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So, what if we are identical. Ayan has always handled stress better than me, said Yuvan, his identical twin. We were 12 years old when our abusive alcoholic father abandoned us. I was completely shattered. With little money and no one to help my mother out, Ayan looked dismayed for about half an hour and slept peacefully all night.

His attitude - mainly his sense of humour revitalised and enlivened our home environment. It helped my mother find the stability that she needed to start anew. I, on the other hand, stayed up the entire night fearing what the future might bring. What would my mother do? How would we survive? Things turned out okay, not splendid, but okay in the end.

A branch of psychology known as Behavioural Genetics studies how both genetics and environment together influence our behaviours, and more recent dynamic models of behaviours have shown us how information can change intentions, which in turn can change the choices we make.

Freedom is limited during a pandemic

In short, the right information gives us power over the choices that we make, and how we adapt to compelling circumstances. When your freedom is limited, you invoke the quote by Reinhold Niebuhr -- Try to change the things that you can, accept the circumstances you cannot change (Covid-19), and have the wisdom to know the difference.

To complicate matters, there is confusion about news versus fake news, there is a sense of urgency to want things to go back to like before and there is deep uncertainty about tomorrow and the future of those we love.

Mental health requires resilience

We are at-risk economically and emotionally - a recipe for the perfect storm. During such times, psychologists look to science for solutions to mitigate the wind damage. Within the scientific literature, the best place to look at is studies that examine children who thrived against all odds and bounced back from their stress or overcome their unfavourable circumstances to become competent and healthy adults. Some of these children suffered poverty, others emotional, physical, sexual abuse or neglect.

What contributed to these success stories? Psychologists speak of a trait called resilience or hardiness or toughness when they refer to these little heroes. This is where science has some good news. Resilience or toughness is not just a personality trait. It can be taught and it can be learnt - at any age. Interventions to create more durable humans are especially important during times like today. Whereas many webinars and articles tell you what to do, they dont give you the rationale. It is this rationale that can bring about change and give meaning to your choices.

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Here are a few interventions to help you stay afloat until we tide through this pandemic along-with the rationales

Dont fall for those visuals that show people functioning at 99% capacity. Keep to the lowest achievable goal that you can manage, given your physical constraints and your limited circumstances, and slowly work your way up.

Exercise is mandatory for mind and body balance

Do it only for 20 minutes, but do it consistently. Every. Single. Day.

Regular movement helps with endorphins. If you are patient, then over time you see how these help with your sleep as well.

Whatever that routine is, stick to it. Routines positively reduce the number of negative thoughts that you have and this directly impacts how you feel. Make sure to allow for the routine to be flexible because life is unpredictable! For starters, if you can follow through 60% of the time, youre doing a good job.

Imagine your worries as helium-filled balloons and watch them fly away

Imagine that your worries are helium filled balloons and watch them fly away from you. They do not entirely disappear, but they are now up in the sky, and much tinier in size in the background rather than in the foreground.

If you feel overwhelmed by loneliness but are not depressed or even anxious, speak to a therapist anyway. They say speaking to a professional helps not just with gaining clarity, but also with feeling less lonely.

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For the next 4 quarters, the collective target for our race is staying afloat. Remind yourself to accept finite disappointment without losing infinite hope.

Its okay to feel disappointed, concerned, annoyed, sad, regretful and frustrated at times. The problem is unhealthy negative emotions like rage, anxiety, anger, depression, shame and I cant stand its. Its a question of degree.

Every time a worrisome thought pops up in your head, tell yourself, I will worry about this only between 4 and 4:15 pm, my worry-time This technique is a classical technique used to manage anxious cognitions. It limits and contains your worries to a specific time, making you more productive for the rest of the day, and helping you sleep better.

Altruism is known to help you feel better.

Self-enhancing humour styles are like a circle of protection that uplift you and help with coping. Reading books or watching uplifting television shows have similar effects. Make sure to get your dose daily.

When Helen Keller was one and a half years old, she lost both her eyesight and her hearing. As someone who couldnt see or hear, she was the first deaf and blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree. She went on to become an author, political activist, and lecturer and of suffering, she said Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it

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