old wounds. I attempt to continue the tale but the mojo is broken, try as I may, I cant recapture the essence, so I allow it to flow in a new direction.]

I love the line from the movie The Way, you dont choose a life, you live it. The film is about pilgrimage, transformation, and spirituality, not necessarily religious, but rooted in the heart. Were currently viewing it in one of my classes. It illustrates the idea of letting go of what we think should happen, including our illusion of control, and living in the present moment, the only place in which we can actually emerge from the colossal womb of life. Osho says intelligence is the capacity to be reborn again and again, to die to the past, and live in the present.

If you are depressed, you are living in the past, if your are anxious, you are living in the future, if you are at peace, you are living in the present. Lao Tzu

Most people would agree compassion, prudence, kindness, perseverance, courage, wisdom, generosity, discipline, even humor are all important virtues. How we employ these virtues becomes our unique contribution to the world. If we knew just how powerfully our thoughts, words, and actions affected the hearts of those around us, wed reach out and join hands again, and again says Tara Brach.

Sometimes I live as if I have a personal canon, set in stone, and that which lies outside my limited comprehension is simply rejected. Jane Leavy warns trauma fractures comprehension as a pebble shatters a windshield. The wound at the site of impact spreads across the field of vision, obscuring reality and challenging belief. It seems to be the human condition. Birth is suffering, growth is suffering, the seed suffers the earth, the root suffers the rain, the bud suffers its flowering claims, Hermann Hesse. Oh, the injustice of judging others by our own warped compass?

Its mid-January, I might be succumbing to the darkness, frigidity, and barrenness of my surroundings, but sometimes I grow weary of the daily grind. I think thats why waking up at the lake is so incredibly illuminating. Eckhart Tolle reminds us, unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry all forms of fear are caused by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of non-forgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence. For some reason, Im most present when Im at the lake.

Just to be is a blessing. Just to live is holy. Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel

I hand Larry his cup of coffee, in a different room, another home, a divergent environment. Moving towards the window overlooking my beloved patio, I return to my messianic view of life, to the sheer bliss of being part of this present, fragile, transient moment. Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land, there is no other land, there is no other life, but this one says, Henry David Thoreau. Its more than I deserve, more than I can fathom, more than I am able to properly explain. The best we can do is savor the momentous living concerto playing out before us, our only response, a loud and exuberant Bravo!

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The age wave and life transitions | Investment Coach | – Dunwoody Crier

Posted: March 18, 2020 at 10:45 am

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Financial planning is about your future. The money aspect focuses on the question, Will you have sufficient funds to secure and sustain the future you envision? Financial life planning embraces the greater complexity of life and relationships, recognizing that finances are only part of a life-centered, holistic and integrated solution encompassing multiple issues.

Consider your life transitions timelines. On paper place a dot with your age, and then extend a line connecting another dot representing your age in 10 years. Extend a second line with another dot representing your age 10 years beyond that, 20 years from now. Do the same thing for loved ones, everyone who depends on you. That may include spouse, children, parents, grandparents, even key employees or partners in a closely held business where business continuity and succession is involved.

Its a startling question. How old will you be in 10 short years? Ten short years beyond that? What challenges are you and those you care for likely to confront? Suddenly you see the future and how quickly time passes.

A life transition is a significant challenge positive or negative, planned or unplanned. The most jarring are those that hit like a bolt out of the blue. Psychotherapist Richard Joelson notes, Most life transitions begin with a string of losses loss of a role, loss of a person, loss of a place, the loss of your sense of where you fit in the world.

To that wed add a major financial loss that compounds the difficulty of whatever else you are coping with. A risk adjusted investment policy combined with overall good money habits and what if? planning is crucial to managing the slings and arrows of life.

