UNIVERSITY PARK It was one of those days for RaShaad Samples where nothing could go right. The former Skyline star WR had been trying to get to work at the University of Texas football complex when his car got a flat tire.

He had to try to figure out a way to get his car fixed. He had to get another ride, and he had to be at work. The entire day had been thrown off course before it even really started. Then, as he sat pissed in his Uber ride, Samples entire life changed. He saw that SMU coach Sonny Dykes was calling him.

Those two hadnt spoken in seven months. Not since the 24-year-old sat with Dykes for an introductory lunch at Pappadeaux in December before UTs Big 12 title game. The two talked about the landscape of Dallas-area football.

Dykes and Samples went their separate ways after that. When Dykes called this time in late July, only weeks before fall camp -- it was to offer Samples a job as an assistant coach.

Suddenly, the busted tire and the impending work day didnt seem too bad.

It was a bad really day, Samples said, and it went to really good.

Samples hire at SMU was, by any measure, incredibly risky. He had never been a true coach. He was replacing a defensive coach, and would only be able to assist on offense. Sure, everyone around him could see he had a promising future, but there wasnt any other FBS head coach quite ready to hire him as a core assistant yet.

College football programs are allowed 10 assistant coaches that have both on-field responsibilities and are allowed to go out and recruit on behalf of the program. In his role at Texas, he was only allowed to recruit on-campus, and serve as an analyst meaning he could not actually coach on the field.

But Dykes saw the potential for an ace recruiter. A young, relatable and personable face thats from Dallas and has deep ties to south Dallas and the top talent that comes from there. And, as SMU (9-1, 5-1 AAC) digs in to improve its local recruiting efforts, Dykes saw Samples as a face to lead that charge.

It seems as though, at least this season, that Samples is thought of as a recruiter first, and a coach second. He works with SMUs running backs and slot receivers, but is the only assistant coach without an assigned position.

So while his boss and his reputation believe him to be a recruiter first, its not how Samples views himself, or his future in this profession. Recruiting to him, provides an opportunity to prove himself as a coach.

We kind of said, Look, this fall your focus is going to be primarily recruiting, Dykes recalled, noting Samples will receive a position group to coach next year. And its something hes really good at. RaShaad is really good at relationships. Knows a lot of people. Grew up in Dallas. Hes known a lot of these kids since they played in youth football.

Samples grew up around football, and around coaching. One of the advantages he has now is that his father is Reginald Samples, the current Duncanville head coach.

Now, hes been charged with recruiting the parts of Dallas that SMU hasnt been able to tap into.

I think Sonny Dykes is showing a blueprint of how you get an ace recruiter to become not only an ace recruiter and ace coach, said Texas recruiting coordinator Bryan Carrington. Hes putting him on billboards. Hes flying to games on helicopters. I mean, Sonny Dykes is doing exactly what hes supposed to be doing.

From over here in Austin, I applaud how theyre using RaShaad.

Carrington recruited Samples to play for Houston in 2015. Samples was a talented WR, who was a superstar at Skyline so good that current SMU star wideout and DeSoto product James Proche said he grew up idolizing him. At 5-foot-11, Proche related to a player with a shorter stature and a huge game.

But Samples only played six college football games over the course of his career, which included stints at Oklahoma State and Houston. Concussions medically disqualified him in 2016, ending his once-promising playing career. That was a dark time for Samples, who initially declined head coach Tom Hermans request that he stay on in a coaching/mentorship capacity at Houston.

He was like, No, youre gonna do that, Samples recalled. That was good for me, and I knew it was something I wanted to do. I think I was in a rut at the time. But he did a good job of pushing me out of that rut, and saying, Hey, get over yourself.

Herman eventually brought Samples with him to Texas as part of his recruiting staff. And thats really where Samples reputation started to manifest.

It wasnt long before Samples got the itch to find an actual job. He applied everywhere he could looking at a lot of jobs at the FCS level. He got several job offers.

He was applying for jobs that I didnt feel like would be a good situation for him, said his father, Reginald Samples. But they were jobs that he was getting an opportunity to be a full-time coach. His attitude was Dad, I want to be a coach, I want to be a full-time coach, and Ive got to get my foot in the door somewhere.

This speaks to two things. One RaShaads desire to be a coach ahead of a recruiter. To coach a position. To have a group of players he was tasked with improving and taking care of. And secondly, it speaks to just how influential his father was. RaShaad turned down all the offers.

Reginald applauds SMUs hire, and not only because its his son. And not only because hes happy to have family close by the two plan to celebrate Reginalds birthday over steak next weekend.

