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Glen Campbell: 2011 Interview Illuminates Health Struggles, Drug Battles, Complete Self-Awareness – Variety

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Glen Campbell, who died Aug. 8 at the age of 81, was interviewed outside of Philadelphia in September 2011, a year after the country legend was diagnosed with Alzheimers. The following story, which originally ran in Blurt Magazine, was among the most illuminating talks to take place during that time. Shortly thereafter, Campbell retreated from public life.

Memory fades. Sifting through images and ideas is no easy process, not for the young or old, not where the distant past and recent immediacy is concerned.

When Glen Campbell announced that he has been diagnosed with Alzheimers disease, that his new album, Ghost on the Canvas, would be his last and that his recent tour would put a cap on his long career, the desire to mourn to treat him differently kicked in. This was, after all, the golden boy of epically cosmopolitan country pop whose every 60s hit from Chris Gantrys Dreams Of The Everyday Housewife, John Hartfords Gentle on My Mind to the soaring subtlety of Jimmy Webbs Wichita Lineman and Galveston, the latter two reminiscent of Bogarts phrase at the end of Maltese Falcon the stuff that dreams are made of became the soundtrack to my youth.

These sonic gems were only made bolder by knowing that Campbell a masterful guitar picker was a touring Beach Boy that nearly replaced Brian Wilson and had played on hits by Dean Martin, Bobby Darin, Frank Sinatra, the Monkees and Elvis Presley, the latter a fellow country boy whom Campbell befriended.Campbells image too is burned into the collective retina as he had starred in the original version of the revenge western True Grit and his own network TV show The Glen Campbell Goodtime Hour.

Certainly he had his Rimbaud-esque season in Hell the post 60s comedown of boozing, drugging, carousing (notoriously with firebrand country howler Tanya Tucker) and various arrests. Yet,Campbellhad commercial hits into the 70s and 80s with Rhinestone Cowboy, Southern Nights, Sunflower and I Have You. He kept the live fires burning with gigs in Branson, found God, a good woman Kimberly Woolen to whom hes been married since 1982 with three kids who have their own Arcade Fire-y band (Instant People) currently backing Campbell on tour. This latter day joy to say nothing of the potency of the deeply etched Ghost and its ruminatively ratcheting lyrics and still expressively clarion vocals made Alzheimers an even more heinous verdict.

Look intoCampbells eyes and despite the lines in his face (hes 75) and his occasionally forgetful demeanor and you see a man not so much struggling with memory but more alive with the past then the present. This author isnt trying to soften the blow or demystify the disease but seriously, I have a better grasp on what I did ten years ago then what I did ten minutes ago. Yet here they are, Glen and Kimberly sitting before me, frankly discussing the problem without letting it ruin their future.

Campbell, his producer Justin Raymond (who worked with the singer on his previous recording Meet Glen Campbell) and a crew of instrumentalists such as Dick Dale, Brian Setzer and Chris Isaak were already at work on the riveting Ghost when they diagnosis was announced. Suddenly the press made a big deal out of it, something that doesnt affect theCampbells as long as the disease doesnt overshadow the work,

No. it doesnt bother me, saysCampbellwith a slight cough. Im used to it by now. I leave it in Gods hands that its gonna be the way He wants. His wife Kim follows that with an understanding of an audiences curiosity how the disease works, how it effects her husband. We understand, she smiles. But the music is just so good we hope they get to that message as well.

Mention the contribution of songs from Paul Westerberg, Jakob Dylan and Robert Pollard along with self-penned tracks with Raymond culled interesting enough from the producers daily diaries of what the singer/guitarist said, and youve got quite a set of messages. AsCampbellstarts singing the new albums title track in a strong burst of melody, he states. Im really not a songwriter so if I hear a song, I feel it and like it, Ill do it. But Ill make it the way I want to hear it.

Part of this comes down to asking songwriters if he can turn negatives into positives (but with their permission of curse, says the gentlemanlyCampbell) and accommodating whereCampbells heart is now. Shell be running around the mountain just doesnt sound right, he laughs. It aint the way the song goes. Shell be coming around the mountain is more like it.

