Effective coaching and mentoring through questions, not answers
Posted: June 15, 2012 at 10:14 pm
Published : Saturday, June 16, 2012 00:00 Article Views : 112 Written by : MOJE RAMOS-AQUINO, FPM
WE have a tendency to spoon-feed our coachee especially when we think we have all the answers. Effective coaching and mentoring asks questions, not provide answers.
Questions are very powerful tools and are very empowering. They work like magic. Here are some benefits of questioning and, from the book Co-Active Coaching (ISBN978-089106198-4) here are some examples:
Provocative questions make us think for ourselves and explore possibilities. Example, what do you want? What is it to have a full rich life? What is it to be powerful? What is it to be always present and punctual? What do you regret or resent? What are you unwilling to change? Where are you slowing down?
Questions encourage us to look at different perspective, different sides of the coin, so to speak. Example, what are possibilities? If you had your choice, what would you do? What are possible solutions? What will happen if you do, and what will happen if you dont? What options can you create?
They enable us to explore and look deeper, wider, intensively, extensively at the focal point. What is here that you want to explore? What part of the situation have you not yet explored? What other angles can you think of? What is just one more possibility? What are your other options?
They motivate, capture, hold and sustain attention and interest of our coachee. What do you need in order to reach your goals? What is the distinction between feeling good and fulfillment? Great goals are compelling; vague goals are forgotten. Which type are your goals? What is it to be undaunted? What is it to speak from and act from the heart? What is it to be tenacious? What is it to be passionate?
They are diagnostic tools to analyze readiness of our coachee and their difficulties in learning and doing the tasks at hand. How do you operate? What is choice? What is it to choose? What is the difference between a wish and a goal? What is present when you are at your best? What is your structure to win?
They help sort, organize, synthesize and evaluate data, information and lessons learned. What works? If you got it, what would you have? How do you know you have reached it? What is your conclusion? Hows this working? How would you describe it? What do you think this all amounts to? How would you summarize the effort so far?
Also, from data and information, questions can help the coachee generalize and find applications for lessons learned. If your life depended on taking actions, what would you do? Where do you go from here? What are your next steps?
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Father’s Day is bittersweet for Ole Miss assistant Dan Werner, single dad molded by football, tragedy
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OXFORD, Miss. There's something about the road that can make a football coach whole. Down each stretch of highway lies hope, whether it's a huge game or a prized recruit or a better job.
Dan Werner knows the road as well as anyone, both as a program-builder and as a part of a BCS championship team. He has been conquering the road all his adult life; he was the son of a football coach. The road is in his blood.
Werner was the quarterbacks coach on the 2001 Miami Hurricanes team that some argue is the best college squad of all time. He was a part of three national-title staffs at Miami, which set him up for other chances, including the biggest chance of all the opportunity to be a head coach.
The road took him to FCS member Northwestern State (La.) early in 2009, where he took an offensive coordinator's job that might have led him to his first head-coaching job in a long career. Maybe, after 25 years, the road could make his career whole.
Then one morning on the road, his phone rang. He picked it up, and he stared in shock.
He had to turn around.
Mississippi offensive coordinator Dan Werner and his son Ian. On that February day three years ago, and on many days afterward, Dan Werner made a choice. It was not the choice a lot of coaches would make. It was not the kind of choice we're used to hearing about from big-time coaches.
It was far different from the choice Bobby Petrino made when he got on a motorcycle with a woman young enough to be his daughter. It was not like the choice Urban Meyer made when he quit his Florida job, then un-quit the next day. It was not like the choice your favorite coach makes when rather than going home, he sleeps on the couch in the office, remote control in his hand.
Werner did not make the kind of choice coaches make when they want to be successful at their jobs. Instead, he made a choice he knew probably would end up costing him the job he always dreamed of.
Dan Werner met Kim Hadder in 1993, at a party in Ruston, La., where he coached at Louisiana Tech. He immediately was impressed. She was a nanny for a new coach, and she knew football. That was going to be crucial if he was going to spend any real time with her.
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Words You Will Never Hear a Life Coach Say
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Man: Hello, Im calling to inquire about your life coaching services. Ive been in corporate America for 18 years and Im ready for a change. I dont like working in an office atmosphere. Back in high school and college I loved to paint, landscapes mostly, and Id like to get back to that.
Life Coach: Well, what are you waiting for? Get yourself an easel, a palette and a brush and set yourself up on Main Street on a nice, sunny day. Quit that job. Put on some old comfy clothes. Get painting!
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And there you have words said by no life coach ever.
Yes, thats right. Im stating it unequivocally.
OK, maybe there is a scenario where it could happen.
Man: Hello, I just won the Lotto. I already paid off my mortgage, have accounts set up for my kids college education, am set for retirement, helped some relatives in need, and have given to some charities near and dear to my heart. Im still working in corporate America, but Im ready for a change. Back in high school and college I loved to paint, landscapes mostly, and Id like to get back to that.
Life Coach: Well, what are you waiting for? Get yourself an easel, a palette and a brush and set yourself up on Main Street. Quit that job. Put on some old clothes. Get painting! Do you really even need me?
Man: Well, I was thinking more along the lines of creating a plan to get back to my art. Maybe learn how I can apply it using new technology.
Life Coach: Ohhhhhhhhhh. Yes, of course. I can help you with that.
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Health fair to be held at Main Street Square
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A health and food fair will be held from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Saturday atMain Street Square.
The event features seminars every half-hour by representatives from Shaklee, Enigma Restaurant, Koko Fit Club, Body by Vi, Black Hills Milk, Wild Idea Buffalo, Rapid City Fire Department, Rapid City Regional Health and Best Little Hair House.
