5 Most Attractive Personality Traits (That Have Nothing To Do With Looks) – YourTango

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By Dr. Seth Meyers

When you hear the word attractive, the first thing that probably comes to mind is physical attractiveness. While how a person looks is important to some, it is not the most important characteristic for many others.

Having counseled countless couples and single men and women over the years, I have created a list of personality traits that make a person appealing and attractive to others.

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While you certainly will have at least one or two, the goal is to have many characteristics that make you appealing as a potential partner. If you dont have some of these characteristics now, you can set a goal to change that.

The more attractive personality traits you have, the more likely you will be to find a dating partner who is attractive overall not because of the way they look.

One of the things we all love to talk most about is ourselves! Who doesnt love to spend time with a good listener? Good listeners are human gems, making you feel important and cared about.

If you are a good listener, this trait alone will make you extremely appealing to others. You should take pride in that and trust that you have at least one trait that makes you an appealing date.

When you start dating someone, you quickly see that this individual has a whole set of family, friends, and coworkers. You also realize that this individual has their own set of behaviors, interests, and hobbies that they have spent a lifetime cultivating.

If you are someone who is flexible and open to trying new things, remember that this is a huge plus. After all, there are many men and women who dont want to date to begin with because they say dating feels like an obligation or takes too much work.

If youre someone who is open to new experiences, you actually enjoy the ride just as much as you enjoy arriving at the destination. Flexibility and openness mark an extremely attractive personality trait, which you should pride yourself in if this describes you.

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Simply put, there are all kinds of funny. Still, some people are simply funnier than others. Some men and women have a sense of humor that is so quirky, quick, or clever that you cant help but laugh out loud at some of the things they say.

If you have the kind of humor that makes people truly laugh, you ought to know that you bring with you one of the most attractive characteristics any man or woman could have.

To begin, Im not talking about touch that is necessarily sexual. Im talking about the way you touch a person when youre walking down the street, having dinner with them, or sitting on the couch while watching a movie.

A good friend of mine loves when her husband gently rubs his fingernails up and down her forearm slowly. That type of affection and the willingness to make another person feel good and to connect physically with them in a non-sexual way is a crowd-pleaser for many. Sure, some people dont like to be touched a lot, but most people do.

If youre a very physically affectionate person, you should wear this badge proudly and know that many men or women will want to keep dating you because that characteristic makes them feel good and tended to emotionally and physically.

I always say, like singer Vanessa Williams, I had to save the best for last. Hands down, Ive found that this is the characteristic that men and women value the most in their partner after many years together.

In the beginning, someone may hook you by their appearance, their professional success, or their charm, but those arent the factors that keep a couple glued together years later. Long-term couples come face to face with resentments and challenges, but it helps if the person youre with can take responsibility for their issues or things theyve done that have hurt you.

While immature or insecure men and women get defensive, flip the problem onto their partner, or blame the other person, men and women who self-reflect and have self-awareness will actually hear what you say, sincerely apologize when theyve hurt you, and learn their lesson.

If you are self-aware and can admit your weakness to your date and apologize meaningfully when youre wrong, you ought to know that this characteristic makes you light years more attractive as a potential partner than, say, half the dating pool.

If you have some of these characteristics, that speaks well for your prospects to attract a good partner.

But if you dont have one or more of these characteristics, work on the ones you want to gain.

We are all works in progress, and it is always good to set goals to improve your personality and behavior so that you become the best possible version of yourself.

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Dr. Seth Meyers is a licensed clinical psychologist, author, Psychology Today blogger, and TV guest expert. He practices in Los Angeles and treats a wide range of issues and disorders and specializes in relationships, parenting, and addiction.

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