Life transitions planning to some extent relates to your age and the ages of those you care for. From your late teens into your early 30s you may be dealing with adulting, growing up, leaving home, adjusting to college or workplace, career decisions, marriage, a new baby. In your 30s and 40s, you may encounter parenting an infant, child, or adolescent; miscarriage or loss of a child; birth of a special needs child. Marital challenges may emerge disagreement, divorce, separation, infidelity. In your 50s, you wake up and realize that in 20 short years youll be in your 70s, and you have major and expensive life events ahead of you. Career and business decisions, education of children, caring for aging parents or grandparents, planning for retirement, defining what retirement means for you and your life partner.

Somewhere north of 60, issues of aging are likely to appear. Late in life divorce, physical or mental decline of self or loved one, remarriage. Disagreements involving retirement, where to live, potential relocation, are nettlesome when spouses are not on the same page. Older folks may be bailing out adult children, raising or subsidizing grandchildren. Business owners, skilled professionals, and other workers with a lifetime of experience may have trouble seeing whats next when it come to retirement planning and/or business succession issues. Older couples may fight over spending, travel, hobbies and passions not shared by the other. Grey divorce, the Silver Splinter, is on the rise.

Not a respecter of age are challenges like death of a spouse or other loved one, accident, serious injury or impairment, military deployments, job loss or career setback.

Notes Atlanta-based Dr. Drew Adelman, staff psychologist, Georgia Tech Counseling Center, other challenging life transitions include questioning lifes meaning and purpose, questioning faith and spirituality, questioning sexual or gender issues. Comprehensive financial life planning often requires a team approach, involving spiritual counselors, medical personnel, psychologists, legal counsel, human capital experts. Talk with your financial planner, but he or she should not stray into areas where they lack expertise or licensing.

You may go through more than one major life transition at the same time. In fact, one circumstance may lead to another. Money troubles make everything worse! Solid spiritual grounding is foundational to mental health and the handling of major challenges, especially those of the jarring or enduring, seemingly never-ending, variety. People of strong faith seem better at coping, crafting solutions, finding ultimate peace.

To successfully complete a life transition, you must leave something behind. Those who cling to what was never really transition. They remain trapped in draining confusion with diminution of financial, mental, and physical health. When faced with a challenge, seek advice. You want to identify the best alternatives to deal with the challenge, plus resources (financial capital and human capital) to power the best alternatives. Begin your quest with the end in mind, clearly defining expectations, what you wish to experience.

Change begets opportunity. Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle counsels, Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge. Attitude is more important than facts.

Lewis Walker, CFP, is a financial life planning strategist at Capital Insight Group; 770-441-3553; Securities & advisory services offered through The Strategic Financial Alliance, Inc. (SFA). Lewis is a registered representative and investment adviser representative of SFA, otherwise unaffiliated with Capital Insight Group. Hes a Gallup Certified Clifton Strengths Coach and Certified Exit Planning Advisor.

Lewis Walker, CFP, is a financial life planning strategist at Capital Insight Group; 770-441-3553; Securities & advisory services offered through The Strategic Financial Alliance, Inc. (SFA). Lewis is a registered representative and investment adviser representative of SFA, otherwise unaffiliated with Capital Insight Group. Hes a Gallup Certified Clifton Strengths Coach and Certified Exit Planning Advisor.

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From Rejection to Success – Dr. Zinovia Dushkova Named as First Russian Woman to Renowned Watkins List of ‘100 Most Spiritually Influential Living…

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MOSCOW, March 3, 2020 /PRNewswire/ -- Celebrated Russian author and philosopher Zinovia Dushkova, Ph.D., was recently named as one of the "100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People in 2020" by Watkins Mind Body Spirit magazine. The London-based metaphysical authority publishes the yearly list to distinguish living spiritual teachers. Ranked as number 49 among the Dalai Lama, Pope Francis, Eckhart Tolle, Oprah Winfrey and Deepak Chopra, Dr. Dushkova is the first woman from Russia and the former USSR countries to enter the list.