Reginald applauds it because he has been publicly critical of SMUs lackluster pursuit of local talent in the past. And he knows what RaShaad can bring. He said the new coaching staff has gone to new lengths in its efforts to make inroads locally.

The expectation is SMU will lock up high-profile local commitments possibly very soon. As of now, Samples hasnt actually locked in a local commitment. But star athletes around the area are taking notice, and taking SMU more seriously.

He can relate to these kids around the Dallas area, said Courtland Ford, a Cedar Hill offensive tackle that Samples and SMU have been recruiting. And I mean, you look at him as a player. Kind of like an ex-player that like youve played with him before. Because he knows whats going on, you can relate.

Samples got the ride of his life last Friday night to see Ford play. Samples was invited in the teams recruiting helicopter to visit the areas top prospects with Dykes. First to Cedar Hill-DeSoto, then South Grand Prairie-Waxahachie, before finishing at Arlington-Sam Houston.

Before hopping on their ride for the night, Samples told Dykes, I know you do this all the time, but I dont. He promised to take a lot of pictures and videos, and soak in the moment and the scenes around him. Dykes laughed, and the two had a great time.

In that moment, Samples was like a tourist in his own city. Experiencing it from an angle, a height, a perspective that he hasnt yet done.

Samples has always just been a kid from Dallas. A kid who hung around his dads teams. A kid who played Pop Warner football at Pleasant Grove. A kid who played basketball at Oak Cliff. A kid who went to Layne Middle School and Skyline for high school.

South Dallas isnt just a recruiting area, its truly his home.

Now, though, hes not just a kid from Dallas. SMU is selling him as a legend returning home, the face of recruiting strategy of an untapped local market.

Its a sales pitch that is made tangible by a massive billboard with Samples arms crossed and a serious look on his face. That pitch is only validated when Samples hops on helicopter flights to make triumphant returns to the communities he grew up going to and living in.

Samples is back in town representing something thats bigger than him, but couldnt be done without him, either.

This is how the world sees him. And its been a conscious effort by SMU to make that the case. But for Samples in his own heart and mind, hes just a football coach and this year is only the start.

Its kind of weird to me, Samples said. People come up to me and say it or people write that hes a recruiting guru, or this, that and the other. Its like, man, if anything, Ive been dealing with football my whole life, coaching football my whole life.

Im a better coach than recruiter, and I dont think its close.

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It is hard to believe but somewhere out there is a well-known rugby coach without a new book out. It is tempting to imagine Eddie Jones and Warren Gatland duelling with inky quills at dawn, going at it while their faithful ghostwriters hold the blotting paper. Both protagonists are still proudly old school at heart, having learned their trade long before the arrival of the internet.

Publish and be damned with faint praise is the usual endgame with such post-World Cup autobiographies but both Jones and Gatland have gone in refreshingly hard and low. The former has been particularly blunt about his regard or lack of it for English club rugby. I often wonder Is it ever going to change? writes Jones in My Life and Rugby, bemoaning the widespread lack of imagination and skill and the stodgy games he says he watches week after week. He also feels English coaches are more reactive than proactive, held back by a reticence he still struggles to get his head around.

This would be salty enough if Jones was moving on from his head coach role, let alone staying put for, in theory, another two years or more. The subjects of his criticism will point out this is the man who lasted only a short time at Saracens over a decade ago and has repeatedly said that changing English club rugby is not his job. This same suspect breeding ground has just supplied him with players good enough to trounce the All Blacks. Or was that act of alchemy entirely down to the wise-cracking wizard of Oz?

Had England conquered the world Jones would, of course, now be safely lecturing everyone from the upper slopes of Mount Olympus. As it is, he can now expect a coolish welcome next time he pops down to certain clubs. His bemusement about aspects of the English psyche after four years in the job also begs another important question: when he departs where is the ready-made conveyor belt of homegrown talent queuing up to replace him? The day after the World Cup final in Tokyo I asked Bill Sweeney, the Rugby Football Unions chief executive, if he had seen any sign of one. Its not there at the moment, it doesnt exist and its something we need to build in, acknowledged Sweeney, still relatively new in his post. Having a good system of English coaches going through that pipeline would be an objective.

It would be a more widely-reported scandal if there was not so much happening on planet rugby at the moment. Since the departure of Stuart Lancaster in 2015 all the Twickenham developmental pathways he helped to put in place have been either dismantled or detonated. Jones has relied largely on short-term hirings or old mates, with the exception of the loyal Steve Borthwick and Neal Hatley. Hatley is off back to Bath and Borthwick has yet to disclose his future plans. If either of them have ambitions to become a future England head coach they hide it well.

