Classes dont start until Monday, but Tom Golden, 18, 20G, plays professor as he shows slides to a room of 35 first-year students.

Hes leading a 90-minute sexual misconduct and education training, the first of four sessions he will facilitate during first-year orientation on a Saturday in late August.

Golden is the graduate assistant for Break the Silence, an organization housed in Lehighs Office of Gender Violence Education and Support, which aims to provide students resources and healthy sexual education. Before he took the graduate assistant position, Golden belonged to the group as an undergraduate.

Golden cant remember exactly why he joined Break the Silence, but he does remember the burlesque troupe that came to campus for part of the organizations Five Senses of Consent event. He remembers the sex toys explored in the groups Sex Toys and BDSM programming. He remembers watching Break the Silence modernize its presentations to become more inclusive.

Now, as a graduate assistant, he offers guidance as Break the Silence undergraduates take charge of the programming plans.

Break the Silence doesnt have an executive board leadership flows through a committee-based, fountain model, in which some people will execute specific projects and events and the rest of the group pools its support.

Brooke DeSipio, Break the Silences adviser and the director of Gender Violence Education and Support, said the model allows members to take a step back if they need to while still participating in the organization.

I cant imagine not having a peer support group on campus, DeSipio said. I think a lot of students would not get the help they need.

She said Break the Silence members are trained on sexual misconduct resources and reporting options because their peers will often come to them for help. Break the Silence members are mandated reporters, so they are not a confidential resource.

DeSipio said students are more likely to tell a friend or Break the Silence member about their experiences than they are to tell a faculty member, staff member or official reporting option.

Caralyn Roeper, 21, believes she receives more questions about sexual education and misconduct than she would if she werent involved in Break the Silence.

She also said a few students called her this summer to ask for her help.

(I was called about) whats going on with a relationship, or like, This just happened to one of my friends who is at Lehigh over the summer, which is really cool that you become a resource for people, she said.

Roeper stressed how important it is for students to have a space on campus to talk about sexual assault, relationship abuse and sex education issues.

Sometimes, however, Break the Silence members have to initiate the conversation.

DeSipio said it takes a lot of self-awareness, self-reflection and identity development to be able to lead discussions on campus.

Its not easy to spend your time talking about sexual assault and relationship abuse and sex on campus, she said.

Break the Silence members can succeed by playing their cards correctly.And one of their cards says pornography.

Wascar Ramirez, 20, said first-year students shuffle across the Maginnes Hall rooms during orientation to arrange cards with different potentially toxic behaviors onto the Continuum of Harm. They must decide if behaviors are really bad, kind of bad or not so bad, and then the group discusses the decisions.

Ramirez, who is now in his fifth year as a member of Break the Silence, said many of the cards are written ambiguously to prompt better discussion.

(Pornography), on one hand, can be good because of self release, masturbation, Ramirez said. But on the other hand, a lot of mainstream porn doesnt show any consent, so it has all of those downstream negative effects.

Though Break the Silence can achieve transparency with students with its programming and education, Roeper said sometimes the university isnt as transparent with students. Because it is a business, it could potentially hurt Lehigh to release negative information about its students, faculty and staff, but Roeper thinks sharing reports of sexual harassment and assault doesnt reflect poorly on the university.

Sexual assault is a national issue, so Roeper thinks instances of sexual misconduct reveal more about the larger culture thats been created rather than individual institutions.

Sometimes its definitely discouraging being here and being a member of this organization as a part of Lehigh, she said, But its also reassuring that since our program started, weve made a lot of progress.

Break the Silence has made progress beyond the perimeters of Lehighs campus. Roeper said members advised Moravian College students in developing and running a program similar to Lehighs, because the college didnt have one in place.

Golden said the group has improved its education and outreach. And student reception has improved as a result.

He said this is the first year that a lot of Break the Silence members have had first-year students they trained during orientation approach them days and weeks after the session to chat and thank them.

I had one of my students (from orientation) say to me, I had sex this weekend and I used consent like you said, and she gave me a fist bump, Golden said. And that, like, never happened before.

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