With a rapidly expanding American readership, Dr. Dushkova is already famed in her native Russia and throughout the post-Soviet countries for a vast body of written work that includes approximately 60 books. She was introduced to American readers with her bestseller, "The Book of Secret Wisdom," despite initial rejections by publishers.

Zinovia Dushkova: A Journey of the Heart

A survivor of domestic violence from both childhood and marriage, Dr. Dushkova became a single mother of two in Soviet Russia. In 1992, she began to realize her goal in life was to become a world healer through love and compassion. Since then, she has travelled extensively around the globe, visiting secret and deeply holy sites in Tibet, Mongolia, Nepal, India and many other countries in both the East and West. Her 60-plus-volume oeuvre resulting from those travels represents a living legacy of light and love, centered in the heart.

Dr. Dushkova is often regarded by many experts as one of the spiritual successors of Helena Blavatsky, the 19th century creator of the Theosophical Society. This tradition influenced many of the greatest minds and personalities of the 20th century, including Mahatma Gandhi, Albert Einstein, Nikola Tesla, Thomas Edison and Elvis Presley. The ultimate goal of Dr. Dushkova's work is to bring humanity toward divine wisdom, through the cultivation of qualities like love and compassion.

According to Dr. Dushkova, humanity currently faces great challenges, since the Solar System is approaching an invisible spiritual sun. Its energies gradually cause global warming on Earth and only loving hearts are able to assimilate them. If human hearts fail to transmute these cosmic energies, this results not only in increasing cardiovascular and cancerous diseases, but also in natural disasters and epidemics, such as the coronavirus COVID-2019 outbreak. To aid people, she created her magnum opus, "The Teaching of the Heart" series an overarching, rich exploration of all the ways by which the human heart can lead humanity to greater love, compassion, joy, connection and spiritual transformation.

Zinovia Dushkova: Self-Publishing Success

Dr. Dushkova's personal story is one of love and perseverance; a theme that she folds into her teachings as a way to explain a deep desire to illuminate love, and bring light to the darkest places of the human psyche. Her titles are often described as "books full of light," while readers are attracted to the unusual depth found in seemingly simplistic expressions of thought. Dr. Dushkova is also a poet, bringing beauty and musicality of language that distinguishes her creations.

Originally rejected by dozens of establishment publishers, Dr. Dushkova has since gone on to great popular success, selling nearly 100,000 copies of her award-winning English titles in multiple formats. She is rapidly gracing bookshelves all across the U.S., the U.K. and Canada, and is lauded as a living spiritual treasure. So far, "The Book of Secret Wisdom," "Parables from Shambhala," "The Secret Book of Dzyan," and the ten books of "The Teaching of the Heart," have been published in English by Radiant Books. Learn more about Dr. Dushkova at:

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Relationships: Portal to the Divine – Healing and Transformation – Beliefnet

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What do relationships mean to us. Valentines Day Weekend is a time to consider our connection to love and what it means to our lives. The love and awareness we have of self is a gateway to how we view other people. Yet, often in close relationships, the desires we have for ourselves and self-awareness, are projected on to our family and beloved. We seek to change others, instead of accepting them unconditionally.

I find this layer very hard to achieve. As much as I am accepting of others, I also wish for them to be making healthy choices for themselves.

Perhaps helpful is to gain perspective. Eckhart Tolle teaches something which may be applied to help in this regard:

What a liberation to realize that the voice in my head is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that.

Past our immediate thoughts and feelings, instinctual reactions and thought-responses, is something unfathomable a spiritual oasis which is innately peaceful, unconditionally loving and giving. It is a helpful skill to connect to this internal universe. That way we will be less inclined in future to be reactive, and more likely to respond with compassion. When the external relational world is cluttered and overly emotional, close your eyes, go within and touch the divine.

When you open your eyes, it will help to see your relationships from a divine perspective. The voice in your head will soften and shift in time to match your soul vibration.Patterns of hurt and reactivity can be overcome with this type of mindfulness.

