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But as Nietzsche once wrote, In individuals, insanity is rare; but in groups, parties, nations, and epochs, it is the rule.

He described his victory as a miracle yet he quotes Nietzsche as a source for his vision of how Christianity should move forward.

Next time you watch a Yeasayer video on YouTube, consider: the Internet offers us Nietzsche for the people.

I do not want to wage war against what is ugly, wrote Nietzsche.

Nietzsche

Friedrich Wilhelm (fridr vlhlm). 18441900, German philosopher, poet, and critic, noted esp for his concept of the superman and his rejection of traditional Christian values. His chief works are The Birth of Tragedy (1872), Thus Spake Zarathustra (188391), and Beyond Good and Evil (1886)

Derived FormsNietzschean (nitn), noun, adjectiveNietzscheism or Nietzscheanism, noun

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Are you interested in your own personal empowerment or the empowerment of your employees? Employers and employees both have unrealistic perceptions about what empowerment is and how it's supposed to work in real time.

Empowerment is the process of enabling or authorizing an individual to think, behave, take action, and control work and decision-making about their job in autonomous, independent, self-directed ways. It is the state of feeling self-empowered to take control of your destiny.

Empowerment is feeling in control of your work environment and that you have permission to make decisions in the areas you control and are responsible for in your job.

When thinking about empowerment in human relations terms, try to avoid thinking of it as something that one individual does for another. It is one of the problems organizations have experienced with the concept of empowerment. People think that someone, usually the manager, has to bestow empowerment on the people who report to him or her.

Consequently, the reporting staff members wait for the bestowing of empowerment, and the manager asks why people won't act in empowered ways. This bestowing and waiting has led to a general unhappiness, mostly undeserved, with the concept of empowerment in many organizations. Don't let that happen in your organization. Your best success will result from empowered employees taking actionnot waiting for permission.

Think of empowerment, instead, as the process of an individual enabling himself to take action and control work and decision making in autonomous ways. Empowerment comes from the individual.

The organization has the responsibility to create a work environment which helps foster the ability and desire of employees to act in empowered ways. The work organization has the responsibility to remove barriers that limit the ability of staff to act in empowered ways.

Think, too, of empowerment as an employee philosophy and strategy that organizations benefit from adopting. Empowered employees, who are operating within an organization's strategic framework that includes mission and goals increase the productivity and effectiveness of the workplace.

They are enabled to perform their jobs more efficiently and effectively without feeling as if they are waiting for a decision, waiting for direction, and waiting for permission to act. They become more responsible and accountable when self-direction is the norm.

Employee involvement and participative management are often used to mean empowerment. They are not interchangeable. Each describes a different characteristic of an effective workplace.

These are examples of empowerment in action.

The manager of the Human Resources department added weeks to the process of hiring new employees by requiring his supposedly empowered staff members to obtain his signature on every document related to the hiring of a new employee. Consequently, documents sat on his desk in a pile until he had time to review them.

When the time problem was brought to his attention and the fact that is actions impeded empowered behavior, he fostered empowerment by telling employees they no longer needed his signature unless the hire involved extraordinary circumstances or an executive position.

John empowered himself to discuss the career objectives he wished to pursue with his supervisor. He told his supervisor, frankly, that if the opportunities were not available in his current company, he would move on to another company.

Mary took charge of her career by fueling her sense of empowerment when she developed a career path plan, met with her manager to ask for her assistance to achieve it, and set goals for its accomplishment in her performance development plan.

The company's management style involved sharing the goals, sharing each employee's expectations and framework with the employee, and then, getting out of the way while employees were empowered to set goals, accomplish their objectives, and determine how to do their jobs.

The organization operated in a team-based structure in which each development team had the authority and autonomy to determine the features and capabilities of their product. They did this in conjunction with the overall technology leadership and with serious input from the marketing team.

Empowerment is a desirable management and organizational style that enables employees to practice autonomy, control their own jobs, and use their skills and abilities to benefit both their organization and themselves.

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If you dont like something change it; if you cant change it, change the way you think about it.Mary Engelbreit

It has been estimated that the average person has roughly 60,000 individual thoughts every 24 hours. 95 percent of these thoughts are the same they had the previous day, and 80 percent of these repeated thoughts are of a negative/pessimistic nature. Furthermore, many of these pessimistic thoughts are unconscious and habitual, meaning that people have next to no awareness of the impact that these thoughts have over their lives.

What is even more worrisome is that 95 percent of the thoughts that people have form the foundations of the emotions they experience throughout the day. This is significant because our emotions form the foundations of our attitude, and our attitude is what shapes our happiness and success in all areas of life.

Thoughts are biochemical impulses of energy, intelligence, and information that hold magnetic properties. These magnetic properties originate within each cell and are influenced by your peer groups, worldviews, cultural history, media, religion, mythology and as a result of social expectations. All of these elements of life influence and shape the thoughts you have about yourself, about others and about your life and circumstances. Over time, these thoughts evolve from opinions into beliefs and convictions.

Beliefs and convictions are nothing more than a recipe for thoughts that have been locked into place. When you have a belief about something, there is no doubting or wishing or hoping. Things are the way they are and there is no alternate view. You have locked a certain set of thoughts in place to form this belief, and this belief is part of the puzzle that shapes your attitude throughout the day.

Lets break this down another way: Your thoughts are a result of life. You have the thoughts you have, because of how youve been influenced by life. Life includes what is now, what was in the past, and what you expect to happen in the future. As such, your thoughts and the attitudes you have are a result of your peer groups, worldviews, your cultural history, media influences, religious traditions and beliefs, and other social factors. In other words, you have the thoughts you have because youve experienced life in a certain and specific way. Therefore, you are how you are today because of the influences you have allowed into your life into your mind.

Over a lifetime you have chosen to focus on certain things while ignoring other things. There are so many different beliefs, opinions, and perspectives in this world. However, you have only chosen to focus on a few of them. Some of them have been somewhat forced upon you by your peers, parents, teachers, mentors, culture and religious background. However, other things you have chosen to focus on because of your personal preferences and tastes. You have therefore created your current thought-patterns and perspectives through the choices you have made over a lifetime.

Thoughts dont immediately turn into beliefs and/or attitudes. Its a process that takes time. You will, for instance, have an initial thought about something. This thought stimulates various cells in your brain. The more you use this thought through repetition, the more you use those particular cells, and the stronger the connection between those cells becomes. Likewise, the more emotional intensity that goes into a thought, the more the neural highway in the brain strengthens. As such, the easier it is to have that particular thought the next time around. Eventually, the thought becomes a habit and is projected out into the external world as an attitude; which is nothing more than a collection of thoughts, beliefs, opinions, and values.

A thought is never an isolated event. Your brain always tries to make sense of the world by linking present circumstances to past memories. This connection between the past and present forms associations in the brain that help you make better sense of the world. You might, of course, learn something new and different, however, your brain will still attempt to find some relevance, and will, therefore, find a way to connect the new with the old.

How your brain connects the new experiences to the old memories will determine how you make sense of the world. And how you make sense of the world shapes how you think about your world; which builds the foundations of what you believe about your world manifesting in the attitude you project out into the world.

Thoughts are as complex as they are simple. They are simple because of their nature. Its just easy to have a thought, however, its not easy to understand how that thought came to be, or what the consequences of having that thought will be in the future. As such, your thoughts are very complex structures because they are influenced by many different factors.

Consider for a moment one of your thoughts, and ask yourself:

Why did I have this specific thought?

Why now? Why like this? Why not something different?

How did this thought originate?

Where did this thought come from?

What influenced this thought into my life?

How many different factors influenced it?

How far back into my childhood could the origins of this thought be tied to?

How has this thought been influenced by other aspects of my psyche?

Your psyche is made up of many parts that come to form the MasterMind Matrix. As such your thoughts are not only influenced by outside factors but also influenced by the pain and pleasure response, by your beliefs, values, self-concept, meta-programs, psychological rules, mental focus, choices, decisions, actions, physiology, language, etc. Likewise, all of these parts of your behavior and psyche influence your thoughts. In other words, your thoughts are not only influenced by these parts of your psyche, but these parts also influence and shape your thoughts. And TOGETHER everything mentioned here shapes your attitude for better or worse.

Your attitude is in many ways nothing more than a collection of your values, beliefs and the opinions you have about a specific subject. These parts of your psyche are shaped by your thoughts, and your thoughts are shaped by the world you live in, by your past memories, and as a result of the things you have chosen to focus on over a lifetime.

Whatever you give your attention to becomes a priority in your life. Therefore, whatever you decide to focus on has meaning for you, and as a result, these things will shape how you think, what you believe, what you value, and essentially the attitude you will project out into the world.

