I was feeling uninspired at work until a career coach gave me this one tip – NBC News

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I came to Emily with the notion that there was something bigger out there I wanted to be doing, but I wasnt sure how to get there. For people who arent sure what they could get out of working with a career coach, Moyer explained it to me perfectly.

The women who choose to work with career coaches are ready to make a major shift into purposeful, meaningful work, she said. Theyre ready to stop following others expectations. Theyre sick of feeling undervalued and underpaid. Theyre feeling called to forge their own path instead of doing whats safe. Or they just want to feel inspired and excited, rather than miserable and demotivated. Balanced, instead of harried and spread too thin.

All of that resonated with me, in particular the part about wanting to feel inspired and excited. Sure, I knew that I could churn out copy on any given topic, but what I really wanted was to be using my writing toward something that felt more fulfilling. Moyer told me that it is possible.

We began our video chat session with a moment of meditation followed by an oracle card reading. (Moyer is located in Chicago and Im in New Jersey but no matter, she had such an easy way about her that it seemed like we were in the same room.) Moyers approach to career coaching is holistic, incorporating Western organizational strategy and Eastern philosophy and ancient wisdom not your typical approach to career counseling, but I decided to be open-minded and give it a try.

As we both closed our eyes, it quickly became apparent that this brief meditation was an effective tool to clear the space for us to focus on the time we had together. In a world where we are constantly available and responding to beeps, rings and bells, it felt great to ensure that this time we had set aside for a specific purpose was sacred.

Emily told me that she would select a card for me but that there would be no bad cards to worry about. My card was Freedom and she read me the description and we used it as a jumping off point to get into the root of why I was seeking career help.

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The ice breaker worked, and I found myself opening up to Emily, telling her about the bigger dreams I had for my writing: to publish a book and write movies. I wanted to do more of the style of writing that was actually in my own voice.

After listening attentively, Emily gave me the encouraging news that I was already way ahead of the game in that I knew what my passion was. She was right. I knew plenty of people who had the vague notion that they wanted to be doing something great, they just werent sure what it was. For me, I know that when Im writing I feel most like myself. Call it a passion or a calling, but when Im in the zone and the writing is flowing, I know its what Im meant to be doing.

The second thing Emily told me I had going for me was that I understood that focusing on advancement in my career would actually have a positive effect on all the other aspects of my life. I know that for a lot of women, especially mothers, the idea of focusing on work can feel almost selfish. But I already knew that by being fulfilled in my work, it would just make me an even happier, more productive mom, wife and friend.

Moyer said that while women now have so many options when it comes to career and lifestyle, often the availability of options can feel overwhelming.

Many of us are trying to do it all, weighed down by having too much on our plate, she said. Others are just unsure what choices are right for us, out of the myriad options. Additionally, we tend to take on an extraordinary amount of additional emotional responsibility for other people in our lives. Any of this can lead a person to feel stuck, confused or lost.

Still, Moyer said that stuck is really not such a bad place to be.

It means youre in a position to make a change; to decide that you want a different life experience," she said. "Feeling these things means you're able to acknowledge that its time for purpose and meaning to be prioritized.

Moyer asked me if there were things in my life I set aside dedicated time for, and I said yes. Ever since becoming a mom, Ive prioritized my workouts, not just because they help me be fit but because I need them for reasons that have nothing to do with how I look, like keeping stress at bay and feeling energized. Moyer pointed out that I was already accustomed to setting aside time for something thats important to me, so could I do that with my writing? She made the distinction that we were talking about creative writing, the stuff I want to write. She encouraged me to schedule an hour a day for what she called soul writing.

The idea of that felt simultaneously luxurious and anxiety-provoking. On the one hand, I loved to write but thinking about the outcome of my work often made it feel like a chore or something to avoid.

Moyer explained to me the yogic concept of "aparigraha" which translates to non-attachment. Do the work for works sake, she told me. Because it is your gift. Because it is why you are here. Because you must. Release the outcome. Release the attachment of what will come from your writing time. Write to write.

By the end of the session I surprised myself by tearing up how had I let the thing that made me feel most like myself, creative writing, become something I dreaded doing? Moyer sagely smiled at me: It wasnt like she had outlined a new life trajectory for me, instead she had helped me change my own mindset about my work. It was something that on the surface seemed so simple, but the shift had eluded me until working with her.

Since working with Moyer, I feel a renewed energy for writing and real excitement about the possibilities. Im the one in the drivers seat, deciding which opportunities to devote my time and attention to and which ones to decline. I know that anything is possible if I put in the work.

If youre considering working with a career coach, take the time to make sure the person you choose to work with is a good fit. Most coaches will offer a getting to know you call so you can see if youre on the same wavelength. Unlike therapy, career coaches usually work with clients over a shorter period of time, and though some emotional stuff may come up, the work is more goal-oriented than explorative.

Its time to work with a career coach if you are ready to both invest in and do the inner work your career coach will challenge you to do, said Moyer. Working with a career coach usually requires you to face some tough stuff and you need to make sure youre in a place in your life where youre ready to do that.

Although it wasnt easy to confront the old patterns and beliefs that were holding me back, in the end I was so glad that I did. Now, instead of ending the week wondering what Ive done, I wake up each morning ready to rock n roll and do the things I love the most. Next up: penning that screenplay.

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