Campbell slowly and deliberately tells me how he takes songs one a at time and lets the good ones carry him away, the songs of other writers as well as the tunes presented by Raymond, a hands-on laid back producer who, during Meet Glen Campbell starting writing down what the singer said about life, confusion and happiness. Julian wrote down the the meaningful things that Glen would say about being baffled by what was going on in his head as well as how life was good to him, says Kim who recognized that Campbells memory was slipping during those 2008 recording sessions. Were so glad Julian got those meditations down and put those verses to music.

I need the ones I love more and more each day.

This is not the road I want for us.

MentionCampbells famed sense of perfection and he laughs. Nah. I may sound like one, he laughs. But I want it be natural. If I get a song a GOOD song I just sing it the way I hear it in my head. If anybody else wanted to add whistles and bells and chains rattling thats fine. Just not too much. I actually just do things as straight ahead as possible. You add the ifs, ands or buts.

To that end, Ghost has the richly orchestrated jangle of Pet Sounds with a country twang.

Campbellknows hes been blessed with great collaborators and productions, a powerful clear voice that was forever gifted with dynamic songs that suited his vocal range and challenged his playing skills.

Things turned out pretty well, saysCampbell.

Pretty well indeed.

Blame in part having come from a large all-singing all playing Arkansas family who took Glen to church regularly to express him self in song. Other than getting his fisrt guitar at age four, a seminal moment forCampbellcame when he nearly drowned at age 3. His Army-bound brothers dragged him out of the water, pumped the water and did CPR on the young Glen. That night back at the house while keeping time to the radio, I didnt say anything. I just sang. Something had changed me.

His distinct guitar playing, inspired by the likes of Barney Kessel and Django Reinhardt (Django was my main influence) gave him the confidence to form western swing bands and, by age twenty-one, head toLos Angeleswhere he quickly became a sought-after session musician. I think I mainly got all that work because I was the only guy who could use a capo, he laughs.

As he was just starting to make his session-man bones, he recorded a single for the Crest label. When I mention that 1961 track to him, Turn Around Look at Me,Campbellflashes a big smile.Well I thought that was it you know, smiles Campbell who starts singing the lines there is someone/walking behind me so mellifluously, its as if hes a kid in 1960 again. Even then I did songs that I liked, never tunes that I didnt care for. Otherwise it wouldnt be satisfying.

Campbellstops, leans into me and turns to his wife. Excuse me, honey, says Campbell who then turns from his wife and conspiratorially pulls me forward. His long fingers become a circle with another finger on his other hand barely peeking through the top. Hes made a tiny cock of it all.Its like a guy going into a whorehouse with THIS little thing and the woman says well who you going to satisfy with THAT?. And he says ME. That old joke, that stupid analogy thats the best way of describing what I want to do: satisfy me.

Campbellfast-forwards and says he did things he didnt want to do: lousy albums, hell-raising backstage antics of cocaine, booze and sex. I spent some time in Hell, he smiles. I got so high I could fart in a Martin box, he starts slapping his knee. Im glad thats over with it was a stupid place. I drowned, he starts to say, realizing that he told me that story before. Then again, perhaps he meant the psychic drowning that led to the rejuvenation of finding God and his wife. (He teases about meeting her on a blind date. I thought she was blind, he yuks then quacks like Daffy Duck.)

Ducking backwards to his session career and Turn Around he mentions how he stayed in the studio and played for the greats so that he stay home and make more money doing session work than he could promoting a struggling single on the road.

The wrongs of the road remind him of Elvis Presley, an old friend whose Viva Las Vegas he played on. He was a good man but I understood the peril his career had taken on. I didnt have the luggage he had, that entourage he has to take care of. I shouldve kicked his ass from here toJapanto get some sense in him. His old friends fromMemphiswere just bringing young girls backstage and crap like that -distracting him.

Campbellwent on to work and play with the Beach Boys and was nearly the front man when Brian Wilson broke down and left in 1965 yetCampbellwas more into doing his own music than joining a band (Capitol wound up signingCampbellon the basis of his strong showing with the Beach Boys). Plus, you know, Mike Love was there. Hes talented, but,Campbellscrunches his face.

The youngCampbellcontinued to play on records by Frank (Strangers in the Night) and Dean (Everybody Loves Somebody Sometimes) guys a generation before him the establishment before the counter cultural hippie-dippie movement took hold. He was no hippie but he was a young cat. What was he thinking?They were the tops. If you heard their stuff up close and saw them on stage they were incredible actually, says Capmbell of the Rat Pack titans. There was no mistaking their voices or their presence.Campbellwas hanging on the musician side of everything, playing guitar by their side. .But he got wise watching those men that singing would get him farther.