There are two Universal Laws at play here. The first of these laws is the Law of Concentration, and the second of these laws is the Law of Becoming.

These two Universal Laws are basically saying that your entire life and the attitude you project out into the world is dependent upon what you choose to focus on most of the time. Therefore, if your attitude is poor and you desire to make a change, then you must choose to focus on other things that will help you transform your thoughts; thereby improving your state-of-mind (attitude).

Your attitude is also tied to the references that you have collected over a lifetime.

Every experience you have whether good or bad, painful or pleasurable creates a set of memories. These memories form references that you use to make sense of the world you live in. These references are just experiences that have come about as a result of pain and pleasure in your life. You might, for instance, have experienced a negative situation in the past which brought you painful memories. Or you might have experienced a positive situation in the past which brought you pleasurable memories. These situations/experiences are nothing more but memories today. However, these memories/references have a significant impact on the attitude you project out into the world.

Your brain will naturally connect many painful memories/references together to form an opinion about something. These opinions strengthen over time as more related references are found. And over the long-term, these references come to form your beliefs about this specific situation or area of your life. And consequently, these beliefs form the foundations of the attitude you project out into the world.

Now, its important to note that these memories/references are only opinions. They are only your perspectives and interpretations of the situation. They might have no actual basis in reality. As such, your attitude might be based on false references and distorted memories that you have accepted as the truth. Your negative attitude is therefore based on a lie that you have convinced yourself to believe. And this is influencing how you feel, think and behave in specific situations for better or worse. Whats even worse, is that it influences your expectations of yourself, of others and of the world around you. This, therefore, creates a snowball effect where a negative attitude grows and picks up momentum over time until it destroys your life.

One day after years of living with a negative mental attitude, you might experience some very intense pain that results from the attitude you consistently project out into the world. Its this painful experience that will often provide you with the wake-up call you need to make some changes for the better. But in all honesty, you dont need to wait until this moment arrives. You can start making positive changes today right now!

A Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) is the ability to interpret and reframe your life experiences in a favorable way that is helpful and advantageous in relation to the desired outcomes you would like to achieve. It is the ability to cultivate optimism during difficult times. In other words, its a solution-focused attitude that seeks out answers over complaints.

Cultivating a PMA takes time and practice. Its not something youll immediately get into the habit of doing. Youll need to make some changes, start doing things differently and make some better choices. Its a process that takes some effort, however, it will be effort worth spent as it will help open the door to very different perspectives and a world full of new opportunities.

Lets now take a look at some simple things you can do to help shift how you think about your life and circumstances that will help encourage a PMA.

The words you use to express yourself are emotional triggers that significantly influence your state-of-mind and the attitude you bring forth into every situation. These words either create positive expectations, or they create limiting and negative expectations. It all depends on the words you decide to use.

In order to overcome a negative mental attitude you must transform your language, and transforming your language begins by changing the words you habitually use when in a negative state-of-mind. You can do this in one of two ways:

For instance, you might choose to lower the intensity of the words you use by changing I am feeling angry to I am feeling concerned. Or you might instead choose to put a positive spin on things by changing I am feeling angry to I am kind of curious.

The second choice is the better option, however, this can also be the most difficult option because it forces you to think in a very different way that might significantly go against your habitual tendencies. This can, therefore, create some internal resistance and conflict. If this resistance is very evident in your situation, then you might instead choose the first option, where you lower the intensity of the negative word you are using. This helps you feel somewhat better about the situation but doesnt necessarily conflict with your habitual thinking patterns.

You might initially begin using the first option, where you consciously lower the intensity of the words you are expressing. Then once you begin feeling more comfortable with these words, you can switch to the second option where you replace your limiting words with more empowering words that can be more helpful in your situation. As such, over time you will begin to shift your attitude from a negative to a more positive state-of-mind. However, all this requires conscious effort, and it may be difficult at first, however, with some persistent effort you can successfully make these changes.

When it comes to the language you choose to use, its important that you set positive expectations for yourself. For example, is there any point being angry in this situation? By being angry you are drawing into your attention all the things that make you feel angry, and as a result, you feel even angrier, which ends up creating expectations that there will be more things to feel angry about in the future. Maybe instead of feeling angry, you can feel a little concerned or somewhat curious. Both states-of-mind will dramatically shift how you think about the situation, and this will subsequently create a different set of expectations moving forward. Moreover, your attitude will improve and you will be in a far more advantageous position to make the very best of this situation.

There are a lot of possibilities here. All thats required is that you play around with the words you use. Dont settle on one kind of word. Instead, focus on adding richness and color to your language that will help you shift how you think and interpret the events and circumstances of your life.

The words you use and the thoughts you indulge in influence your physiology. Likewise, your physiology influences the words you choose to use and the thoughts you choose to indulge in. Therefore by making small shifts in your physiology can help you to think different thoughts. And when you think different thoughts, you will choose to use different words to express your opinions and feelings. And as your words change, so does your attitude.

This again will not be easy. You probably have certain ways that you tend to habitually use your body when youre in a bad mood. These habits will not be easy to break and will initially require some conscious effort. In fact, you might need to will your body to move a certain way, to breathe a certain way, or to stand a certain way in order to break your habitual patterns. However, with persistent effort you will make progress, and this is what will help you to shift to a more positive state-of-mind.

Lets go back to the example of feeling angry and turn it into curiosity. Ask yourself:

What would my body look like if I was feeling curious rather than angry?

How would I move?

How would I stand?

How would I sit?

How would I breathe?

How would I position my head?

How would I move my hands?

These questions might seem a little silly at first, however, they are well worth asking because when youre angry you will use your physiology in a very different way compared to when youre feeling curious.

Using your physiology from a state of curiosity will encourage you to think different thoughts, which will likewise transform the words you use to describe your feelings and emotions. And this will go a long way towards helping you cultivate a more positive and empowering mental attitude.

Its human nature to make comparisons. Some people make comparisons to others, while others make comparisons to their best selves. Both are helpful at certain times. For instance, self-to-other comparisons help you gauge where other people are at, and this helps fuel your competitive spirit. However, it can also make you feel inadequate and incapable if you fail to live up to other peoples standards and results. On the other hand, there are self-to-self comparisons. Making these comparisons is helpful because you are competing against your best self.

All this is relevant to attitude because often a poor mental attitude is linked to self-to-self comparisons. We consciously or unconsciously compare ourselves to others in an attempt to make ourselves feel better about ourselves. However, if we are unable to live up to the standards that other people set, then its easy to feel somewhat worthless and inadequate. And its from this place that a negative mental attitude often comes to the surface and manifests in excuses and complaints.

To avoid this scenario, choose instead to only make self-to-self comparisons. Compare yourself to your best self, and leave the self-to-other comparisons to others.

The reason why you have a poor mental attitude is because you have all these unfulfilled expectations that are weighing heavily on your shoulders.

When in a negative state of mind youre either indulging in the past by holding onto grudges, regrets, and anger. Or you are focusing on the future filled with fear, anxiety, and uncertainty. Focusing on the past or future brings you no respite or relief. So whats the point of focusing in this way? Instead, encourage yourself to focus on being more mindful of the present moment.

Within the present moment, there are no regrets, there is no anger, and there is no fear or anxiety. All that exists in the present moment is choice and opportunity. In the present moment, you can only focus on whats before you, right here, right now. And whats before you presents you with an opportunity to choose a better path moving forward. However, in order to find that opportunity in the present moment, you must get out of your head and let go of all your expectations, hurts, fears, anxieties, etc. You will only change by letting these things go, and the best way to do that is to become mindful of the present moment.

Whether you are consciously aware of it or not, you are always asking questions. Some questions are helpful, while others may not be so helpful, and will, therefore, tend to prolong a poor mental attitude.

The great thing about questions is that they help direct your focus and attention to specific things. When for instance you are focusing on the negatives and on whats not working, then you will tend to feel miserable, and that will come across in the attitude you project out into the world. However, when youre focusing on whats working, on what you have, and on what you can control, then your attitude likewise changes. You are no longer feeling regret, disappointment, or complaining about things. You are instead focused on the things that can help you move forward in a more positive way.

Questions will help you direct your focus in exactly this way. However, you will, of course, need to ask yourself the right kinds of questions to help focus your mind on the things that will help encourage a positive mental attitude. Here are some examples of questions you could potentially ask yourself:

Whats great about this?

What opportunities exist here?

How can I grow from this experience?

How can I make myself feel great about this?

How can this be seen in a more positive light?

How must I modify my approach?