This state of affairs seemed to vex Jones as much as anyone else. He writes about wanting unnamed assistant coaches to bring something different to the table, rather than merely following orders. If coaches are not showing initiative in preparation, how can you expect the players to? It is a fair point, although questioning the methods of experienced coaches such as Jones, Gatland, Steve Hansen and Joe Schmidt is not the easiest of tasks.

Could it even be that the mightiest trees in the rugby coaching forest have been around so long that, in places, they have inadvertently stunted the growth of those looking to follow them? Look at Australia, once a repository of the sharpest coaching minds in the game and now reportedly hoping to import the Glasgow-based New Zealander Dave Rennie to provide a much-needed tactical jolt. Look at New Zealand itself where the hugely successful reign of Hansen and, before him, Sir Graham Henry appears to have made several contenders think twice about succeeding them.

The choice now appears to be between Hansens assistant Ian Foster and the Crusaders Scott Robertson, with a puff of black smoke from NZ Rugbys chimneys now officially due next month. Both would involve a slight punt given neither has previously been head coach of any other senior national side but appointing the popular, energetic Robertson, 45, might just be more in touch with the rugby zeitgeist.

The game moves relentlessly onwards and the giant coaching box redwoods of yore are thinning out. Jones has just been outflanked in a World Cup final by a coach, Rassie Erasmus, who, at 47, is 12 years his junior. Jacques Nienaber, Erasmuss heir apparent as Springbok head coach, is the same age, while Ireland have plumped for the 44-year-old Andy Farrell as Schmidts successor. Jamie Joseph, who is staying to continue his impressive work with Japan, turns 50 this week. Along with Robertson, these are all well-travelled individuals with their prime coaching years still ahead of them.

Interestingly, of this new wave, Robertson and Rennie have both previously coached the New Zealand U20 side. In England that role remains vacant but should be filled by a candidate with the potential to progress to the senior tracksuit one day. Ben Ryan (48) would, as ever, be an enlightened option while Alex Sanderson at Saracens has only just turned 40 and Northamptons highly-rated attack coach Sam Vesty is 37. The tactically-sharp Will Greenwood, whose father Dick coached England in the 1980s, might be another left-field candidate. Anything to inject some fresh thinking as the world of top-level coaching, after so many years of familiar voices, prepares to turn the page.

The fine Australian centre Samu Kerevi says he was disappointed to be quoted out of context as being keen to play for Fiji, rather than the Wallabies, at the 2023 World Cup. Despite the fact the Wallaby vice-captain has just signed a three-year contract to play in Japan, which will make him ineligible for the Wallabies as the rules currently stand, he has made it clear he was just having a bit of a laugh at a charity lunch in Fiji. The story, however, has stirred the debate as to whether eligible players no longer required by major unions could be made available to play for smaller nations for which they also qualify after a suitable stand-down period. As a means of strengthening Pacific Island teams it has clear merit; whether their rivals, for that reason, will ever agree to vote it through remains as doubtful as ever.

One suspects Saracens will have several of their bigger names back for Saturdays European Champions Cup game against Ospreys, all hoping to restore some momentum following a chastening few days. At some stage a final decision will have to be made about which competition to prioritise after being deducted 35 league points but simply getting back up and running, in front of their own supporters, will be enough for now. The road ahead will be long and hard and, psychologically, it starts this weekend.

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Have rugby's super-coaches stunted the growth of those following them? - The Guardian

BOSTON Boston University mens soccer coach Neil Roberts announced his retirement on Monday after a distinguished career that spanned 40 years and included 15 NCAA appearances while impacting hundreds of student-athletes.

His career record stands at an impressive 367-218-93 with a combined 19 conference tournament and regular season titles.

Im privileged to have spent my entire coaching career at Boston University and am proud to have played a small role in the development of hundreds of fantastic individuals, many of whom remain among my closest friends, said Roberts,who served as an assistant from 1979-1984 and then head coach starting in 1985.There are too many names to list at thismoment so I will just add its been an honor to have worked with numerous high-quality coaches, athletic trainers, academic administrators and staff. Besides my time spent in the athleticdepartment, I was privileged to serve as head marshal at many graduations. I will miss my interactions with the students and their families but now look forward to the next chapter in my life.