Enter guys like Jimmy Webb and John Hartford, songwriters whose best work came through the conduit ofCampbells rich voice. It was a blast according toCampbell, wonderful those melodies at his ready and those sorts of storytellers in his corner. If you have guys like this in your corner, you better have your chute together or you wont get down, he laughs. In particular,Campbellhas a warm long smile reserved for Webbs longing literate lyrics and winnowing melodies. My wife will tell you. I pray to the Lord and thank Him for letting me do those songs. When my dad heard those tunes he said its a good thing we didnt throw you back in the water. (Kim reminds me how, famously that Webb used to pray, after hearing Turn around Look at Me thatCampbellwould sing his songs)

Though the Ghost-ly songs of Westerberg and Pollard arent quite the stuff of Galveston and Wichita Lineman they are crucial, rare and deeply ruminative. They feel like the contemplative stuff of a finale. At 75 anybody at 75 the level of winding down that theCampbells plan on doing would seem essential and right. While Kim confides to me that she wishes they did more recording during the Branson days, she also mentions more tracks featuring Campbell and their kids, might be recorded at tours end. We still have a few special tricks up our sleeves. Other than that, were happy to go toHawaii, watch Glen golf and sit by the side as the kids start their career, says Kim Campbell..

As for Glen Campbell, a singer and guitarist whose recent tour finds him in strong voice and ticklish guitar skills, hes content to go out with an album as rich as Ghosts on the Canvas. I want to slow down you know, its really about whatever she wants to do but the record? You throw them out to the world and hope it comes back positive. Im glad it turned out as well as it did. I have to listen to it, you know.

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Wealthy actress with self-awareness deficit criticizes Trump women for their ‘privilege’ – Washington Examiner

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Chloe Grace Moretz is making it too easy. In an interview with Variety published Tuesday, the 20-year-old actress took a swipe at the women of the Trump family that betrayed a next-level lack of self-awareness.

"Some people are in a bubble?" "Veiled curtains of privilege?"

Of Moretz's 20 years on earth, she has spent 13 in the thick bubble of show business. By the age of 19, she had purchased a $3.4 million, 56,000-square-foot home outside Los Angeles.

Speaking of people being "aware of their surroundings," does Moretz's personal "compass of what is real" point out that she is quite literally surrounded by a home gym and a spa? Or by wealthy, coastal entertainment industry insiders? Perhaps the view of her own wealth and insulation is blocked by those annoying "curtains of privilege" she so detests.

Don't get me wrong, Moretz deserves to enjoy her successes and run on a treadmill in the comfort of her own home. But, you know how the saying goes, those who live in massive glass houses shouldn't throw stones at other people who live in massive glass houses for living in massive glass houses. Did I get that right?

Next time, Moretz might do well to heed her own advice.

Emily Jashinsky is a commentary writer for the Washington Examiner.

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7 Reasons Self-Awareness Leads to Success – PayScale Career News (blog)

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There are so many different skills that experts say can help you attain professional success. Some are especially valued in some lines of work, but dont matter much in others. But, some of the most important skills are extremely valuable regardless of industry.

Self-awareness is one of those most essential skills for any professional, regardless of what you do for a living. It can help lead to success in so many ways.

When you know yourself, you know your strengths. This gives you a better understanding of the unique qualities you bring to your interactions with others and to your work. You can lean on your strengths during difficult times to help you, and others, get through.

Similarly, its important to understand your weaknesses in order to continue to grow professionally. This is more difficult than it seems at first. It can be hard to take a good, honest look in the mirror. But, self-awareness can help you pinpoint what you need to improve.

We need to be self-aware enough to get that were only human in order to face our strengths and our weaknesses with maturity. When you develop self-awareness, it makes it easier to take the good with the bad, forgive yourself, and move forward.

Self-awareness can help improve your career because it makes it easier to understand how others see you. This is key for success. Its essential to be aware of the perceptions of higher-ups, of course, but its also important to know how you come off when youre working in a leadership capacity.

Put simply, the qualities commonly associated with management and leadership being authoritative, decisive, forceful, perhaps somewhat controlling,if not moderated by a high degree of awareness as to how one comes across and is perceived by others, are also qualities that have the potential to easily alienate those on the receiving end, writes Victor Lipman at Forbes.