By taking the time to genuinely answer these questions you are directing your focus to things that matter most. These things will help you see the situation in a better light, and will put you in a more positive and optimal frame-of-mind. And as your focus changes, your attitude shifts and you subsequently put yourself in a more advantageous position to make the best of every situation and opportunity.

There is a reason why you might have a poor attitude. And that often comes down to the company you keep.

The attitude you consistently project into the world probably very closely resembles the attitude of your peers. Therefore, if their attitude is poor, then your attitude will also be poor. If they always complain, make excuses, blame and focus on problems, then you probably also do this. This, of course, will not be true in all cases. However, for the most part, your five closest peers/friends will often mirror your attitude as much as you mirror their attitude. For this very reason, its absolutely critical that you select the people you choose to hang out with very carefully.

Have a think about some of your closest friends and confidants and ask yourself:

How do these people influence me?

Do I complain about the same things they complain about?

Do I blame others in the same way they blame others?

Do I make similar excuses?

What have these people got me thinking?

What have these people got me saying?

What have these people got me emotionalizing?

How are these people influencing my state-of-mind?

How are they influencing the attitude I project out into the world?

If you take the time to honestly ask yourself these questions, I think you will find that your peers have a greater influence on your attitude then you might have initially imagined for better or worse. If its on the worse side, then you might want to reconsider who you spend most of your time with. Choose people who will inspire and challenge you to view your life and circumstances in a more positive and optimal way. That is in itself one of the quickest ways to transform a poor mental attitude.

When making any changes in your life, you will typically move through four distinct steps:

You initially accept the fact that you cant change. At this stage, you are resistant to change and struggle with the notion that things must change irrespective of how bad things might be. Yes, your attitude might not be great, however, there just isnt enough pain to instigate a change.

The second step is recognizing that there is actually a need for change and that you must start doing things that will help you make positive changes in your life. This is where the pain sets in, and you realize that the consequences of not changing are too costly and hurtful in the long-run.

The third step is the decision you make that a change must be made. You no longer wish to indulge in a poor mental attitude, and instead, you want to be different you want to make a positive change for the better. And its actually in these moments of decision that the seeds of change are planted.

The final step of this process is the affirmation that you are no longer your old self, but rather a different self who has changed for the better. And because you see yourself as this new person, you start making different choices and decisions that are aligned with the thoughts, values, beliefs, and attitudes of this new person.

As you go through this attitude transformation process, you will typically move through each of these steps. This process may take time, however with a little persistent effort, even the most stubborn of habits can be transformed.

When it comes to success in any field of endeavor, it all comes down to the attitude you project out into the world. If your attitude is poor, you will make poor choices, and may very well create unnecessary conflict and problems for yourself. However, when your attitude is coming from an empowering state-of-mind, then this will lead to better decisions that can help you solve problems and take advantage of the opportunities that life presents you with. As such, your attitude forms the bedrock of everything you desire to do, be, have and achieve in life. With a positive mental attitude, the world is your oyster. Without it, the world will just throw mud in your face.

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From the ancient Greek Aphorism know thyself to western psychology, the topic of self-awareness has been studied by philosophers and psychologists for the last century.

In this article, we will cover what self-awareness is, how it can be beneficial in a therapy session, why it is difficult to achieve, and how one can cultivate it.

It is worthwhile to reflect on this overlooked attribute. After all, high levels of self-awareness benefit oneself and ones social relations.

Simply put, self-awareness is an awareness of the self, with the self-being what makes ones identity unique. These unique components include thoughts, experiences, and abilities.

The psychological study of self-awareness can be first traced back to 1972. Psychologists Shelley Duval and Robert Wicklunds developed the theory of self-awareness.

They proposed that:

when we focus our attention on ourselves, we evaluate and compare our current behavior to our internal standards and values. We become self-conscious as objective evaluators of ourselves.

In essence, they consider self-awareness a major mechanism of self-control.

Psychologist Daniel Goleman proposed a popular definition of self-awareness in his best-selling book Emotional Intelligence, as knowing ones internal states, preference, resources, and intuitions.

This definition places more emphasis on the ability to monitor our inner world, our thoughts and emotions as they arise.

In my view, it is important to recognize that self-awareness is not only about what we notice about ourselves but also how we notice and monitor our inner world.

Have you ever held judgment towards yourself regarding the thoughts or experiences you have? If so, then you are not alone, and there it is time to work towards a non-judgemental reflection of yourself.

This isof courseeasier said than done.

If non-judgmental quality is an essential component of self-awareness, how do we work towards that?

As we notice whats happening inside us, we can acknowledge and accept them as the inevitable part of being human, rather than giving ourselves a hard time about it.

Hint: if you have ever said to yourself I should/shouldnt have done it, then you know what I mean. Next time you are judging something you said or did, consider the question:

Is what I experienced also a chance to learn and grow? Have other humans possibly made a similar mistake and learned from it?

Self-awareness goes beyond accumulating knowledge about ourselves: it is also about paying attention to our inner state with a beginners mind and an open heart.

Our mind is extremely skillful at storing information about how we react to a certain event to form a blueprint of our emotional life (source).

Such information often ends up conditioning our mind to react in a certain way as we encounter a similar event in the future.

Self-awareness allows us to be conscious of this conditioning and preconceptions of the mind, which can form the foundation of freeing the mind from it.

Self-awareness is the key cornerstone to emotional intelligence, according to Daniel Goleman.

The ability to monitor our emotions and thoughts from moment to moment is key to understanding ourselves better, being at peace with who we are and proactively managing our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

In addition, self-aware people tend to act consciously (rather than react passively), and tend to be in good psychological health and to have a positive outlook on life. They also have a greater depth of life experience and are more likely to be more compassionate.

An investigation by Sutton (2016) also examined the component parts of self-awareness and their benefits.

This study found that the self-reflection, insight, and mindfulness aspects of self-awareness can lead to benefits such as becoming a more accepting person, while the rumination and mindfulness aspects can lead to emotional burdens.

A number of researches have shown self-awareness as a crucial trait of successful business leaders.

In a study undertaken by Green Peak Partners and Cornell University, 72 executives at public and private companies were studied. They all had revenues from $50 million to $5 billion, and it was found that a high self-awareness score was the strongest predictor of overall success.

Self-awarenessin this studywas the strongest predictor of overall success.

Self-awareness is also crucial for psychotherapists.

Therapists need to be aware of their own biases, values, stereotypical beliefs, and assumptions in order to appropriately serve culturally diverse clients (Oden et al., 2009).

It has also been called a precursor to multicultural competence (Buckley & Foldy, 2010). In other words, self-awareness allows counselors to understand the differences between their lived experiences and their clients lived experiences.

This can help counselors be more nonjudgmental towards their clients, and help them better understand their clients.

If self-awareness is so important, why arent we more self-aware?

The most obvious answer is that most of the time we are simply not there to observe ourselves. In other words, we are not there to pay attention to whats going on inside or around us.

Psychologists Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel T. Gilbert found that almost half of the time we operate on automatic pilot or unconscious of what we are doing or how we feel, as our mind wanders to somewhere else other than here and now.

In addition to the constant mind-wandering, the various cognitive bias also affects our ability to have an accurate understanding of ourselves; we tend to believe narratives that support our already existing sense of self.

For example, if we have a solid belief that we are a high-quality and loyal friend, then we are likely to interpret eventseven ones where perhaps we did make a mistakeas an anomaly of our identity as that loyal friend.

This pre-existing belief about ourselves might influence how we handle the aftermath of, say, forgetting about a lunch date with a friend.

Additionally, confirmation bias can trick us into searching for or interpreting information in a way that confirms our pre-conception of something.

Have you ever had that feeling when youve accepted a job offer, but are still looking for extra assurance that it is the perfect job for you? That is confirmation bias, in its finest.

Furthermore, the lack of the willingness to seek feedback could also work against us if we want to have a more holistic view of ourselves through the eyes of others.

If we want to cultivate our own self-awareness, how do we reconcile that with these psychological tendencies where we only acknowledge certain versions of ourselves?

It is not easy, but there are some options.

What further complicates the picture is the different aspects of the self we relate to in everyday life.

Daniel Kahneman, is a Nobel Prize winner for his contribution to behavioral science.

In his TED talk, Kahneman explains the difference between the experiencing self and the remembering self, and how this affects our decision-making.

He explains how we feel about the experience at the moment and how we remember the experience can be very different and share only 50% correlation.

This difference can have a significant impact on the story we are telling ourselves, the way we relate to self and others, and the decision we make, even though we may not notice the difference most of the time.

For our purposes, let us say that self-awareness consists of being mindful of our identities and lived experiences and how they relate to those of other people.