The 35-year head coach Roberts (1985-2019) currently ranks No. 30 all-time in wins by a head coach with at least 10 years spent at an NCAA Division I school and more impressively No. 8 by a head coach who spent an entire career at one NCAA Division I school. Besides earning numerous coaching awards at the regional and conference level, he was also presented this past year with an honorary Scarlet Key, one of the most prestigious academic awards bestowed by Boston University.

I offer my sincere thanks to Neil Roberts for serving as a great ambassador to our University for the last four decades and congratulate him on a fantastic career that will likely see him in the BU Athletic Hall of Fame someday, said director of athletics Drew Marrochello. Beyond his work with students, he was a mentor to many staff members and his personality will be greatly missed around the department.

A native of nearby Braintree, Massachusetts, Roberts first joined the Terriers in 1979 as an assistant coach for Ron Cervasio and helped lead the program to an ECAC title and then the programs first NCAA appearance the following year. He spent four more seasons working for future National Soccer Hall of Fame member Hank Steinbrecher before becoming the programs fifth head coach in 1985.

In his first season at the helm, BU underwent a 10-win improvement and advanced to the NCAA quarterfinals with a victory over UConn. He claimed his first of five United Soccer Coaches New England Coach of the Year awards for his efforts and would lead the Terriers to winning seasons in 28 of his 35 years, highlighted by a 19-1-1 performance in 1994 that included a stunning 3-2 upset win over No. 1 ranked and eventual national champion University of Virginia. BU made five straight NCAA appearances from 1993-97 and most recently reached the postseason in 2015 via an at-large bid for Roberts 14th berth as head coach.

Overall, Roberts has been recognized 17 times for coaching excellence. He was the United Soccer Coaches New England Coach of the Year in 1985, 1986, 1988, 1994 and 2004. In 1986, 1990 and 1994, he was also the New England Soccer Coach of the Year as selected by the Eastern Massachusetts High School Soccer Coaches Association, and in 1991, 1994, 2001, 2004, 2008, 2010 and 2011, he was the America East Coach of the Year. He only needed two seasons in the Patriot League to be recognized as the conferences top coach in 2014. In 1995, he received the William French Award for coaching excellence from the Boston University Athletic Hall of Fame.

During his tenure as head coach, BU earned 134 All-Conference, 93 All-Region, 20 major conference and 12 All-America awards. Several of those winners have gone on to achieve success professionally. After becoming the seventh Terrier to join a Major League Soccer (MLS) club in the spring of 2015, Dominique Badji (15) has tallied 32 combined goals for the Colorado Rapids and Dallas FC. Besides appearing in 158 games for the New England Revolution over two stints, Andy Dorman (04) also competed for the Welsh National Team, Crystal Palace and St. Mirren across the Atlantic in the United Kingdom.

Recipient of the Mickey Cochrane award as BUs top male athlete, Mike Emenalo (89) would compete for Nigeria in the 1994 World Cup and would later use his experience and education to become the technical director of Chelsea FC from 2011-17, helping the club claim two Premier League titles (2015, 17) and the 2012 UEFA Champions League title. Emenalo is one of six Terrier greats coached by Roberts to be inducted in the BU Athletic Hall of Fame alongside Nick Bone (98), Steve Walker (94), Ben Okaroh (88), Francis Okaroh (86) and Jose Vidal (84).

Having coached 10 Academic All-Americans, Roberts is equally proud of his players successes in the classroom. During the 2014 season, 15 players earned Patriot League Academic Honor Roll accolades with a program-high 21 being named to the Honor Roll in both 2016 and 2017. Nick Thomson (15) was tabbed the 2014 Patriot Leagues Scholar-Athlete of the Year, earning the first top academic honor from a conference since Walker (1993) and Ola Olsen (1994) were recognized in back-to-back seasons.

In 2008, Dan Schultz (09) earned national academic honors from both CoSIDA and the United Soccer Coaches. Ben Havey (11) followed two years later in 2010 with CoSIDA Academic All-America accolades, and Thomson garnered the latest honor in 2014. Numerous graduates have moved on to executive-level positions with companies such as Goldman Sachs, IBM and William Morris Endeavor. As another example of post-grad success, 1989 Academic All-American Robert Buckmire(90) successfully established the UNC Voice Center and was an invited speaker at the fourth World Voice Congress in Seoul, South Korea, due to being recognized as an authority in the field of Laryngology.

The holder of a USSF license, Roberts has been actively involved with soccer at all levels. He guided the Massachusetts Under-15 team to the 1999 regional title after coaching the Mass Bay Strikers to the 1993 Under-17 State title. In 1984, he led the Cambridge Portuguese Sport Soccer Club to an undefeated season and the American Soccer Association title.