In another Forbes article, Lipman addresses the important topic of leadership and self-awareness. He highlights a study that was conducted in 2010 by Green Peak Partners andCornells School of Industrial and Labor Relations. This study looked at 72 executives, and concluded that high self-awareness often correlates with achieving high degrees of success as a leader. Per the research:

Leadership searches give short shrift to self-awareness, which should actually be a top criterion. Interestingly, a high self-awareness score was the strongest predictor of overall success. This is not altogether surprising as executives who are aware of their weaknesses are often better able to hire subordinates who perform well in categories in which the leader lacks acumen. These leaders are also more able to entertain the idea that someone on their team may have an idea that is even better than their own.

Self-awareness goes a long way toward improving people-skills overall. Without it, youre more likely to misunderstand situations and misread people. You learn to understand other people a little better once you yourself have become more self-aware. After all, how can you really have a mature understanding of what its like to be someone else if you dont have a good understanding of your own experiences.

Its often better to focus on your own actions rather than on others, especially when trying to solve a problem. People who are self-aware start by examining what they can change, personally, in order to succeed. Others might begin by pointing a finger at others.

Self-awareness leads to self-responsibility. And, that goes a long way to support positive behaviors and positive interpersonal relationships. Chances are that developing better self-awareness will have a positive impact on your personal life, too.

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‘Difficult People’ star Julie Klausner: making it look easy – Norfolk Daily News

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NEW YORK (AP) Perhaps no show in TV history ever had a title that was better suited to it: Difficult People.

In this Hulu comedy, 30-something best friends Julie and Billy form a pushy, shameless united front as they wage war with New York and the world of show business they half-heartedly are trying to break into.

The upshot for viewers as they feast on this screwball, cringey series third season (which premieres Tuesday): Their difficulty not busting a gut.

Difficult People flings snark at Woody Allen, David Blaine, Passover, unhinged subway riders, a government initiative to deprogram gays, and Alcoholics Anonymous.

It finds Julie and Billy ducking into a church sanctuary to charge their phones but, when she finds no outlet there, blurting out indignantly, What is this place good for?

The show spoofs drug advertising with its commercial for Ridshadovan, an antidepressant that personifies depression as a sour, cronish woman who stalks the sufferer (including Julie, who finds this TV sourpuss actually stalking her).

The difficult duo of Difficult People are portrayed by Billy Eichner and Julie Klausner, with the jams they get into flowing from the mind of Klausner, who also created and writes the show.

Its a love story, she says. Granted, Julie lives with an ever-submissive partner (played by James Urbaniak, one among the series splendid troupe). Billy, a gay man, looks elsewhere for his flings.

But Billy and Julie share a transcendent bond.

The fact that we are so loyal to each other buys us a lot of real estate in the Being Horrible Department, Klausner says.

So its them against the world, armed with rat-a-tat, pop-culture-powered dialogue that spares nothing and no one. (Ever since President Trump replaced the Department of Health with Jenny McCarthys blog, says Billy, nothing makes sense.)

One of the most romantic things of all is finding someone you can hate everything else with, Klausner notes. Theres definitely a lot of opinions expressed by these characters. And a lot of agreement: They harmonize in stirring up their chaos.

The real-life team of Klausner and Eichner first joined forces on Billy on the Street, the breathless sidewalk quiz show for which she served as a producer. Its off-the-cuff style and pop-culture frenzy is akin to the meticulously scripted Difficult People she would mastermind soon after.

I spent more time with TV and movies than I did playing outside with people my age, the way healthy children are supposed to do, says Klausner, explaining her store of knowledge. Popular culture is the language I speak. And Billy speaks it too.

Earlier in her career, she applied that passion to churning out recaps of reality-show episodes. (Which, between auditions and capers with Billy, is what Julie does for money on Difficult People.)

For Klausner, recaps provided a great training ground for writing snappy commentary. She loved it.

But there is something about recap culture that feels like youre on the outside looking in, she says. Youre commenting on something that you really want to be making instead. So I definitely leaned into that with the character Julie, who feels like an outsider and is really frustrated.

Obviously, Real-Life-Julie and TV-Julie part ways in many respects. The red hair, air of mischief, and rapid-fire delivery are all the same.