Its a valuable reminder to enjoy the souls you have chosen to share this human incarnation with. I am sure I am not the only one, who has taken people for granted, or expected things from them. Its hard to avoid a certain level of expectation.

We are often also caught up in emotional arguments that cloud the feelings of love and heartfelt compassion beneath the surface.

Most of us have challenging individuals in our families and perhaps even difficult partners or lovers. There are many underlying reasons for this, and much complexity. It is important to honour the journey of others, and also acknowledge that we have chosen important figures in our lives to share our journey. If we have chosen it, there is a soul purpose for it. It may range from being quite obvious to being almost impossible at this time to understand or accept. This is particularly true of having abusive people as family members or partners.

It is important to both give and receive love. It is important to develop a balance of self-love and service of other people. If we go too far in giving or taking, then we lose this balance.

Some of us fail to balance our needs with the needs of others, being selfless or selfish. We fail to listen to our hearts, so we judge ourselves and others harshly. (quoted from Wisdom of Souls by Michael Newton Institute,p.89)

Why are people in our lives? Especially people we consider difficult?

We attract partners who are like us. Our unresolved issues draw to us others with similar emotional patterns. We have been designed to resolve our issues. Until we do, others will be like mirrors, reflecting our distortions and dysfunctions back to us. A closed heart will meet another closed heart, until we awaken. (quoted from Wisdom of Souls by Michael Newton Institute, p.109)

The goal is awakening, and what higher goal could there be? The people in our lives are not accidental. If we want to change what turns up, we have to look within and change our patterns.

This Valentines Day weekend, will you bless yourself with love and fully embrace and enjoy the experience of being human? Will you sing and dance whilst opening your heart to love? Will you connect with your loved ones and share the sacred blessings of I love you to those who have your heart. My prayer for you is that you will be the love you wish to see in the world.

With All My Love,


Be the love you wish to see in the world David Starlyte

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RuPauls Drag Race UK: The Vivienne reveals the hardest lesson shes ever had to learn – Stylist Magazine

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When did you last lie?

Yesterday, in bed, hungover.

Does the supernatural exist?

Yes. Im a believer.

Are you fatalistic?

Yes. I think everything happens for a reason.

What is your greatest fear?

Failure. Its part of what has made me work so hard.

Animals or babies?

I have to say animals, they create less mess.

What talent do you yearn for?

Celine [Dion]s voice.

Do you like to be complimented?

No, I dont take them well.

Do you have a high pain threshold?

Yes. I love getting tattooed!

What book do you recommend most to others?

The Power Of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle.

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Get insights from the world’s best business books in 15 minutes – Boing Boing

Posted: December 26, 2019 at 10:51 am

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TMI: It's not just applicable to the stuff your best friend posts online about their kidney stones. There's too much information in general, online and everywhere. Too many opinions, facts, strategies and stories - but that doesn't mean some of it isn't worth knowing.

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A Brief Query with Robert Kiyosaki – Think Realty

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What are you reading right now?

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and Cant Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds byNavy Seal David Goggins.

What is your favorite book youve written?

Why A Students Work for C Students. I was a terrible student, but I love to learn. I just didnt want to learn what they were teaching and how they were teaching it. Now, A students work for me!

What do you do for fun?

Make money! Life really can be like Monopoly. Its only a game!

Robert Kiyosaki on Failure

Ive lost hundreds of millions of dollars, but it was the best thing that ever happened to me because I got smarter and came back. You learn by falling, but our schools punish those who fall down. Sometimes I win and sometimes I lose millions, but a real winner is one who gets inspired losing. The average person avoids losing, so they never win. How can you win if youre afraid of losing?

On Job Security

People pay a high price for job security. In prison its called maximum security. I visited a prison in Australia and saw their version of the worst punishment. It was being locked in a room and I thought thats where most employees are. Theyre in maximum security. Its the worst punishment in the world. And unfortunately, thats what most kids come out of school looking for.