The Rapid City Fire Department will give tutorials on Friends and Family CPR, and Sanano Karate Club will give ongoing demonstrations at their booth.
Enigma Restaurant will serve healthful and organic food.Other businesses and organizations involved include Alternative Health Care Center, Black Hills Arthritis Association, Black Hills Health & Education Center, Black Hills Health & Wellness Center, Carol Whites Personal Fitness Studio, City of Rapid City Solid Waste Division, Downtown Dental, Healthy Happy Strong U, It Works! Global the Ultimate Body Applicator, LadyFit, Life Force International, Main Street Market, Market America, New Freedom Acupuncture & Oriental Medicine, Q Lasers, Regional Health Diabetes Education, Regional Health Weight Management, South Dakota Cattle Women, Twistedsage and YMCA of Rapid City.
Main Street Squares Farmers Market will be open from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m.
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Alerus Retirement Solutions Launches Mobile App for Retirement Plan Participants
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GRAND FORKS, ND--(Marketwire -06/14/12)- Alerus Retirement Solutions, a division of Alerus Financial, N.A., introduces a mobile app, available for both iPhone and Android devices. With the Alerus Retirement Solutions mobile application, retirement plan participants receive fast and secure inquiry access to their account information. The app allows Alerus Retirement Solutions to build a closer relationship with the participants on a day to day basis. Participants can view account activity, current balance by investment and source, rate of return, and recent contribution information. "We are excited to offer this on-the-go solution for our growing population of mobile plan participants," said Brian Overby, president of Alerus Retirement Solutions.
The app gives participants an easy way to see their retirement account at-a-glance where they live, work, and play. They will also receive important personalized alerts about account events regarding contributions, loans, and market changes. The app positions Alerus Retirement Solutions as an industry leader, as Smartphones continue to be the fastest growing channel in the retirement business. Trent Richardson, president of PlanServe Data Systems added, "The mobile app is not only enabling recordkeepers to deliver a more focused account view to their participants, but it is also driving a deeper, personal relationship. Regardless of where the participant is, the ease of access with a simple click will quickly make the mobile app one of the most used channels."
Within the app, participant data is protected by the latest security encryption. The unique approach allows the participant to register and manage their mobile device through their Alerus Retirement Solutions online account. The exclusive free app is available to Alerus plan participants on the App Store and through the Android Market.
To view a demo of the app, visit http://www.alerusretirementsolutions.com/appdemo/
About Alerus Retirement SolutionsAlerus Retirement Solutions is a division of Alerus Financial, N.A., a nationally chartered bank headquartered in North Dakota. Alerus Financial is a multi-billion financial services company serving in the best interest of individuals, families, and businesses since 1933. We offer a broad array of banking and wealth management products, cutting-edge technology, knowledgeable staff, and a customer-focused philosophy.
With over 65 years of experience in the retirement plan industry, Alerus Retirement Solutions currently services over 2,350 retirement plans with nearly 180,000 retirement plan participants in all 50 states. It ranks in the top 40 nationally in assets under administration, annual revenue, retirement plan sponsors, and retirement plan participants.
About PlanServe Data SystemsPlanServe Data Systems is a Birmingham, AL based company that provides products and services for the financial, retirement and healthcare services market. PlanServe's ownership team has 30 plus years experience in developing and supporting software and internet services for the recordkeeping, financial and e-business services market. All PlanServe products are developed on a scalable, e-business framework and are available as a local licensed installation or as Software as a Service (SaaS).
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Retirement savings withdrawal: The 4% rule
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I hear a lot about the 4% rule for withdrawing money from your retirement savings, but nothing about the "unexpecteds" that can create havoc with that plan. Can you explain some of the things that can go wrong if you follow the 4% rule - and suggest ways retirees can protect themselves? -- Cecilia K. Blue Ash, Ohio
The 4% rule is often sometimes presented as a near fail-safe strategy. Just withdraw 4% of your nest egg the first year of retirement, increase that dollar amount each year by the rate of inflation to maintain your purchasing power, and you have 90% assurance that your savings will last at least 30 years.
It all seems so simple and so certain. And it would be, if life unfolded with the predictability of a spreadsheet. Alas, that's not the case. As you note, there are many "unexpecteds" that can cause even the best-laid retirement income plans to go awry.
Let's start with subpar investment returns. The high probability that your savings will last 30 or more years if you stick to the 4% rule hinges on your investments earning a decent rate of return.
Assuming you invest in a diversified portfolio with a reasonable balance of stocks and bonds -- say, 50-50 -- history shows you've got a good shot at getting the returns you'll need. But the stock market can take some frightening dives that may lead to decade-long periods of mediocre returns or worse. And recent research shows downturns may be more common than we used to think.
If you're unlucky enough to experience a large loss or period of paltry gains, especially early in retirement, the odds of your nest egg surviving three decades can easily drop from 90% to 60% or lower.
Related: 'What's a realistic retirement age?'
Paradoxically enough, following the 4% rule could also be problematic if the financial markets thrive. If your investments earn outsize returns and you limit increases in your withdrawals to the inflation rate, you could end up with a big pile of cash late in life.
That might not seem like much of a drawback, particularly for your heirs. But think of it this way: If you're still sitting on a huge nest egg in your dotage, it could mean you lived a lot more more frugally than you actually had to earlier in retirement.
There are plenty of other potential hitches. You may periodically find yourself forced to spend more than the 4% rule dictates in order to meet unforeseen or higher-than-anticipated expenses -- health-care costs only partially covered by Medicare, the roof that had to be replaced after a freak storm, the money you shelled out to help a relative through a financial crisis.
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