But Im not stupid, and she kinda is, says Klausner, citing one distinction. She knows a lot about certain things. But she has no self-awareness. She is not enough of an adult to learn how to play the game. She doesnt do the work. Shes very stubborn: Ill stay exactly the way I am, and the world will come around to me.

Also: Unlike TV-Julie, mired lackadaisically with her boyfriend, Real-Life-Julie is currently single.

Im very picky, she cracks I want someone who is damaged in a very specific way.

Finally: What about Klausners emotional state?

In a touching scene, TV-Julie declares, I am an unhappy person. But the alternative is being somebody I dont know.

Klausner admits depression is definitely something Ive struggled with, but bursting out with a laugh, she adds, Im happier than I was before I had the TV show!

And the show is very therapeutic. Its definitely very helpful to be able to write about being a quote-unquote unhappy person, and in the process become a happier person and make other people feel like theyre not alone.

Thats what she demonstrates with Difficult People: You never feel alone when youre laughing.

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Sidney B. Simon: Advises self-awareness to avoid driving mishaps – GazetteNET

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I read with great interest the report from Hadley Police Sgt. Mitchell Kuc, who remarked that the majority of the 400-500 accidents they dealt with happen on the towns Main Drag, Route 9 (Hadley police get unexpected clue in search for hit-and-run suspect, July 5).

It made me think about the causes, how fast they happen, and which are ones I am sometimes guilty of. I hope those who read this will look inside themselves, as well. Eight possible causes of fender benders:

1. Cell Phone behavior.

2. Reaching to change the station on the radio.

3. Driving with food or drink in one hand.

4. Distracted by someone walking by.

5. Leaning down to change the air conditioning controls.

6. Distracted by someone in a car in the opposite lane.

7. Following too close to be able to stop in time when the car in front of you suddenly jams on the brakes.

8. Finally, being too greedy to get ahead in the merges where double lanes get squeezed into one.

Id hate to see my lovely 1995 Toyota Celica Convertible banged by anyone doing any of these 8 dangerous and often mindless causes of accidents.

Sidney B. Simon


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Yoga helps foster deeper self awareness – Calgary Herald

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You may have heard Yoga practice compared to the lotus flower, the flower of a thousand petals that grows in muddy waters.The metaphor that we are like the lotus flower, continuously creating and recreating itself and a reminder that we are in a constant state of renewal.

Yoga instructor Johanna Steinfeld demonstrates the viparita virabhadrasana with tree support pose.Gavin Young / Postmedia

The dedicated practitioner of Yoga practice will observe a multitude of blessings present and unfold themselves slowly and overtime.These are experienced initially by the physical body in forms of more flexibility, strength and improved ability to balance.Later on they are experienced more deeply as one penetrates the layers of the body to the more subtle realm and to fostering a quieter more relaxed mind.One will cultivate a deeper internal intelligence and learn how to listen and adjust to what the body is trying to tell you.

Yoga instructor Johanna Steinfeld demonstrates the modified adho mukha svanasana / downward facing dog with tree support.Gavin Young / Postmedia

The longer we have a relationship to our Yoga practice the more deeply these things unfold and open.

Like a cherished relationship that deepens and evolves over time, Yoga is the doorway to creating a strong and healthy relationship with all parts of yourself

Our bodies are made for full movement and huge range of motions.Yoga has us exploring movement in every direction and encourages us to keep our bodies connected, healthy and aligned.We practicepostures that work the left side of the body, the right side of the body and the centre line of the body.We expand, extend and work at opening the body in every plane and to moving with more awareness.And along the way, we grow ourselves from the inside out.

Yoga instructor Johanna Steinfeld demonstrates the modified virabhadrasana I / warrior 1 with tree to support the chest and shoulder opening for her August 2017 yoga column.Gavin Young / Postmedia

Overtime we learn to attune to what is happening deep within us.We have one side thats stronger and one side thats weaker.One side that is more open and one side that is more tight.Sometimes the disparity is obvious and sometimes it is more subtle.

Yoga practice shows us these subtle imbalances with constant illumination.We learn to work with the body to help create ease caused by misalignment and lack of awareness.And along the way we are bringing back to life what may have gone to sleep.

An example from one of my personal habits is that I hold my head slightly tilted to the right. I have learned that when I do this my ribs shift slightly to the left, my right hip lifts a little higher than the left and I am putting more weight and more pressure onto my right knee.Now that I am awake to the effects this small head tilt has on my body, I am working hard to break this habit and carry my entire structure in better balance.It is not easy to break our personal habits, but the work and effort will hopefully help elude bigger problems down the road.