On Taxes

How do I make millions and not pay taxes? Invest in real estate! But, you have to understand the tax laws. Tax laws hurt small businesses and those with 401ks. I love passive income that is taxed at zero.

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Masks and mindfulness | Opinion – The Daily Planet

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I am overwhelmed by choice. As a recent college graduate, among other options, I have the opportunity to go to grad school, move for a job, or stick around and work to save. My parents and my girlfriend have their opinions, as do my friends, and I think Im just experiencing FOMO (fear of missing out). How do I know what I want?

S. Maddox

I applaud your ability to see that you have all these opportunities. Having the world laid out before you can be a very empowering and overwhelming feeling. Ive learned similar lessons about choices. Given too many, we are overwhelmed, and not given enough, we think something better is out there. Why do you think most marketing presents good, better and best options?

Aside from your fear of missing out, you probably know what you want; a short-term feeling or idea that youd like to maintain. Do you want to get out of the familiar and travel? Do you need more education to do what youd like to do? You must remember that the people in your life who are giving you their opinion, its not their life to lead. A lot can be said for the sage advice of someone with experience you trust, but youre going to have to walk your own path in order to become who you really are. Nana says, You can loan someone your map, but the way they decide to go is theirs. Dont be afraid to make those first few scary choices, even if the outcome is not exactly what you want. I can guarantee you will learn and grow from walking through it. Some of the dumbest choices Ive ever made taught me a skill that was invaluable to me in the future.

The key is to try to silence the noise and be as present as possible in order to listen to what that little inner voice is saying to you. It may be small, it may be weak, but it is there and you are aware of it. Have you ever heard that we all wear masks? Masks we present to the world to shield who we really are, our facades that allow us to operate in needed roles like parent, partner, leader, cheerleader. Masks that protect us, and help define who we are and our place in the world.

Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle described how the ability to make choices frees us. Choice implies consciousness a high degree of consciousness. Without it, you have no choice. Choice begins the moment you dis-identify from the mind and its conditioned patterns, the moment you become present. Nobody chooses dysfunction, conflict, pain. Nobody chooses insanity. They happen because there is not enough presence in you to dissolve the past, not enough light to dispel the darkness. You are not fully here. You have not quite woken up yet. In the meantime, the conditioned mind is running your life.

In a world of so many opportunities, choices are defining moments that continue to shape the ever-evolving you. Its easy to listen when the world agrees with you. The difficultly lies when youre challenged to go against popular opinion. It can feel taxing to muster up the courage necessary to make the day-to-day choices, much less live out your unique dream. Listen when your inner voice overpowers what everyone else is saying. This is your true self inviting you to be free to claim your individual path.

Some of the most famous and successful people did not begin that way. They each got there step by step, choice by choice. Theres freedom in knowing that while every choice makes change, it is the sum total of our choices that guides us to the present moment and carves the pathway of our lives. If you dont like a choice you made, change it. It you cant change it, change your attitude about it. Dont put off choices you know you need to make.

A simple way to get in tune with yourself is compiling pros and cons list. Draw that line and compare and see how you react. We love horoscopes and advice columns and self-help groups because we have something to react to, we can see parts of ourselves in anothers story. When faced with a choice, ask if it moves you closer to your vision for yourself. Does it increase your joy and your experience? Does it connect you with what you do best, allowing you to grow?

Growing pains are called such for a reason. Through the growth process, its important to feel those periods of transition, however uncomfortable they may be. Learn from the past, but do not define yourself by it. I doubt the butterfly scorns the caterpillar. You dont have to define your whole life story based on one chapter.

Try as best you can to observe the journey with the inner confidence that you are being the best you know how to be. Confidence is not, Will this work out or will they like me? Confidence is, Ill be OK if it doesnt or they dont. It is often said that when a person is figuratively shaken, they will see what spills out, their character and what theyre made of. Its not going to be a wrong choice that you make and trust me, there will be some it will be how you react to it and what lessons you take from it. Its OK to walk up to this challenge just as you are. You cant mess up just by being you.