Roberts was an All-New England selection and captain of the 1976 Mitchell Junior College team that finished second at the junior college national championships. He then enrolled at Southern Connecticut State University, where he enjoyed two outstanding seasons. Roberts captained the team during his junior and senior seasons and led the Owls to back-to-back NCAA tournament appearances.

Information will be forthcoming on a celebration to be held at a later time honoring his career.

What Mens Soccer Alums are Saying about Coach Roberts

Congratulations on your well-deserved retirement! When I consider the impact youve made in so many lives in your long service to Boston University three words come immediately to mind: Sacrifice, Patience, and Thanks. You sacrificed time with your family and for your personal leisure to ensure that no one was left behindand to teach the importance of rigour and discipline in our pursuit of college and life education. Youwere extraordinarily patient with young student athletes often devoid of a sense of selflessness and under enormous, occasionally, disconcerting pressure as students and athletes. And thank you for being a wise teacher on and off the soccer pitch; thank you for guiding us in navigating our passion for the sport we love without losing our sense of responsibility to our great institution of learning. On a personal note, I would like to express my sincere gratitude and thanks to you for welcoming me with kindness and care to BU, and being a willing mentor and guardian throughout my four years on campus. Some of the lessons you thought have formed the basis for my character as a person and leader of others. After 40 years of exceptional work in educating, mentoring, guiding, supporting, advising, coaching and building an athletic program to great, sustained success, you deserve to ride off to the sun set accompanied, comfortingly, with our grateful applause, cheers of our appreciation and thanks. Thank you Neil! PS: You have no excuse now to postpone a visit to London! Mike Emenalo (89)

It is with great honor I reflect upon my time as a Terrier and focus on the benefits so many people have been blessed with by coming in contact with head coach Neil Roberts. As players, we were fortunate to have an extremely positive role model in our lives who maintained a phenomenal balance of competitiveness, respect, and pride for Boston University. His expectations of us to maintain a balance between sports and academicsproved that he was as invested in us as we were in the program. There are countless stories of how Neil extended himself beyond his job description to make sure his players were on the road to a successful collegiate career. It is no wonder that athletes who now live all over the world, flock to his office when in the area as he has touched the lives of so many. As a colleague of Neils, I witnessed a deeper passion, commitment, and honor that he poured out dailyto the mens soccer program but also to everyone he came in contact with at Boston University. It did not matter if you were a chancellor, police officer, or B & G worker, if Neil knew you, he treated you with the same respect and courtesy that we all should expect from a fellow associate.For all of the alumni it will be strange to go back to campus and not see Neil on the sidelines or in his office. However, I believe he has ingrainedthe same pride and respect in the school and soccer program in all of us that he exemplified day in andday out over his career. His tenure has proven him to be a fantastic ambassador of Boston University, college athletics and the game of soccer in this country. His daily presence on campus will be sorely missed. Bryan Devenney(03)

During my three-and-a-half years at Boston University, Neil made the biggest impact on my life. He taught me persistence, preceding in a course of action despite opposition. Whether it be my athletic or professional life, tough times will always come; what matters most is your attitude. A great attitude will take you a long way. The care and dedication that Neil showed to his players means more to me than my development as a soccer player. Neil was the first coach Ive ever had that cared more about my personal life than athletic ability; To put it another way, Ive never had a coach that cared more about his players than Neil. What Im most grateful for is his ability to take a group of young men and have them click so well and be part of the soccer family. I now have life-long best friends which starts from Neil making sure he has the right group of players on the team. Im so grateful that I made the move my freshman year and transferred to Boston University. Also, I want to take this time to celebrate his success over the past 30+ years. I have the utmost respect for Neil and all his has done for the Boston University soccer program. Anthony Viteri (18)

It is hard to put into words what you have meant to your players and to Boston University as a whole. You have changed the lives of so many people.THANK YOU! Tony Lawlor (89)

Neil wasnt just a coach, he was a mentor, a friend and role model. A person that went above and beyond to help the people around him. He gave me the opportunity to play for BU, and Ill forever be thankful. Felix De Bona (17)

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Boston University men's soccer head coach Neil Roberts retires after 40-year career - Soccerwire.com

SALT LAKE CITY I was asked recently what changes or tweaks a person could make that would most dramatically improve their relationships. This is a great question because your ability to create healthy relationships is the key to your happiness in life.