The following poses will encourage you to stretch out both sides of your body.Pay attention to where things are tight.Move slowly and with your breathPractice patience, practice awareness and practice Yoga tree is optionalTo be guided in and out of each of the following poses, follow along with the attached video.

Be advised that it is always best to practice under the watchful eye of a dedicated Yoga teacher to grow your practice safely and slowly.

May your practice grow like the lotus flower, and may you be at home in the muddy waters.

Johanna Steinfeld teaches Yoga to people just like you in Calgary SW. http://www.itsjustyoga.comJoin me for a Yoga Vacation and Retreat at the Villa Sumaya eco resort on beautiful Lake Atitlan, Guatamala this October.All levels of Yogis

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(1) Science and Christ

(2) Appearance Of Man

(3) Christianity and Evolution

(4) Let Me Explain

(5) The Phenomenon of Man

(6) The Future of Man

(7) Toward the Future

(8) Heart of Matter

(9) Letters to Two Friends

(10) The Divine Milieu

(11) Writings in Time of War

(12) Letters From A Traveler

(13) Human Energy

(14) Hymn of the Universe

(15) Man's Place in Nature

(16) On Love and Happiness

(17) Vision of the Past

(18) Letters to Lucile Swan

(19) Letters to Leontine Zanta

(20) Activation of Energy

(21) The Making of a Mind

Getting to Know Who I Am (SELF-AWARENESS & IDENTITY)

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From birth, every child begins to construct a unique identity. This identity, or mental picture of themselves, helps give them a sense of who they are, who they can be, and where they fit in the world.

Childrens identities are shaped by many factors including their physical appearance, gender, age, ethnicity, religion, socio-economic status, strengths, education, relationships, social roles, media and culture. They might reflect this identity in a myriad of ways through their choice of clothes, hairstyle, music, physiology, language, attitudes, behaviours, interests, activities, and groups to which they belong. And as they get older and have new experiences, their identities will evolve and grow.

Helping children get to know who they are, what they are capable of, and all the things that make them special, is an important part of their development. For as their sense of self develops, so too does their confidence, self-esteem, and ability to achieve their true potential. And ...

... once you see a childs self-image begin to improve, you will see significant gains in achievement areas, but even more importantly, you will see a child who is beginning to enjoy life more (Wayne Dyer).

A good way to help children become aware of how they are deriving their sense of identity is to get them to watch out for I statements. For example I am ... reveals a childs beliefs about who they are; I can .... reflects what they think they can do; I have ... indicates the things or possessions they use to define themselves; and I like refers to their personal preferences or likes. But the important thing is to notice the words they use to finish these sentences, because any time they start with an "I" statement, they are effectively creating what they will do and experience in life.

Getting children to identify their strengths is a particularly useful step in this self-awareness process. Thats because every child, regardless of their individual circumstances, has strengths that are unique to them. Recognising their strengths allows them to positively focus on what they are doing successfully, as well as consider how they can apply their strengths to bring about the changes they want in their lives.

But it is important to note that a childs identity can only ever be a perception of who they think they are. In fact, the word identification is derived from the Latin word idem, meaning same and facere, which means to make. In other words, children choose to make certain things the same as themselves, or part of their identity, based on the way they perceive the world. The problem is when children base their identities on faulty thinking; for example, I didnt do well in the test again. Im an idiot, a failure, a loser. But just because they think this way, doesnt make it the truth, nor does it serve any useful purpose. And in holding onto this false identity, they essentially rob themselves of their true potential. Thats because when they label themselves as a certain type of person, only capable of limited things, then they can only ever hope for limited outcomes.

The key then, is to help children stick to the facts, not be so limited in their definitions of who they think they are, and always use positive "I" statements. For what what they think and believe about themselves will affect everything they do and achieve in life.

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Helping People Get to Know Themselves

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Telling your story helps people get to know you.

Developing self-awareness is important for better relationships and for a more fulfilling life, both in the workplace and at home.

With a good understanding of how we relate to others, we can adjust our behavior so that we deal with them positively. By understanding what upsets us, we can improve our self-control. And by understanding our weaknesses, we can learn how to manage them, and reach our goals despite them.