Self-focused attention consists of simply thinking about ourselves.

For example, self-focused attention might mean that a counselor thinks about how anxious they are about the therapy session, which leads to the client feeling that the counselor is not paying attention to them.

Self-awareness, on the other hand, would mean that the counselor realizes that if they are anxious about the session, it may indicate that the client is anxious about the session, and uses this to try to help the clients anxiety as well as their own.

In other words, as one researcher concludes, self-awareness might be a tool to decrease the negative impact of hindering self-focused attention on counseling self-efficacy (Wei et al., 2017). This studyoffers an important look into how counselors can change this habit, and move towards self-awareness while meeting with clients.

Being self-aware about all aspects of ones thoughts is crucial, rather than being aware of the current emotion one is feeling.

Some of the strategies that therapists can use to stop self-awareness from being distracting include remembering to focus on the client, their needs, and the goals of the counseling session.

Another strategy is using self-awareness as a way to better understand the client, rather than only being self-aware of ones thoughts and appearing distracted.

If you are not a counselor or in the field, there are many more ways to increase self-awareness in your everyday life.

The tremendous benefits of high self-awareness can be felt by anyone who puts time towards it.

Self-awareness, as arguably the most fundamental issue in psychology, from both a developmental and an evolutionary perspective, is a rich and complicated subject.

As human beings, we may never fully understand ourselves, if there is such a destination. But perhaps it is the journey of exploring, understanding and becoming ourselves that makes life worth living.

Whether you want to be more accepting of yourself or more accepting of others, cultivating self-awareness is a good place to start.

Id love to hear from you. Would you say you are a self-aware person? How do you see the role of self-awareness in your professional and personal life?

Please leave a comment below to share your thoughts.

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A collection of quotes by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin on spirituality, joy, faith, love, peace, philosophy, patience, life, trust, wisdom, God and religion.

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Famous As:Philosopher & Jesuit Priest

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin was a renowned French philosopher, palaeontologist and geologist famous for his unique theory of evolution of man. His theory of evolution threw light on a social perspective which stated that man was evolving mentally and socially towards a spiritual unity. He was known to possess a high intellect in various fields including spirituality and science. He taught physics and chemistry in Cairo and studed theology in Hastings. His first notable work was his essay titled La Vie Cosmique (Cosmic Life) which reflected his scientific and philosophical thoughts and further went on to become a Jesuit. He wrote several essays and even gave lectures at the Catholic Institute. During his stay in China, he travelled extensively to conduct geological expeditions which helped him draw a geological map of China. He also wrote many books on spirituality before writing the most notable book of his life titled Le Phenomena Humaine. He was honoured with the Mendel Medal for his significant contributions in the field of Human Palaeontology. Here is a compilation of quotations and sayings which have been extracted from the vast sea of his work. Go through the most notable and motivational quotes and thoughts by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin.

Joy is the infallible sign of the presence of God.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Someday, after mastering the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love, and then, for a second time in the history of the world, man will have discovered fire.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Our duty, as men and women, is to proceed as if limits to our ability did not exist. We are collaborators in creation.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Do not forget that the value and interest of life is not so much to do conspicuous things...as to do ordinary things with the perception of their enormous value.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Matter is spirit moving slowly enough to be seen.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist, and forever will recreate each other.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

It doesn't matter if the water is cold or warm if you're going to have to wade through it anyway.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The future belongs to those who give the next generation reason for hope.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We are not physical beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a physical experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

You have told me, O God, to believe in hell. But you have forbidden me to think...of any man as damned

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Some day, after we have mastered the winds, the waves, the tides and gravity, we shall harness for God the energies of love. Then for the second time in the history of the world, we will have discovered fire.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The most telling and profound way of describing the evolution of the universe would undoubtedly be to trace the evolution of love.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

By means of all created things, without excaption, the divine assails us, penetrates us, and molds us. We imagined it as distant and inaccessible, when in fact we live steeped in its burning layers

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

By virtue of Creation, and still more the Incarnation, nothing here below is profane for those who know how to see.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

God is not remote from us. He is at the point of my pen, my (pick) shovel, my paint brush, my (sewing) needle - and my heart and thoughts.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The whole life lies in the verb seeing.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The universe as we know it is a joint product of the observer and the observed.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

We are one, after all, you and I, together we suffer, together exist and forever will recreate one another.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

He recognized with absolute certainty the empty fragility of even the noblest theorizings as compared with the definitive plenitude of the smallest fact grasped in its total, concrete reality.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Research is the highest form of adoration

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

In the end, only the truth will survive.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

You are not a human being in search of a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being immersed in a human experience.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The most empowering relationships are those in which each partner lifts the other to a higher possession of their own being.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The farther and more deeply we penetrate into matter, by means of increasingly powerful methods, the more we are confounded by the interdependence of its parts.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

In the shadow of death may we not look back to the past, but seek in utter darkness the dawn of God.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The quintessential good and beauty in life is what each has to offer to others valuing the gesture ourselves into confluence with the Word of God.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

The world is round so that friendship may encircle it.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

It is the destiny of things real to destroy those that are artice.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Above all, trust in the slow work of God.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

There is almost a sensual longing for communion with others who have a large vision.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

I am not a human being enjoying a spiritual life, I am a spiritual being enjoying a human life.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

For in the nature of things everything that is faith must rise, and everything that rises must converge.

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

As a result, man is the only successful type which has remained as a single interbreeding group or species, and has not radiated out into a number of biologically separated assemblages

Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

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Step 1: Let go of your Mistaken Identity.What is a Mistaken Identity? A Mistaken Identity comes from myths and mis-labels you might have grown up with:

You have to be better than everyone else.Youre not as good as everyone else.You have to give 100% to everything you do.Good grades lead to success in life.If you dont go to college you wont get anywhere.Forget your (talent or interest)youll never make it (as an artist, musician, firefighter).Its not possible to get what you want.Dont have unrealistic expectations.You have to be a good reader and good writer to get anywhere.Wait your turn.

Im only average.Im a troublemaker.Im the class clown.I ask too many questions.Im a daydreamer.Im lazy.Im too quiet.Im too noisy.

Step 2: Embrace your True Identity. How do you embrace your True Identity? Your True Identity is made up of several aspects that identify your Personal Success Styles. Some of these aspects are your Dispositions, Modalities, Interests, and Talents.

Your Disposition is the aspect that tells the world who you are. A quick way to determine your Disposition is to consider the following and choose the line you identify with the most:

a. Entertain/Move/Dob. Manage/Organize/Planc. Question/Experiment/Inventd. Bond/Talk/Relatee. Wonder/Think/Create

Does one of these make you think, Yes, thats me! I wish I could spend most of the day doing that

Now lets look at Modality. Modality is the aspect that helps you process incoming information in the way that works best for you. Complete this statement: I learn and remember best when I can:

a. see itb. draw itc. discuss itd. hear ite. interact with itf. read ith. write it

Your Talents are those gifts you were born with. Whether or not you are interested in pursuing them, they are things that come easily to you. Make a list of your Talents. Hint: Talents come in all forms so think beyond art, music, and sports. A person could have a talent for gardening, doing puzzles, talking, working with animals, negotiating, re-arranging furniture, telling jokes

And, finally, your Interests are those things that you love to do, things that you are passionate about. An Interest is not necessarily a Talent. It is good to recognize that Interests can be the most motivating factors in your life. Make a list of your Interests.

Your choices in these four areas tell the truth about YOU the REAL YOU! The real you needs to come out for success to happen. Knowing about your True Identity rekindles your spirit and you become ready to move forward by identifying what you want and taking action steps to make those things happen.

Celebrate who you are! Enjoy knowing the truth about you!Step 3: Use your Power TraitsLook at the choices you made in Step 2. These are your Power Traits.

If you chose #a for Disposition, your Power Traits are to entertain, to move, to do. If you chose #c for Modality, your Power Trait is to talk it out when receiving information. Your Talents and Interests are additional Power Traits.

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This article about accomplishment is going to explain the meaning of success and shall answer the question: How to define success in life?In the following, you can find a definition of success and what it means to be successful in life.(For a more detailed explanation of success, have a look at what is success. Also, be sure not to miss: how to measure success and what does success mean to you.Definition of Success:Success (the opposite of failure) is the status of having achieved and accomplished an aim or objective. Being successful means the achievement of desired visions and planned goals. Furthermore, success can be a certain social status that describes a prosperous person that could also have gained fame for its favorable outcome. The dictionary describes success as the following: attaining wealth, prosperity and/or fame.

