"Can you bring the washing in? It's starting to rain," you ask with your head in the oven as you check on the lasagne.

"Yeah, in a minute," he says from the couch, staring at his phone.

"Don't worry, I'll do it then," you say with a small huff. It's just easier to do it yourself.

What's this story about?

Even if you haven't really heard about the "gender gap" or "mental load", if you're a woman in a heterosexual relationship then you probably know what they are.

To explore these issues and how you might resolve them, we've put together a "choose your own adventure" that puts you in the story and lets you play out a common scenario and see how, or if, it changes depending on what you choose.

You can follow it just as a bit of a story, or you can take some tips and try it out in real life. It's really up to you.

You come back in with the washing basket of slightly damp clothes. He's still on the couch scrolling on his phone.

You start to hang the clothes out on the clothes horse, then stop to go get the lasagne out before it burns.

As you walk back to the oven, you notice the house plants look limp and make a mental note to water them, adding the task to the rest of what you've got to do tonight; book the dog in to see the vet, do the washing up, iron your clothes for tomorrow, research new car insurance options and is that report due tomorrow or Thursday? You'd better check.

While you're planning out your to-do list, you notice the power bill stuck on the fridge was due two days ago.

"Hey, did you pay the power bill?" you ask.

"Oh, damn. Sorry I forgot. I'll do it tomorrow can you remind me?" he says.

"I'll just pay it now," you snap, getting the bank app up on your phone.

"What's with the attitude? I said I'll do it, just leave it. You need to relax," he says.

Relax? How can you relax when you have to keep track of everything all the time? You start to see red and know you're about to blow up.

The ABC's Australia Talks National Survey reveals that when it comes to little jobs around the house, plenty of women are over it. In fact, 44 per cent of women surveyed say they would be happier if they spent less time running errands and doing chores, compared to 32 per cent of men.

We asked 54,000 people about their lives. See what they told us and how you compare.

We often hear about the gender gap in the context of the workforce (we all know men get paid more than women, right?), but data shows it's just as prevalent in the home.

Despite women working in paid employment more than they have in the past, they're still doing more of the household chores, life admin and running around after kids (if you've got them).

The 2019 HILDA Survey breaks the "female-male housework gap" down clearly.

If you are a woman in a childless couple earning the same money, you are likely doing four hours more housework per week than your male partner.

An equal-earning couples with kids? Women are doing seven hours more housework per week, plus an extra seven hours of childcare.

Even if you are the breadwinner in a family with kids, you are probably doing five hours more housework and eight hours more childcare than your partner.

And research shows men enjoy more leisure time than women, which perhaps explains what they're doing instead.

On top of that, women are often the ones to remember when the bills are due, the kid or the dog needs its vaccinations, and to remind their partner of the things they need to do.

That stuff is sometimes called the the mental load; the organising, list-making and planning that you do to manage your life and the life of those dependent on you.

And here's the thing, being the boss of your own household might sound like a powerful role, but it doesn't exactly help you build a rsum and get a promotion, and it means you have less time to look after yourself.

It can also impact how your partner feels about themselves. You probably don't mean to, but telling someone what to do, or taking control all the time, can send the message that they're not good enough.

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While almost half of the Australians surveyed in the ABC's Australia Talks National Survey consider themselves to be feminists, one in five think our society would be better off if more women stayed home with their children.

And one in three Aussies think changing expectations around gender roles have made life more difficult for men, including 44 per cent of men themselves.

So how do we improve things?

It sounds cliche, but talking about it can be important especially with your partner.

Inequity in roles can cause both stress and resentment, which can erode a sense of wellbeing and relationship satisfaction.

Starting a conversation about the mental load can help even things up between a couple, and can bring you closer together.

If you're both keeping track of household chores and sharing the work, you'll both have more time to devote to each other and less time feeling resentful or downtrodden.

There is also research that domestic fairness is positively correlated to a better sex life! Who doesn't want that?

For bigger picture stuff, breaking out of traditional gender roles helps everybody, not just women.

And the more we break down those gender roles and have real conversations that lead to action, the more society can begin to reflect equality and respect for everyone, regardless of gender.

We spoke with a wide range of psychologists, social workers and therapists who all work in the field of relationships while putting this guide together.