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I hate cats but I needed a mouser and fast – The Globe and Mail

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Dare we get a cat? My husband asked.

Have you gone completely mad? No way! I hate cats!

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Wed tried everything peppermint oil, food in airtight containers, electronic rodent deterrents, humane catch and release traps. Finally, our tender hearts admitted this dilemma required the brutal snap mouse traps that would make us murderers. With a heavy sigh, we went to the hardware store and stocked up.

Much to our dismay, when we checked the traps the next morning the peanut butter was eaten but the vermin had escaped the spine-crushing-to-death part. Secretly, I was relieved. However, our mouse problem still needed solving.

We marched purposefully into the Humane Society asking for the meanest cat on site. The lady guided us to a cat at the back, in its own separate room with an enter at own risk sign on the door. As we looked through the glass, she explained that it was a stray, age unknown. It was male, a Barn Buddy with Catitude and the $165 adult cat fee was waived. Its long hair was matted, sparse and speckled with dander. It was skinny, mangy and exuded meanness that was palpable. The woman left abruptly, seemingly wanting nothing more to do with this cat.

After some courage-summoning moments, we entered vigilantly. It growled a warning, flicked its tail then hissed as we neared. I kept my distance. Its green eyes fixated on me with slits for pupils. A chill went up my spine, the hairs on the back of my neck stood up, and goosebumps covered my arms. Roy spoke softly to it and moved in close, the fool. Then, there was blood.

Well take him! I said.

I cant believe we got a cat my husband said as we drove home with the pitch-black mini panther, pacing in his tiny kennel prison as we sat in silent disbelief.

Desperate times I finally responded, envisioning the continual reappearing mound of mouse turds behind the piano.

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I declared to all that I would not love it. We were dog people. As a matter of fact, we were quite polarized in our love for dogs versus cats. We would provide room and board, and it would kill mice. That would be the extent of this relationship.

Our pup Lynkin was curious about this creature in the kennel, tail a waggin, big grin and floppy tongued as he peeked in the air holes - until he heard the demonic growl followed by a hiss and a lurch forward. Lynkins tail went down swiftly and he scuttled away, wanting nothing further to do with this stinky, dark beast. From a safe distance, Lynky gave us a wide-eyed glare, as if to say: A cat? Really? Have you gone mad?

Were not going to love it, I reiterated. Lynky seemed to appreciate that.

Its going back I told Roy. At every opportunity the cat, who we named Liam, pummelled poor Lynkin for no reason other than malice. Roy insisted we give it a few more days, reminding me of the mouse turds behind the piano.

Liam would gobble up his food, then run and hide, swatting Lynkin on the way. That is, until Lynkin had enough. With an uncharacteristic snarl, growl and a triple nip, the shocked feline was taken aback by Lynkins shadow self.

Shortly thereafter, we began to notice his metamorphosis. The meanness of spirit transformed into an unpredictable sweetness and adorability that one had to see to believe.

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His fur fluffed up as if hed just flown in from a shampoo and blow dry from a beauty salon in France. He became submissive toward Lynkin, following him around like a shadowy little brother. From then on, they were side by side. Liam started laying on the back of the couch, legs up in the air dead bug style. He slept with us in the family bed. He would come running when called, leaping into our laps where he would lull himself to sleep. How calming it is to have a contented, purring cat resonating near ones vibrations of the heart.

It is amazing what love can do.

I have met several Zen masters," says Eckhart Tolle all of them cats.

Late one night a few weeks in, I awoke to Liam tracking a mouse that ran under the bed. He chased it and after some run around, the mouse found a hiding spot at the base of the lamp on the nightstand. Liam looked in all other directions, then sat under the nightstand. I shook my head, realizing that he would not be holding up his end of the bargain. Yet, wed fallen in love with him. What would we do now?