The only person that can answer the question above is you. I am neither able nor willing to prescribe the ultimate definition of success, as this is not possible. Every person is thinking differently about being prosperous in life and is defining success in another way, so there cant exist a definition that is suitable for all. It is very important that you know exactly how to define success in life! Make yourself aware what accomplishment, success, and prosperity in general means to you in your life. Some might define success as having luxurious cars and a huge mansion, whereas others consider a life full of joy and happiness with their family as the true meaning of success. Once you have figured out what is important for you personally you are able to focus on your visions and goals.

One of the most important key steps to achieving success in life is to know the meaning of success for your personal life. The true meaning of success goes far beyond the common definitions of success, such as having a lot of money, being wealthy, having a lot of tangibles and earned degrees. Quite the opposite: true success in life cannot be measured with the above-named factors, but instead with the amount of people that are able to live a better and more advanced life because of what you created. This is the meaning of success. Not the trophies people are collecting in their lives. Media and society let us often conclude that living a successful life means to be extraordinarily wealthy and have a lot of tangibles. But the meaning of success is to live a happy life and to make this world a better place for everyone.

The opposite of success is failureas it means to fail while trying to achieve aims or objectives. Besides this regular definition of failure, it also can be said that even wealthy and successful persons fail in their lives. Just think about the rich and famous and all their scandals, addictions and suicides. All of them were extraordinary persons but a lot of them were also extremely unhappy with their lives and were not able to see the meaning of success. Wealth cannot be defined with money, but instead with values in your life that make you a happy person, such as friendship, relationships, and your family.

Accomplishment is often associated with success, but it is not the same. Accomplishment refers to the results we desire when we attempt to reach specific goals. Basically it is the results that we plan or expect to occur. Success is the positive consequence or outcome of an achieved accomplishment.

Accomplishment can be seen as the process to become successful and with every accomplished goal you take a step towards prosperity and a life full of success.

In the following, I have found some very inspiring and motivating quotes that shall accompany you on your journey to achieve happiness.

Action is the foundational key to all success. ~ Pablo Picasso

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other. ~ Abraham Lincoln

Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure. ~ George Edward Woodberry

Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment. ~ Jim Rohn

Keep in mind the meaning of success and always try to remember how to define success in life, so that you will be able to live a life full of happiness and joy.

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Alan Watts Quotes on Everyday power Blog! No this is the not the entire 3 hour lectureall of which I lovethese are just the quotes! Enjoy!

These Alan Watts quotes were taken from his writing, lectures and notes.

Watts was a world-renowned author, speaker, and philosopher, wellknown for interpreting the beliefs of the East with the way we live in the West.

Alan wrote over 25 books and is best known for his bestselling classic, The Way to Zen.

These Alan Watts quotes represent some of his most important philosophies regarding living a successful, happy life. We recommend analyzing these quotes and absorbing their wisdom.

We recommend viewing some of his speeches and reading his books.

Simply type in Alan Watts Youtube in Google or Alan Watts books. He bridged the east and the west by informing people about some of the Easts best philosophies regarding living and has helped thousands of people improve the quality of their life.

When you read Alan Watts quotes, watch his videos or read his books you will be inspired by his views on essential truths about life.

For me, its so powerful how his work with so many ancient texts is still so relevant to todays modern life. Whether youre a teacher, lawyer, secretary or entrepreneur; we can benefit from the wise and powerful words of Alan Watts!

1.) Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone. Alan Watts

Sometimes we just have to let time do its thing. Sometimes the best way to solve a problem is to leave it alone and not put any energy into it.

2.) Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth. Alan Watts

Fire cannot burn fire. Water cannot get itself wet. The thing cannot define the thing. It will always be extremely difficult for us to define ourselves, since we are always changing, learning, experiencing and growing.

3.) What I am really saying is that you dont need to do anything, because if you see yourself in the correct way, you are all as much extraordinary phenomenon of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy. You are all just like that, and there is nothing wrong with you at all. Alan Watts

All the systems of nature work perfectly. Nothing rushed, nothing judgedbut yet, it all works perfectly. Every single time. You are nature and you work perfectly!

4.) We seldom realize, for example, that our most private thoughts and emotions are not actually our own. For we think in terms of languages and images which we did not invent, but which were given to us by our society. Alan Watts

Many of our thoughts, habits and behaviors arepassed down from our family, society and culture. Before we take ownership of certain traits and thoughts, lets be mindful of what is really ours.

5.) But Ill tell you what hermits realize. If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, youll come to understand that youre connected with everything. Alan Watts

When we turn off the TV, cell phone and other distractions; we can see, feel and hear all the natural life around us. We are a part of that life. Its what we were born into.

6.) If you say that getting the money is the most important thing, youll spend your life completely wasting your time. Youll be doing things you dont like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you dont like doing, which is stupid. Alan Watts

Dont be afraid to hop off the hamster wheel. If you love what you do and you earn a living with it you are living the dream! If you hate your job and are just in it for the money, it might be time to reevaluate how you spend 40-60 hours of your life a week.

7.) To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you dont grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float. Alan Watts

Having faith doesnt mean having control. Having faith means letting go and still believing it will all work out!

8.) Philosophy is mans expression of curiosity about everything and his attempt to make sense of the world primarily through his intellect. Alan Watts

Without a guiding belief of how things work, it becomes difficult to put meaning to things. The meaning we put to things is much more important than the thing itself.

9.) This is the real secret of life to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play. Alan Watts

When we engage deeply in our work, it is no longer work. When we have a singular focus on the present everything is alive, everything is fun.

10.) The menu is not the meal. Alan Watts

Weve all been to restaurants that have an outstanding menu and below average food. Talk is cheap. Dont let your life fall into that trap!

11.) The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance. Alan Watts

Stop trying to figure change out and just go with it! See where it takes you.

12.) You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing. Alan Watts

I love this one. We are all a part of something much bigger than ourselves. Lets live accordingly!

13.) The more a thing tends to be permanent, the more it tends to be lifeless. Alan Watts

Life is constant change. Life is full of ups and downs. Life is always moving. Anything else is dead.

14.) Try to imagine what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up now try to imagine what it was like to wake up having never gone to sleep. Alan Watts

I really love this one, too! What would life be like if we were asleep, unconscious and a money chasing zombie the whole time? Now, what would life be like, to live consciously, awakeand stay that way!

15.) Things are as they are. Looking out into the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations. Alan Watts

Stop trying to label and judge. Peace is when we are able to accept (and find the beauty in) things the way they are.

16.) A scholar tries to learn something everyday; a student of Buddhism tries to unlearn something daily. Alan Watts

The way of Buddha is to let go.

17.) Problems that remain persistently insoluble should always be suspected as questions asked in the wrong way. Alan Watts

The better the question, the better the answer.

18.) When we attempt to exercise power or control over someone else, we cannot avoid giving that person the very same power or control over us. Alan Watts

When we give someone all that time and energy, we also give them our power.

19.) But the attitude of faith is to let go, and become open to truth, whatever it might turn out to be. Alan Watts

Faith = the art of letting go.

20.) No work or love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart, just as no valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now. Alan Watts

Everything we want to do right, needs to come from a place of good intentions and close attention to the present.

21.) So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.Alan Watts

We can only love ourselves for who we are, when we love ourselves for who we are not.

22.) Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command. Alan Watts

23.) Love is not something that is a sort of rare commodity, everybody has it. Alan Watts

24.) Everyone has love, but it can only come out when he is convinced of the impossibility and the frustration of trying to love himself. Alan Watts

25.) Everything that happens, everything that I have ever done, everything that anybody else have ever done is part of a harmonious design, that there is no error at all. Alan Watts

26.) You can only be on the in in relation to something that is out. Alan Watts

27.) The positive cannot exist without the negative. Alan Watts

28.) We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain. Alan Watts

29.) We notice only what we think noteworthy, and therefore our visions highly selective. Alan Watts

30.) Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun. Alan W. Watts

31.) You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself. Alan W. Watts

32.) Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth. Alan Watts

33.)To be free from convention is not to spurn it but not to be deceived by it. Alan Watts

34.)I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is. Alan Watts

35.)The problem is to overcome the ingrained disbelief in the power of winning nature by love, in the gentle (ju) way (do) of turning with the skid, of controlling ourselves by cooperating with ourselves. Alan Watts

36.)The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves. Alan W. Watts

37.) Every intelligent individual wants to know what makes him tick, and yet is at once fascinated and frustrated by the fact that oneself is the most difficult of all things to know. Alan W. Watts

38.) What you are basically, deep, deep down, far, far in, is simply the fabric and structure of existence itself. Alan Watts