You cant feel happy, fulfilled and good about life if your relationships are stressed, unsafe or confrontational. This is especially true with your significant other. If that special relationship is strained or in trouble, it can suck the joy from every other part of your life.

Below are my top five tips for having better relationships:

Humans have a subconscious tendency to think the way they navigate the world, handle problems and treat people is the right way and anyone who functions differently is wrong. If you will accept the idea that different isnt necessarily better or worse, just different, this one change could be profound.

In coaching, I teach the idea that there are 12 types of people in the world and every type has both good behaviors and bad behaviors. None of them have only good and no bad. This means everyone has bad behaviors, even you. They are different bad behaviors than other people have, but they are just as bad.

The most powerful change you can make to improve your relationships is to learn to understand how the people close to you are wired, how they see the world, and what their triggers are. Then you can stop expecting them to act like you and accept them more fully for who they are.

Most of the people in your life are inherently good and have no desire to do you wrong or hurt you. When a person does offend you, it is usually unintentional and done because they are in a fear state and overly worried about themselves. It is a game-changer when you decide to assume the best of the people you love, instead of the worst.

Give the people you love room to be a work-in-progress. We are all students in the classroom of life and we are never going to be perfect. Give the people in your life allowance to make mistakes and go easy on them when they make one, because you want them to go easy on you when it's your turn.

The heart of every relationship lies in how you talk to each other. If you talk more than you listen, you wont have authentic and safe relationships.

Set your own thoughts and feelings aside every once in a while and really listen to what the other person is thinking and feeling. Ask questions to gain an understanding of how the other person sees the world and why. You will be amazed at what you didnt know, you didn't know.

Ask questions because you truly want to understand and show love to the other person. This validates their worth in your life. Listen to actually understand, not just to figure out what to say next.

What everyone wants most from their important relationships is safety. We all want someone who has our back and knows our intentions are good. Be that person. Be the safest place in the world for the person you love. Make sure they can tell you anything and you will listen without judgment, understand, and not make it about you.

If you have trouble doing this, it could be because you dont feel safe in the world yourself. If you dont feel safe, you will be overly focused on getting a sense of security for yourself and will have nothing to give your loved one. Get some professional coaching or counseling to work on your fear issues. When you are on solid ground yourself, you can give more to others.

Forgiveness becomes easier when you understand that life is a classroom and you always attract the situations and people that will be your perfect teachers. I believe these important people are in our lives to trigger our pain, push our buttons, and bring our fears to the surface so we can work on them. This means any offenses are the perfect classroom experiences you need. Remembering this makes it much easier to forgive.

Real forgiveness is about healing your perception around other people and their behavior. When you change the way you see them and the offense, you will immediately change how you feel about it. Choose to see any offense as "a perfect lesson for you" and the pain will lessen. This offense didnt happen to you, it happened for you. It isnt a loss experience, if it was here to serve you.

Also, I believe there is nothing that exists that God did not make, and chance plays no part in his plans. This means you are safe in his hands all the time.

Nothing can diminish your intrinsic value nor bring you a journey that is anything less than perfect for you. In order to be offended, you have to believe that you are vulnerable in some way. If you trust God fully, you are never vulnerable and cannot be wronged. You can only be educated and taught.

You can do this.

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Its a cold night in Boston. A line has formed outside of Reebok CrossFit One for the live Open announcement of WOD 20.5. Its been raining all day, and even though were waiting underneath an awning, the crowd is steadily getting soaked. And that could have put a real damper on the evening, but not for Noor Dajani. Shes got a big smile on her face. Her black hijab is tucked into her jacket, and underneath a Reebok logo peeks through an open zipper. Shes telling me about her experience running the New York City Marathon the previous weekend. She trained for just two months before the race, but was still able to complete it with a great time (and in great spirits). I think about Noor trying to balance CrossFit, coaching, starting a business, raising two kids, and training for a marathon half a world away from her home.

I smile back at her in amazement.

Noor isnt your typical athlete and trainer. Born and raised in Jordan, Noor is the only female CrossFit Level 3 trainer in the region. But growing up, hailing from that area of the Middle East meant that certain expectations and limitations were placed on Noor and other women and girls regarding how to dress, move, and behave when men were present. For Noor, those situations intersected directly with her favorite pastime: sports. I was super passionate about all kinds of sports and movement but in my case I had to stop participating in sport at a very young age around 10 years old, she said.