Special thanks goes to Relationships Australia NSW CEO Elisabeth Shaw, relationship counsellor Paul Gale-Baker, couple and family therapist Jacqueline McDiarmid, psychologist Annie Cantwell-Bart and Lee Town, director of Anger Management Institute Australia.

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After record-breaking heat over the summer, many have been looking forward to autumn, but not those of us bracing ourselves for seasonal affective disorder, a major recurrent depressive disorder that causes and exacerbates episodes of depression annually.

An estimated 10 million Americans are affected by it, and the disorder is most common in women ages 18-30, according to Psychology Today.

If youre already prone to depressive tendencies the rest of the year, you too may be bracing yourself for less sunlight and less warmth. It might not help that this year, the fall colors are expected to be less vibrant here in Northeast Tennessee.

Seasonal affective disorder, or SAD (an appropriate acronym, might I add), is usually most prevalent in the winter months of December, January and February due to the colder weather and shorter days, but many experience a decline in energy and motivation as early as October.

Much of this has to do with the lack of sunlight as the days get shorter, which causes our brains to produce more melatonin, a hormone that makes us sleepy and lethargic. As this is happening, our brains produce less serotonin, the hormone responsible for managing stress and mood balance.

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the symptoms of the winter blues often include increased suicidal thoughts, change in appetite, irritability, oversleeping, decreased physical activity, a heavy feeling in the limbs, hypersensitivity to social rejection, general dysphoria and more.

Treatment options can include some combination of light therapy, vitamin D supplementation, antidepressant medications (in serious cases) and counseling. Mental health experts recommend trying to stay physical while taking advantage of available sunlight whenever possible. Its also important to plan pleasurable activities with friends whenever possible.

Two years ago, when I touched on the topic with East Tennessee State University psychology professor Julia Dodd, I was bracing myself for a change in my own mood. She also recommended staying busy to maintain a positive attitude and resist the tendency to self-isolate.

Some of the ways to ward that (SAD) off is to make sure youre staying active, staying involved socially, doing the things you enjoy and getting out of the house as much as possible, Dodd said.

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MONTREAL Nick Seeler has gotten quite familiar with NHL press boxes the past couple of weeks. Thats what happens when you dont play. As the Wild have stumbled to a 1-5-0 start, Seeler has been relegated to watching from above as Carson Soucy has taken his minutes on the blue line.

Its been really difficult, said Seeler, a 26-year-old from Eden Prairie. I love to compete and help the team in any way I can, and when Im not in its obviously hard to do that.

After two weeks of waiting, Seeler was back in the lineup for Thursday nights game against the Montreal Canadiens. It is his first time playing since the season opener against the Nashville Predators, and he was eager to prove his worth to coach Bruce Boudreau.

Just compete and play simple, said Seeler, who played one season with the Gophers, in 2015-16. You dont have to do too much out there.

Thats the key to Seelers success.

Hes never going to be Ryan Suter or Matt Dumba, leading a rush up the ice, dancing on defenders in the neutral zone. The 6-foot-2, 200-pounder makes his money by being hard to play against and bringing some added toughness when needed.

Just stay composed and play my game, Seeler said. Thats what Im looking to do.

It should help that Seelers composure has been tested over the past two weeks. Instead of complaining about playing time, Seeler has made a point to stay after practice, working with assistant coach Bob Woods to make sure hes ready the next time he got back in the lineup.

Just trying to keep a positive attitude and be a good teammate, Seeler said. Theres ups and downs whenever (something like this) happens. Its just a mental thing. It can be draining being out of the lineup for that many games. As long as you stay mentally strong and persevere and work through it and try to have a good attitude every day, I think that makes it easier.

Backup goaltender Alex Stalock got the nod for Thursdays game, and while he always brings added flair with his willingness to play the puck, sometimes it gives Boudreau heart palpitations on the bench.

I think hes bored in the net, Boudreau said, joking. He just likes to play the puck all the time. Hes good at it and yet he scares me to death.

As nerve-wracking as it might be, Boudreau noted that he would never tell Stalock to change his playing style.

Thats in his blood, the coach said. If you tell him not to do it, thats really taking away part of his game.

Marcus Foligno leads the Wild with 32 hits this season. He trails only Ryan Reaves, who leads the league with 37 hits.

That physical style of play is something Wild might have to embrace even more considering they likely will be slower on the skates than most teams this season.