39.)Much of the secret of life consists in knowing how to laugh, and also how to breathe.-Alan W. Watts

40.) Words can be communicative only between those who share similar experiences. Alan W. Watts

41.)If you cannot trust yourself, you cannot even trust your mistrust of yourself so that without this underlying trust in the whole system of nature you are simply paralyzed. Alan W. Watts

42.) How is it possible that a being with such sensitive jewels as the eyes, such enchanted musical instruments as the ears, and such fabulous arabesque of nerves as the brain can experience itself anything less than a god. Alan W. Watts

43.) Technology is destructive only in the hands of people who do not realize that they are one and the same process as the universe. Alan W. Watts

44.) In the more intimate sphere of personal life, the problem is the pain of trying to avoid suffering and the fear of trying not to be afraid. Alan W. Watts

45.) Our pleasures are not material pleasures, but symbols of pleasure attractively packaged but inferior in content. Alan W. Watts

46.) People who exude love are apt to give things away. They are in every way like rivers; they stream. And so when they collect possessions and things they like, they are apt to give them to other people. Because, have you ever noticed that when you start giving things away, you keep getting more? Alan W. Watts

47.) Your soul is not in your body; your body is in your soul. Alan W. Watts

48.) Meditation is the discovery that the point of life is always arrived at in the immediate moment. Alan Watts

49.) We do not come into this world; we come out of it, as leaves from a tree. As the ocean waves, the universe peoples. Every individual is an expression of the whole realm of nature, a unique action of the total universe. Alan W. Watts

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The definition of a life coach is a professional who helps you reach a goal or make a change in your life. They help you to get out of your head and start taking action in the areas of your life that you wish to change. Your online life coach guides you through the process by asking questions that help you evaluate and decide which steps to take in order to reach your goal or make an important change. Then they play the important roles of motivator, strategist and accountability partner. Their goal is to help you reach your goal in the most efficient, effective and rewarding way possible. When you find a life coach, youll learn that they are more than just a counselor or consultant, they step you through the achievement process from the beginning to the end, from the planning stage all the way through the execution stages.

A life coach is a source of motivation and inspiration that gives you the push you need to reach your full potential. You might hire a life coach for similar reasons that you would hire a personal trainer for. You may already be fit, but have specific goals that need more guidance and pushing to in order to accomplish them, or maybe you are overweight or feeling sluggish and know you need motivation and encouragement from outside of yourself to make a significant change.

Life coaches are like personal trainers for your life goals. They have the professional training and mindset that is needed to coach you towards your dream life. They are with you every step of the way, helping you find ways to stay on track and motivated to accomplish those goals and so much more.

Effective strategizing is something a life coach is really good at helping you with. One of the first things they do when they meet with you is to ask specific questions about what you want to accomplish and help re-focus your thinking to make sure youre going about it in an effective and meaningful way.

Part of what a life coach does is help you reach your goals quicker and with less effort. Efficiency is key to keeping momentum up and creating lasting changes. If youre feeling lost in life and want to know how to find yourself again, a life coach can help you get clarity and certainty to find yourself again.

A life coach is someone who will keep you accountable for reaching your goals and making positive changes. They maintain contact and make sure to check in with you throughout the process to make sure you are progressing and keeping your momentum up.

You may tend to rely on friends and family to keep you accountable for what youre trying to do but this can often be a strain on those relationships, or people simply let you down because they just dont know how to be an accountability partner. A life coach will not just let your dream fizzle without saying anything about it. They will hold you accountable to what you said you will do, and because of that you will be more motivated to keep progressing toward your goal in order to show them what you have accomplished.

Ultimately, a life coach will hold you accountable to reaching your personal and professional life goals. They will be there with you every step of the way to help you with strategy as well as encourage and motivate you.A life coach will help you through the road blocks along the way, give you the push you need when youre stuck in a rut, cheer for you when you meet your goals and then challenge you to get out there and conquer even more goals.

Identifying your goals is one of the hardest things you do when youre trying to make a change and get started on something new. A life coach is great at helping you interpret your dreams and ideas, and organize them into tangible goals. In a way, they help you to connect what your head is saying and what your heart is saying to find some agreement between the two that points toward your passions.

Identifying, redirecting and managing goals to make them more realistic are what life coaches do best. You may have an idea of what you want but are having a hard time making it into a solid goal that you can work toward. Or you may think you have a solid goal but then you begin to realize that it isnt what you want or it is less doable than you thought. This is where a life coach comes in and helps you reevaluate those ideas and goals in order to turn them into smart goals that encourage real lifestyle change and forward motion.

A life coach helps you to accomplish your goals, make new changes, and live your dreams. A coach helps you get from where you are in your life now, to where you want to go. In other words, their job is to help you get from Point A to Point B in your life, whatever that may be for you.Your coach is someone who supports you, motivates you, and holds you accountable for achieving your vision for yourself. Whatever it is that you want in your life, they will help you get there.

A life coach helps you to move your life forward and to find meaning, fulfillment, success, well-being and happiness. They can help you to pinpoint the blocks or obstacles that are making you feel stuck and help you to move through them.

They may also guide you through a life transition, such as finding a new career, or looking to start a new relationship. You might call them a change facilitator or a courage catalyst.

You may be searching for validation and approval before you truly feel justified in taking that big first step towards following your dreams or reaching your goals. The advice and feedback from family and friends can be helpful but it isnt professional, and rarely is it unbiased. A life coach is someone who is separate from your personal life and can truly look at your ideas and goals objectively, and therefore they are much more capable of giving you the right validation that you need to get started on making your big move.

When you seek out a life coach, it usually means you need help making a decision. The decision might be which goal to prioritize, what step to take first, or to find out if you should even pursue that goal in the first place.

One of the best things that life coaches do is to equip you with methods and tactics that will help you make the right decisions for yourself and your future. They walk you through these processes regarding whatever you are working towards, and eventually you will start developing that problem solving mindset that they are working on with you. This mindset will start to work its way into your everyday life and change how you make decisions on a daily basis because it simply makes sense.

What Does a Life Coach NotDo?

Coaches usually dont give advice or tell you what to do.They try to help you find what feels right for you by helping you reveal the answers to yourself through discussion, suggestions, brainstorming and reflection.

It is understandable that you may be wondering what the difference is between a life coach and a therapist, but there are quite a few key distinctions that separate the two. Mainly, life coaches do not treat issues like depression, anxiety, or mental illnesses. Its really important to realize that when you sign up for life coaching, you will not be getting a therapist.

A life coach will focus mostly on looking toward your future, rather than dealing primarily with your past.While they may offer you suggestions, new ideas or action steps, they are not advice-givers. Instead, they listen to you and ask you the right questions to help you find your path, your truth, and your answers. Then they help you to align your life with who you are and what you want.

If you come into a life coaching session without having resolved, or at least started to deal with a past issue, it is likely that the life coach will refer you to a therapist or request that you look into this issue more. Life coaches can help you deal with mental blocks but many past issues are beyond their realm of expertise.

Another key difference between life coaches and therapists is their focus. A therapist tends to be more focused on a certain problem you are dealing with and what got you there in the first place. This is why many people go to therapy: to solve a problem or work through an issue.

A life coach on the other hand, is going to be more focused on solutions that get you from point A to point B. You should sign up for life coaching if you want to figure out how to get to where you want to be in life. Although your coach will help you deal with problems along the way, the focus of the coaching sessions will be on finding new ways of acting and thinking that will help you reach your goal.

In fact, the effectiveness of solution-focused approaches to accomplishing goals has been proven to get you closer to those goals, faster.

Among other things, you cannot expect a life coach to be a consultant, athletic coach or best friend. Although life coaches are someone you consult about strategies and goals, they are life specialists not specific specialists like a business consultant or an athletic trainer. They may specialize in certain areas that benefit your performance in these areas, but they are helping you reach your goals, not giving you data on how to grow your business, or how often you need to eat to reach your weight goals.

Life coaches may also seem like a friend at times because they are encouraging, inspiring and fully invested in helping you reach your goals, but this does not make them a friend nor does it replace the importance of having friends.Your life coach may be demanding and hard on you sometimes because it is a goal focused relationship and when you succeed, they succeed.

Simply put, the people who hire life coaches are people that want more. They are people that desire growth in their personal or professional lives (possibly both), and they want that growth to come faster or easier. Anyone in any walk of life can hire a life coach for almost anything they want to improve upon in their lives.

You will find that many businesses have begun giving their employees access to life coaching to help them excel in their professional lives and careers. There are also many very successful business owners, CEOs, and professionals that hire a life coach to help them set goals and stay accountable so that they are able to reach that next level of productivity, efficiency or success.