Her family made sure to provide Noor and her 7 sisters enough space to play and practice sport within their home, but it wasnt enough for her. She wanted a chance to take on sports professionally. But the difficulties of not being able to follow-through with dedicating her time to training eventually caused her to stop. It wouldnt be until she was 25 years old that she found sports again, and not until she moved away that she could explore her opportunities in a new light.

A world away. In the summer of 2013 Noor relocated to the US for a 2 year period with her family. While living in Ohio, she started educating herself in different areas of fitness through certifications in spinning, TRX, bootcamp, personal training, and finally Olympic weightlifting and CrossFit. She credits her mentor, Aaron Jannetti, owner of CrossFit Endeavor in Hilliard, with helping her build her capacity and confidence as a coach. Since starting CrossFit I have become more resilient, confident, and self compassionate. The exposure to hardships in each workout, and developing positive attitudes and strategies to tackle each workout, transferred directly to my own life and mentality, she said.

Coaching others and helping them create better, happier, healthier lives sparked a joy in Noor she didnt know she needed up until that point. But when it came time to move back to Jordan, she found herself scared that shed lose herself back in a life with limitations around women in fitness. So, she made a plan to stick to what made her happy. Doing CrossFit and involving myself with the CrossFit community right away upon my return helped me keep growing my resilience, mental strength and passion, she said.

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How One Woman is Using CrossFit to Break Barriers in the Middle East - Morning Chalk Up

IOWA CITY, Iowa As he grows older and even more self-deprecating, Iowa coach Kirk Ferentz tends to reflect with awe when he discusses his players, from the adversity they overcome to the accomplishments they achieve during a football season.

Three of Ferentzs sons played for him and two had surgeries. Hes had the pleasure of coaching thousands of other sons over his 21 years as head coach, and from battling through injuries to academic challenges, his players inspire him as much Ferentz is supposed to lead his players. He feels just as fulfilled watching a walk-on exert effort on the scout team as he does a starting performer execute on third down.

I have such respect for the guys that run the entire race, that stay here and fight through the adversity they go through, whether its academically, injury-wise, all the things that are challenging about being a student-athlete at this level, Ferentz said. Its a really impressive group of...

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Its that time of year again, when the American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM) polls thousands of health and fitness professionals around the globe to peer into the crystal ball and identify the top fitness trends for the following year.

This is the 14th year for the ACSM survey, and many of the hot trends, such as HIIT and group training, for 2020 have been along for the ride since the beginning. Cyclists have been at the pointy end of fitness trends like HIIT training, wearable tech, and employing certified professionals since long before such surveys existed. But its worth noting that there are other consistent (and important) trends more cyclists would be wise to hop on.

So without further ado, here are the top 10 fitness trends for 2020 and what they mean for you.

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Hiring a fitness professional debuted on the trend list at #6 last year, and holds its position in the top 10 for 2020. For cyclists, this means hiring a coachsomething I recommend all serious cyclists try at least once.

Ive been USA Cycling certified coach myself for about two decades and I still hire a coach to help me nail my goals. And I can say unequivocally, all of my best results are a direct result of working with and listening to some really great coaches.

Good coaches do more than just write training plansyou can download those online for a few bucks. Theyre a confidante, someone you can share your goals and insecurities with who will help you cut through the clutter and be the best bike rider you can be. They eliminate the guesswork and make you accountable for getting your training done.

And coming in at #9more coaching! Health and wellness coaching is different from cycling coaching in that its not focused on exercise performance, but rather helping you live a healthier life overall.

Wellness coaches can help you deal with stress, improve your mindset, find balance, and make healthy lifestyle changes (say, like riding more) stick.

Only you can say if you would benefit from a health and wellness coach (and its possible that a multi-faceted cycling coach could pull double duty here). But if you consistently struggle to make behavioral changes that would improve your emotional and physical well-being, it might be worth a try.

No surprise here. People are living longer and remaining active for many more years than past generations. And the more fit you stay into your later years, the more years youre likely to live. One study found that those with the highest levels of fitness at age 75 were more than twice as likely to live another 10 years or more compared to those with poorer fitness.

Because cycling is gentle on the joints, its easy to do for a very long time. But thats not to say that we dont face challenges with age. Science shows that metabolism changes, making it easier to gain weight and lose muscle, as we get older. Recovery takes longer, too. That means you need to keep up the intensity to maintain muscle and top-end fitness, and take proper care to bounce back from those efforts. So if youre in your 50s, 60s, 70s, or beyond, make sure the trainers and/or coaches you work with understand the nuances of working with someone your age.