However, it's difficult to be objective when we think about ourselves, and how others actually see us can be quite different from what we think they see.

There are ways in which people can develop self-awareness on their own. However, coaching can be a better way of helping people view their own actions and reactions objectively, so it's useful for helping people to build self-awareness.

In this article we'll look at six approaches that you can use to help others build this self-awareness.

Some of the approaches we describe are useful generally within the workplace, while others are only really appropriate in situations where the person you're coaching has a very close and trusting relationship with you. Choose the approach that suits the situation.

As with all types of coaching, feedback is important. But feedback - even very accurate feedback - can be nothing more than interesting information, unless it causes the person being coached to change his or her perspective in quite a fundamental way. Do what you can to support these changes in perspective.

Psychometric tests are useful for giving people an objective view of how they behave, and how they compare in outlook with others. The answers they give categorize them by the personality traits or preferences they show, and then provide some commentary on these.

Of course, none of these tools captures the richness and uniqueness of an individual person. But they can point out the similarities and differences between people.

One useful personality model, the Big Five or OCEAN model, looks at five main features of human personality: Openness, Conscientiousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism. This tool can help people understand more about themselves and others. Tests like this one can give people a great insight into their behavior and performance in the workplace.

Another popular test, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (or MBTI) is useful for understanding our preferences for interacting with others, how we like to receive information, and how we make decisions.

Other psychometric tests can be used for other purposes, and it's worth exploring the full range of these to understand what you can do with them.

Once the people you're coaching have taken these tests, you can explore what the test results mean, and help them think about what have learned about themselves, and the way they interact with other people.

It's important that you, as the coach, are familiar with these tools before you use them with people in your team.

We often discover new things about ourselves when we're in unusual situations, or facing new challenges. Our reactions or responses to new environments, new people, or new demands can help us understand how we deal with some of the more familiar aspects of our lives. However, rather than waiting for new experiences to arrive, it can be really valuable to look for them proactively.

We can do this for ourselves by taking different types of vacations, or experimenting with new hobbies, for example. We may find hidden talents, or things about ourselves that we didn't know about - particularly when the new activities are stimulating and energizing.

One way of doing this in the workplace is to encourage people to explore unfamiliar roles or situations. The advantage of using coaching in these situations is that you can help the person you're coaching explore which new roles to try, and you can then help them analyze the experience afterward.

As a coach, the key is to help interpret the experience, and ensure that any learning from it passes back into the coachee's day-to-day life.

There's a big difference between reading a rsum, and meeting a candidate at a job interview. Likewise, it can be very revealing to hear someone's life story first hand.

An experienced coach who listens to someone talk about their life will see and hear so much more than simple facts. These stories can reveal whether people really understand who they are, and why their lives have turned out in the way they have.

Do they understand the impact of the way they were raised, and the influence of their friends and family on the decisions they've made so far? What types of emotional journey have they taken? Is their life full of joy, or weighed down with deep fears or anger? To what extent do their past experiences affect their current experiences? Do they accept themselves for who they are, or do they fight against this, and have a false self-perception?

Whatever the content of the story, a coach's questions and feedback often make the difference between a story that's just told, and a story that's really heard and understood - by the person being coached as much as by the coach.

It's often said that to write well, you have to write every day. By writing down your thoughts and feelings on a daily basis, you build fluency - particularly, emotional fluency. This habit also captures the mood of the moment - when reviewed at a later date, the collection of writing can help the writer understand the range of emotions he or she has experienced.

For the creative writer, this is an exercise of skill and fantasy building. But for people who write about their experiences and feelings, this regular writing improves their self-awareness.

In coaching, a coachee's daily journal is great resource to use. The journals can often be an excellent prompt for discussion during your coaching conversations.

We all play many roles in life. To some, we are colleagues; to others, we may be family or friends. Describing the role each of us plays - at work, within our family group, across our circle of friends, or in our local community - builds a picture of how we see ourselves relative to others.

In coaching, the way the person being coached perceives his or her role can help you understand their underlying motivation for achieving tasks and goals. It can also help explain why coachee's may fail to make progress towards their goals and objectives. If you have issues with people in these areas, take your time to explore their understanding of their roles - this may provide a great opportunity to help people improve their performance.

The very best coaches are careful to tell the people they're coaching precisely the truth they need, at precisely the time they need it. When they do this, they are the perfect "mirror" for coachees to see themselves as they really are.