Many people have begun turning to life coaches to assist them in their personal lives as well. These people can be anyone from students professionals to stay at home moms. Almost everyone has personal goals they want to meet and often, they just need the push that comes with the wisdom and encouragement from a life coach.

In general, people who hire a life coach tend to be people that want the following:

There has been quite a big surge in the popularity of life coaching both in the professional world and in peoples personal lives as well. A simple reason for this is the mere fact that as humans we tend to get stuck in certain places in our lives whether it is due to comfort, fear, ignorance or something else. We all tend to need a push and some guidance to get us moving and heading in the right direction again, and this is exactly what life coaching does.

Life coaching is a very versatile field because there are coaches that can help people and businesses with a wide variety of things. Many coaches specialize in certain areas which can be helpful when youre trying to reach certain goals, but most coaches are trained to help you help yourself by using methods and tactics that work in all kinds of situations, and toward many different purposes.

Where there is a lack of focus and direction in the workplace or in your personal life, a life coach is really good at tackling that problem and helping you re-think and re-evaluate where you are heading. This is a major asset to companies that need motivated and skilled workers because it helps to encourage employees to reach their goals within the company which benefits everybody.

Many companies and individuals have to face a lack of motivation in the workplace which translates into low productivity. Life coaching has been proven to improve work performance by 70%. It is also shown to improve other important factors such as: self-confidence, relationships, communication skills, life/work balance, team effectiveness, time management and more.

You can definitely learn how to reach your goals on your own and maybe you already know how. There are many top performers in the workplace and in life that still hire life coaches. Why is that? Because they want to be more efficient in how they tackle their life goals. Motivated and unmotivated people alike can benefit from the efficiency and expert direction that a life coach can bring to their lives.

Studies have been done on how effective life coaching is and some are based on ROI, some are based on the satisfaction of the client and their willingness to return. Both types of studies have proven the effectiveness of life coaching. Approximately 86% of the companies studied said that they at least made back what they invested in using life and professional coaches. 99% of the companies and individuals who used life coaching were at least satisfied with the experience and 96% said that they would use a life coach again.

Initially and throughout the coaching process, coaches will use an exploratory approach to help you uncover what it is that you want, what it is that is blocking you, as well as why and how youre going about achieving your goals. To help you find your purpose or path in life, as well as your ideal career, coaches may use personality tests or assessments to help you uncover your personality traits, strengths, and alignments.

Offering new perspectives and different ways of looking at a situation to reinterpret the current situation in a new way allows you to make dramatic discoveries in where and why you feel stuck. By exploring how you got stuck and whats behind your frustration, coaches help you to first identify the deeper causes beneath your situation. By guiding you with new approaches and powerful exercises, coaches are able to offer new tools and techniques to help you achieve your goals and find solutions.

By having a life coach echo back what you are saying, you become more mindful of your current belief system and perspective on a situation. Mindful awareness of your current way of thinking sets the stage for adopting new ways of understanding, and new ways of conquering your goals.

By listening without judgment and bringing this awareness to your current life issues, you can see those issues in a whole new light. As a fish doesnt recognize the water that its swimming in, sometimes we too dont recognize the deeper beliefs and assumptions were living under. By offering new ways to look at your situation and revealing new meanings behind it, your coach will often help you find relief and new beginnings in where you currently stand in life, and in relation to your goals.

A big part of the life coaching process is finding out where you are now, where you want to go in life, and finding the best process of getting you there.

A coach helps you to take action in places where youre feeling frozen or stuck. It can be fear or anxiety, uncertainty or stress. Sometimes you just feel lost, and a coach will help you get re-oriented with your goals by helping you to find the right direction to take.

By asking you deep and meaningful questions, a life coach can help you find a vision for yourself and turn it into reality. By doing this and guiding you through the necessary changes and hurdles, they help you reach your potential and find your purpose.

Some people confuse their coach for a friend who is just there to cheer them on, but its best to look at a coach as more of an advocate than a friend. Yes, they are there to encourage and support you, but more importantly, they are there to keep you moving in the right direction. Dont expect them to start applauding when you dont do what youre supposed to do. They are there to push you, challenge you and make sure you extend yourself beyond where you are now.

You can expect a life coach to hold you accountable for doing whats necessary in order for you to make the changes you desire. By having someone make sure you take responsibility, you have to face the excuses that you keep telling yourself and thereby realize that you really do have the ability to make the changes that you need to make.

During the time that you are investing in life coaching, you should be consistently taking action steps in your life toward reaching your goals. Your life coach will keep you motivated by making sure you have a clear purpose, direction, and more importantly that you keep making steady progress. The different techniques and methods they use that help you find the right goal as well as to stay on track will help create the rewards of achievement that you need to keep going. The life coach is directly invested in your success so you can expect to be motivated and mentally fueled up to take on lifes challenges.

Coaches use a variety of different techniques, methods, and processes to help you reach your goals. There are countless different training and educational programs that coaches learn from, so there are many ways they can use to help you succeed.

The first meeting with a life coach usually lasts anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour. It is often used as a discovery session where they learn more about you and your aspirations. This may be an initial consultation to see if life coaching is right for you, or it could be a time to figure out what you want to focus on, or it could be both.

In this initial session, the life coach will be asking a lot of questions and probably having you take various tests and going through certain exercises to find out what the best method is to go about conquering your goals. Some of the questions they may ask might include: What are you passionate about?, what do you avoid?, what is holding you back?, where will this get you?, whats another way to look at this situation?, etc.. You should walk away from the first meeting with an initial game plan and an idea of what you will do next or something to explore that will start getting you on track.

Some of the common processes that coaches employ include: visualization, affirmations, hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming, meditation, relaxation, emotional freedom technique, finding limiting beliefs, and many others. Sometimes discovering your ultimate intention and clarifying how you want to feel helps to kick-start a new process of realignment.

A coaching session will look slightly different depending on what methods your life coach uses and what stage of coaching youre in. This relationship is dynamic and it will change over time because you will start getting used to how you work best with them, and they will accommodate their methods to fit your strengths as time goes on.

Life coaching sessions will gradually reveal whats holding you back and what exactly you get stuck on so that you can identify and break down the mental and emotional blocks or limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success and progress. A life coach is great at helping you see whats in your blind spots and getting you to look at things from a different perspective. The importance of this is that you can only truly get this through the help of another person like a life coach who is helping you examine your life and goals. This isnt something you can simply learn from a book and thats why life coaching sessions are extremely valuable.

The outcome of a life coaching session is a feeling of direction and purpose. Instead of those feelings of being lost or constantly frustrated by either not being able to reach your goals, or just disappointment in failing to try, you will feel energized and mobilized. When you are finally able to crack the code on setting doable goals and taking the correct steps to follow through, it is an incredible feeling. Your life coach is there to get you moving as soon as possible so that you begin to feel more confident and productive right away and carry that energy into the rest of your life. The happiness that comes with having a clear vision and actually witnessing yourself achieve your goals is validating, and the best thing that comes out of life coaching sessions.

A life coaching session will generally include a discovery time near the beginning to figure out where you are, what youre doing and what you should do. After that, the sessions will be more about holding you accountable to the steps you should be taking to get where you need to go, and tackling problems that may pop up along the way. A coach is focused on three main things: taking action, staying accountable and following through. These three things guarantee success and will be an integral part of how your coaching sessions are handled.

You may initially be unsure about what your relationship with your coach should look like. The relationship should be based on trust and be something that is constantly challenging you. The ultimate goal for a life coach is not to tell you what to do but to ask you the right questions so that you tell yourself what to do. Then they are responsible for holding you accountable for the decisions you make, and goals you set.

A life coach can be similar to a lot of things like a consultant, advocate, friend, facilitator, navigator, and more but ultimately they are there to get you to take action. The relationship is bound to fail if you expect them to be just a friend who cheers you on, or just a consultant who gives you all of the answers and data you need. They are there to help you succeed so they will push you and challenge you to look at things differently and stay on the right track. This is a relationship that is a partnership. You can trust them to be a non-judgmental party who is looking out for your best interest with no ulterior motive except to see you succeed.

Life coaches can help you inany area of your life including, but not limited to:

The list of things life coaches can help you with is pretty much endless. Since there are so many aspects of life, any area can be worked on. You should ask yourself, What do I want to do with my life? Where do I want to improve myself? Its up to you to decide what you most need help with, or you can find out exactly what it is that has been bothering you, together with the help of a good coach.

You may think youre alone in wanting to improve upon a certain area in your life or reach a certain goal when in reality there are thousands of others who are pursuing change in those exact same areas with the help of a life coach. You might be surprised at how many people are seeking help in some of the same areas you are.