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Bodyweight training, which, just as it sounds, means using your own body to perform resistance training has been among the top trends since it hit the charts at #3 in 2013. And with good reason: You dont need a gym membership or special equipment to build strength, and you can get a good workout wherever you are.

Body weight training is particularly helpful for cyclists during prime riding season, when you may be reluctant to use precious riding time to go to the gym. Some push-ups, squats, and core moves can help keep you strong in the saddle without worrying about hitting the weights.

Exercise is Medicine (EIM) is a global health initiative that encourages primary care doctors and other health-care providers to include physical activity assessment as part of their care and to include exercise recommendations and referrals to fitness professionals as part of standard care.

A doctors note for a bike ride a day? Sounds like good medicine to us.

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Its easy to be a little skeptical about personal training being the top trend (as it has been since the survey first published in 2006) on a list generated by fitness professionals. But personal training works, and it continues to evolve overtime to meet changing demands.

For cyclists, a few sessions with a personal trainer can help you feel comfortable and confident in your off-season strength training and in-season maintenance work. Today, mobile apps make personal training more effective and efficient than ever. You can meet with your trainer to do your assessments and cover the basics. Then, you can do the rest via fitness apps like True Coach that allow you to track progress, communicate with your trainer, and watch videos of exercises you cant remember when youre at the gym and your trainer isnt around.

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Training with free weights like barbells, kettlebells, dumbbells, and medicine balls is a hot and growing trend right now, largely thanks to the rising popularity of functional and CrossFit style workouts and gyms.

World-class professional cyclists like Kate Courtney and Peter Sagan have put to rest any worries that weight training and cycling dont mix. Free weights recruit all your major and minor muscles, improve your balance and proprioception, and help build boneall things that will make you better on your bike.

Technically defined as more than five participants, group training is just that: a group of people led through a fitness routine by an instructor. The idea is to motivate people to move by making exercise fun and social.

Cyclists are all about that. In fact, we love group training so much we even have a special word for a pack of us: peloton, which not coincidentally is the name of one of the most popular group training workouts on the planet. If you tend to be a lone wolf on the bike, try a group ride for 2020. Youll be glad you did.

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HIIT, which is a workout that involves short bursts of high intensity exercise followed by a short period of rest, has been a chart-topper since 2014, when it was the #1 trend of the year. HIIT doesnt just make you fit, but also boosts brain health, tames stress, improves body composition, and fends off a host of chronic diseases.

As a cyclist, you should absolutely be doing HIIT training. Even if you never sprint for a finish line in your life, HIIT training will help boost your endurance performance so every ride feels easier and you can hum along longer and stronger without hitting the wall.

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If you heard the news that Google is buying Fitbit for a cool $2.1 billion, it will come as no surprise that wearable technology is the #1 fitness trend for 2020. Wearable technology includes fitness trackers, smart watches, heart rate monitors, and GPS tracking devices. Its a $95 billion industry and shows no signs of slowing.

Cyclists, of course, are not new to any of this. Weve been routinely strapping on heart rate monitors since Kurt Cobain was singing about teen spirit and wont roll out of the parking lot without recording the ride. Were also early adopters to new cutting-edge wearable tech like the Whoop Strap, which dig further into our physiology to track heart rate variability, sleep, and recovery.

If youve never tried wearable tech, and well, Im not sure theres one of you out there, its well worth investing in at least a heart rate monitor, which not only can help you track your training progress, but also can alert you to underlying health issues before they cause trouble.

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The highly controversial industry of pick-up artists is actually booming right now

Dating coaches are nothing new. Here to help people find their perfect match, theyve been the topic of much discussion (remember Hitch?). Today, with the numerous dating apps available to everyone, the dating coach industry seems like it should be a thing of the past, but instead it is thriving, and with it its sleazier counterpart, the pick-up artist industry, is boomingcurrently estimated at $100 million.

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Johnny Cassell is a London-based dating coach and pick-up artist (PUA) charges his clients a minimum of 597 for his Impactful Connection Workshop, or a 7-day intensive workshop starting at 6,000. Cassell has a waiting list for personal mentorship, priced even higher than the rest of his services, where he teaches men how to master the art of attracting the women [they] truly want.

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Negging is something that was initially introduced by pick-up artist Erik von Markovic, which is defined as the act of neither complimenting nor insulting the woman in order to try to lower her self-confidence and get her to become more vulnerable to the mans advances. Unsurprisingly, this is a tactic that many PUAs disguised as dating coaches teach their clients, and it is manipulative, exploitative and misogynistic.

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