Boom. In a flash Liams black paw darted up and pierced the mouse with his needle-like claws and dragged it into his lair under the table. I screamed. My scream made my husband scream and then the dog barked at all the commotion.

Courteously, Liam left the room with his prey, sparing us from the gruesome scene that would follow. In the morning, my husband found the gift at the entrance of his office.

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Word got out in the mouse community, and thanks to Liam, the mice dont come around here any more and our family is perfectly squared with love.

Jacqueline Lamb Jackson lives in Edmonton, Alta.

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Become an alchemist. Transmute base metal into gold, suffering into consciousness, disaster into enlightenment.Eckhart Tolle

Bo may know football, but Heather Younger knows adversity. Family adversity. Professional adversity. Life adversity.

In her TEDxColoradoSprings talk, Transforming Adversity into Opportunity, she takes us on an intimate and personal journey filled with failure, doubt, self-reflection, and ultimately triumph through transformation.

It didnt have to be this way, though. Things could have turned out much, much worse. Heres the thing. Even with the circumstances and facts remaining exactly the same, Heather could have slid into resentment and failure. How so?

The adversity she encountered contained specific challenges like familial racism and being laid off, but it doesnt matter if your challenges look and feel different. The approach she reveals that helped her overcome is based on a universal principle that will work for anyone living through challenges, whatever their nature. Heather says it best.

What I learned from that experience is that rather than being a barrier to my success, my adversities and challenges can actually help me achieve great things.Heather Younger, J.D.

Here is my summary of her approach. To get the full nuances, Id recommend watching her TEDx talk or even better, reach out to Heather yourself. Shes very approachable!

Adversity Alchemy, by Heather Younger, J.D.

I know this works.

Not just because Ive met and know Heather, but also because Ive lived this principle in my Aikido training. One day I was doing a technique and attempting to pin a senior instructor when he resisted just a teeny-tiny bit to test me. I stopped in my tracks and he reversed the technique. Thats an F in Aikido.

He asked me,

Why did you stop, Joe? You had me. You just had to keep going.

We did the technique several more times and for more times than Id care to admit, I still gave up as soon as he resisted until I finally got it. The funny thing is I was in a superior position each and every time and would have been able to complete the technique regardless of his resistance.

Why did I fail? Because I gave up. I folded, like a deck of cards at the first sign of resistance or in Heathers lingo, adversity.

All I had to do was reframe the adversity. So instead of thinking, oh no this wont work, (irrational thought) stopping my momentum and losing my advantage, I could have thought, isnt that cute, he thinks he can resist (rational thought) and completed the technique.

We do this in life whether we realize it or not. We often give up and allow adversity to stop us. Heres the thing. There will always be adversity. The technique Heather shares reveals an important principle its not the absence of adversity, its how we approach it that matters.

You may be wondering: Why do we stop? Why do we give up?

Its fear. Not fear of physical danger or death, though your body may not be able to tell the difference. Its the fear of not being enough or not being worthy. Ironically, that is the same fear that ruined my Aikido technique. I had zero fear that my instructor would hurt me. It was a fear that I could not be any good at Aikido.

Im grateful to my good friend Heather for reminding me of this principle of dealing with adversity and sharing her useful, practical technique to succeed because of adversity, instead of in spite of adversity.

P.S. If youd like to read the #LinkedIn article Heather wrote after she was laid off that jump-started her career in employee engagement, you can find it here: How to Leave Employees with Their Dignity After a Layoff

Heather R. Younger, J.D. is the founder and CEO of Customer Fanatix, an organization that helps organizational leaders and their employees find their truth through executive coaching, leadership roundtables, culture team facilitation and scouring employee engagement survey comments.

As a best-selling author, international speaker, focus group facilitator, podcast host, and Forbes Coaches Council coach, she has earned her reputation as The Employee Whisperer. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.

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