When clientsrequest a coach through Life Coach Spotter, according to our proprietary data, the top reasons they provide are:

Simply put, no. Life coaching in and of itself is not spiritual unless the life coaches themselves are specifically using a spiritual basis for all of their clients. You may have been given the false impression that life coaching involves meditation, prayer and other various spiritual practices, but unless you seek out a professional who specifically uses these practices, you will find that life coaching is more about your thought process than about your spiritual leanings.

There are some incredible spiritual life coaches who you can link up with if you desire a more spiritual approach to reaching your goals. The most important part here is finding the right coach whose beliefs line up with or coexist with your own spiritual beliefs. This way, finding solutions and overcoming obstacles will be much more of a rewarding and effective process. Learn more about spiritual life coaching here.

Want to make a big change in your life? Want to reach a goal? Feeling stuck? Going through a life transition? There are an infinite amount of reasons why people hire a life coach to get them on the right track toward success. You simply have to ask yourself a few questions to evaluate where you are, where you want to be and how you feel about it. This will ultimately help you reveal those burning desires that are truly worth going after and finally doing something about.

For example, you might decide to hire a life coach forANYof the following reasons:

If you feel like youre stuck in the same place and want to start moving in the right direction to accomplish your goals, a life coach would be very helpful. Also, if you feel some kind of mental or emotional block that you cant seem to get past on your own, a life coach will help guide you out of that mental state and into one where you can finally make progress.

If you have a feeling of uncertainty or like youre lost and dont know where to go or what to do to get what you want in life, this is a great opportunity to recruit a life coach to help you find purpose and direction in any area of your life.

If you want to grow, build your confidence, find your happiness or just start making some positive changes in your life, life coaching is a great solution. Feeling like something is missing in your life is a great opportunity to start making changes by transforming your life and your mindset.

Life coaching isNOTright for you if

There are some situations where life coaching is not going to be the right thing for you. If youre in need of therapy or serious counseling for a mental illness or issue in your life, you may want to consider resolving this or at least starting the resolution process with a counselor or therapist before seeking out a life coach.

Also, if you just want to be told what to do, this may not be the solution for you. A life coach is going to guide you and help you make your own decisions rather than get out a step by step play book and tell you exactly what to do.

Finally, you have to be willing to actually carry out the change. Life coaching isnt right for you if you are not able to commit to working on yourself, stretching your thinking and taking action in your life. A life coach expects you to be involved in your solution and you will not gain anything from the experience if you do not want to change.

If you have begun asking the right questions and evaluating what areas in your life need improvement, the decision to hire a life coach will be much easier. Going through the lists above will also help highlight those areas of your life that could use some extra work and a little extra accountability.

If youre ready to make an action plan rather than just explore your various issues, a life coach is definitely a great option for you. If you still have some past issues that you need to deal with or you arent sure that youre quite ready to start making serious changes, you could consult with a life coach to see if you should seek out help with a therapist or counselor first. It is extremely important to be in the right place mentally and emotionally to get the most out of the coaching experience.

Ultimately, life coaching will be worth your time if you are determined to be open to new ideas, tactics and are willing to put in work to implement changes. You dont even need to have a specific goal in mind before you go to a life coach, as long as you know you want more from life they can help you pinpoint whats next for you. A coach will improve your self-awareness, widen your thinking and help you become more focused. They are great people to go to when you want help accessing the talent and motivation you already carry within yourself.

Most life coaches will specialize in certain areas. For instance, some coaches might be more skilled at helping you find or make a career transition, while others might specialize in helping you find a life partner, or finding your true purpose. While there are no limits to what area a life coach can help you in, most of them are more skilled in some areas than others. If possible, it is best to find a life coach who specializes in one of your priority or goal areas.

Many life coaches can help you in multiple areas of your life but many coaches are great for your goals because of their specializations. Here are some of the most common types of life coach specializations that youll have access to:

If you have one clear goal in mind that you need help with, you can find a life coach that has a specialization that is closest to that goal. If you arent so clear on what you want to focus on, you could try a few different methods to finding a life coach. Ultimately, you want to focus on choosing a life coach who feels right for you and that you connect well with. Confidentiality is also key. Whatever coach you choose should keep your sessions private and strictly between the two of you. It will be hard to have a positive coaching relationship if you dont trust them or have good synergy.

One method you could use is to consult with a life coach that either doesnt have a specialization or one that has a specialization that is among your top interests. Make sure to mention to them that you have multiple goals youre going after and they will be able to help you narrow them down or pick one to work on first. They may even be able to refer you to another coach who works more with whatever specialty area you end up choosing.

Another method is to work with multiple life coaches. This could look different depending on how you go about it. If you have two strong goals, you could work with one life coach on one and another life coach on the other one. You can do this at the same time or one after the other depending on what you want to focus on and your time restrictions. You could also find one main coach who helps you with your more general goals and another coach who helps you with a more specific goal that needs their expertise.

Make sure to find the right fit for you. Go with your gut and use your intuition during the selection process. Dont be afraid to consult with a few different coaches because not all of them are going to be what you need.Coaches have different techniques they employ and you will need to feel motivated and inspired by them in order to succeed, so take your time to make this decision.

Life coaching costs will differ depending on quite a few different factors. You may be able to find coaches offering rates as low as $50 per hour and many coaches understand that finances are a struggle and are willing to work with their clients by offering low rates or packages that make payment less of a financial burden.Ultimately it will depend on the length and frequency of your sessions as well as the variety of types of coaching and the pricing differences in certain areas and regions.

If someone could help you make a very significant change in your life, how much would you pay for that? How much is it worth to you to be relieved of feeling unfulfilled, unhappy, and lost? Whats attaining your dreams worth to you?

Some people have been struggling with one issue their whole life. Others still dont know what they really want, but they feel that their current life isnt right. So is that worth a million bucks? Well probably, but most of us dont have that kind of cash laying around. Others would say this is too much or that is too much. $2,500?$5,000?$10,000?

It all depends.

Coaching is no more expensive than good, quality therapy. You can get low-end therapy, low-end dental services, and low-end coaching services. Or you can go for quality. And is it going to deliver something youve always wanted? Then probably a million dollars if you had it would be inexpensive.

A healthy relationship? Love in your life? Healthy balance? Living an incredible, dream life? Financial well-being? The accomplishment of a dream almost forsaken?

Try to put a price on any of those things. Its challenging, perhaps impossible. Thisis the best dollar youll ever spend. This is an investment in yourself; in your life which youll only live once. Putting your money consciously into your own growth and education to me is some of the best ways you can allocate your resources.

Based on a study, the amount of coaching sessions needed will vary greatly based on your specific goals and current situation. It will be up to you and your coach to determine the length of the engagement. You may want to initially sign up for a certain amount of time and then choose to extend later on. Coaches tend to be flexible and willing to work with your schedule and whatever plan works best with your goals.

Coaching sessions will be determined based on a number of different variables such as your schedule, the coachs schedule, the contract length and the needs of your specific goals. The average amount of coaching sessions ends up being around 2-3 per month. Most coaching sessions last around an hour and many coaches offer support and follow up between sessions as well.

Finding a life coach is probably simpler than you think. There are tons of resources available that will help you search for and find life coaches that specialize in your interest areas and are available when you are.

The convenience of finding a life coach is incredible through Life Coach Spotter if you are looking for life coaches that are online and easily accessible. Or you can use search engines and local directories to find life coaches who you can meet with in person. Another way to find the best life coach is through a referral. If you have a friend who has used one and wants to refer you to that person, that is a great way to go. Learn more about finding your life coach here.

Yes! Coaching online is probably one of the easiest ways to find a life coach that is perfect for your needs. You may be unsure of the effectiveness of an online coach but has proven to be just as effective as other methods of coaching. Whats important is the rapport between coach and client, and online simply give you more options for finding the best fit. Although the personal experience may be best for some people, the benefits of hiring an online life coach actually tend to outweigh the benefits of meeting in person.

The convenience of hiring a coach online is apparent because you can meet almost any time and not have to worry about the commute time and scheduling it around other things. You can meet for 30 minutes on your lunch break or take an hour on the weekend no matter where you are to sit down and consult with your life coach.

The options are endless when it comes to online life coaches. Since you dont have to worry about where they are located, you can choose a life coach whose experience and methods work best with you rather than being forced to settle on a coach who is closer in proximity.

You will also find that life coaching online can be significantly more affordable because of the reduced overhead costs. If the life coach doesnt have to have an office or commute, their overhead goes down, and so does the cost that you have to pay to meet with them.

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