To do this well, coaches need to invest time and attention in understanding how people see their lives, what they're sensitive about, what energizes them, and what makes them lose energy. Within a safe and trusted coaching relationship, coachees should expect that, when asked, their coach will tell them honestly what they've seen and heard.

As well as providing this valuable feedback, the coach's role here is to help the people they're coaching to be honest and straightforward when observing their own behaviors and actions.

With high levels of self-awareness, we can find a the right direction in life, and we can build better relationships with other people. Coaching is great for helping your people build this self-awareness.

As a coach you can help the people you're coaching interpret and understand information about themselves, and there are six main approaches you can use to do this. These include examining feedback, analyzing outcomes from psychometric tests, learning from new experiences, and considering people's life stories.

Try using these approaches with your people - you'll be surprised by how powerful they can be!

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Self-awareness involves being aware of different aspects of the self including traits, behaviors and feelings. Essentially, it is a psychological state in which oneself becomes the focus of attention.

Self-awareness is one of the first components of the self-concept to emerge. While self-awareness is something that is central to each and every one of us, it is not something that we are acutely aware of at every moment of every day.

Instead, self-awareness becomes woven into the fabric of who we are and emerges at different points depending on the situation and our personality.

We are not born with self-awareness, however. Researchers have demonstrated that the awareness of ourselves begins to emerge at around one year of age and becomes much more developed by around 18 months of age.

Lewis and Brooks-Gun (1979) conducted some interesting research looking at how self-awareness develops. The researchers applied a red dot to an infant's nose and then held the child up to a mirror. Children who recognized themselves in the mirror would reach for their own noses rather than the reflection in the mirror, indicating that they had at least some self-awareness.

Lewis and Brooks-Gun found that almost no children under one year of age would reach for their own nose rather than the reflection in the mirror.

About 25 percent of the infants between 15 and 18 months reached for their own noses while about 70 percent of those between 21 and 24 months did so.

It is important to note that the Lewis and Brooks-Gun study only indicates an infant's visual self-awareness; children might actually possess other forms of self-awareness even at this early point in life.

For example, researchers Lewis, Sullivan, Stanger, and Weiss (1989) suggest that expressing emotions involves self-awareness as well as an ability to think about oneself in relation to other people.

Researchers believe that an area of the brain known as the anterior cingulate, in the frontal loberegion, plays an important role in developing self-awareness. The Lewis and Brooks-Gun experiment suggests that self-awareness begins to emerge in children around the age of 18 months, an age that coincides with the rapid growth of spindle cells in the anterior cingulate. Researchers have also used brain imaging to show that this region becomes activated in adults who are self-aware.

Psychologists often break self-awareness down into two different types, either public or private.

This type emerges when people are aware of how they appear to others. Public self-awareness often emerges in situations when people are at the center of attention, such as when giving a presentation or talking to a group of friends.

This type of self-awareness often compels people to adhere to social norms. When we are aware that we are being watched and evaluated, we often try to behave in ways that are socially acceptable and desirable. Public self-awareness can also lead to evaluation anxiety in which people become distressed,anxious, or worried about how they are perceived by others.

This type happens when people become aware of some aspects of themselves, but only in a private way. For example, seeing your face in the mirror is a type of private self-awareness. Feeling your stomach lurch when you realize you forgot to study for an important test or feeling your heart flutter when you see someone you are attracted to are also good examples of private self-awareness.

Sometimes, people can become overly self-aware and veer into what is known as self-consciousness. Have you ever felt like everyone was watching you, judging your actions, and waiting to see what you will do next? This heightened state of self-awareness can leave you feeling awkward and nervous in some instances. In a lot of cases, these feelings of self-consciousness are only temporary and arise in situations when we are "in the spotlight." For some people, however, self-consciousness can become a chronic condition.

People who are privately self-conscious have a higher level of private self-awareness, which can be both a good and bad thing. These people tend to be more aware of their feelings and beliefs, and are therefore more likely to stick to their personal values. However, they are also more likely to suffer from negative health consequences such as increased stress and anxiety.

People who are publicly self-conscious have a higher level of public self-awareness. They tend to think more about how other people view them and are often concerned that other people might be judging them based on their looks or their actions. As a result, these individuals tend to stick to group norms and try to avoid situations in which they might look bad or feel embarrassed.

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