We have to have it because we have to be able to slow teams down that are faster than us, Boudreau said. Youve got to be able to skate with them or slow them down with hits, and Marcus has done a great job so far.

After playing in the past two games, Victor Rask did not participate in Thursdays morning skate. He is dealing with a lower-body injury, according to Boudreau, though the severity of the injury is unclear.

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A few intriguing studies suggest that a youthful frame of mind can have a powerful effect. When scientists trick older people into feeling younger, most tend to instantly become more capable. In a 2013 experiment by Dr. Stephan and colleagues, for example, peoples grip strength significantly improved after they were told that they were stronger than most people their age. A Chinese study published last November in the journal Aging & Mental Health found that people performed better on a memory task after being told they were sharper than others their age.

Whether these findings translate into real-world situations, however, is uncertain. In a 2018 German study, investigators asked people in their 60s, 70s and early 80s how old they felt, then measured their walking speed in two settings. Participants walked 20 feet in the laboratory while being observed and timed. They also wore belts containing an accelerometer while out and about in their daily lives. Those who reported feeling younger tended to walk faster during the lab assessment. But feeling younger had no impact on their walking speed in real life. Instead, the researchers found, the ones who walked faster were those who walked the most.

What makes subjective age such a powerful predictor? Dr. Stephan believes that people possess intuitive information about their physical abilities, mental sharpness and emotional stability, all of which gets distilled into a single meaningful number.

But critics assert that for many, subjective age simply reflects cultural obsessions with youth. People cultivate a younger identity to fend off stereotypes of frailty and senility, said David Weiss, a life span psychologist at the University of Leipzig. If old age werent negatively valued, you wouldnt have the need to say that you feel younger, he said.

Indeed, in cultures where elders are respected for their wisdom and experience, people dont even understand the concept of subjective age, he said. When a graduate student of Dr. Weisss did research in Jordan, the people he spoke with would say, Im 80. I dont know what you mean by How old do I feel?

Paradoxically, older people may hold warm feelings for their generation even as they feel distaste for people their age. In a 2012 experiment, Dr. Weiss and a colleague divided 104 people aged 65 to 88 into two groups. Everyone had to complete five sentences, but one group was asked to describe people their age, while the other was asked about their generation.

The first group wrote things like People of my age are afraid and worry about the future and People of my age often talk about their illnesses. The generation-oriented group displayed a stronger sense of empowerment and meaning. They wrote things like People of my generation were the 68ers who founded a more civil society, a reference to the student protest movements of the late 1960s, and People of my generation should pass on their life experience to the youth. One way to combat internalized ageism, Dr. Weiss suggests, is to identify with ones generation.

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You are who you associate yourself with

That's what I discovered through my "Rich Habits" study, in which I spent five years interviewing and researching the daily activities, habits and traits of 233 wealthy individuals (with at least $160,000 in annual gross income and $3.2 million in net assets) and 128 low-income individuals (with at least $35,000 in annual gross income and $5,000 in liquid assets).

It's human nature to associate ourselves with like-minded people with whom we feel the most comfortable.

The ultra wealthy and successful, however, are a lot more selective when it comes to who they allow into their inner circle. Nearly all of the self-made millionaires I interviewed said one of their top priorities was cultivating "rich relationships" and avoiding the "toxic" ones.

It's important to note that a "rich relationship" is defined by mindset, rather than wealth.

In other words, individuals who contribute to rich relationships don't necessarily have big bank accounts (though they do know how to save money and don't spend recklessly), but they all have lofty goals and aspirations and they spend much of their time trying to achieve them.

"I limit my exposure to toxic, negative people," one individual in the wealthy group of my study told me. "Some of them may bring you down and infect you with their negativity, which can undermine your ability to creatively find solutions to problems and overcome obstacles."

And it makes sense, doesn't it? Those with a positive attitude are better able to stay focused on seeking and finding solutions to their problems. Positivity can make you a problem-solver, whereas negativity can make you a problem-finder.

Based on my research, individuals who contribute to rich relationships have at least one or several of the following traits:

As for the people who often contribute to "toxic relationships," they usually have a very pessimistic view on everything and a "poor, poor me" attitude. They rarely take any sort of responsibility for the circumstances in life.

Those in the wealthy group essentially see their relationships as trees: in order for their roots to grow, they must be nurtured.

Even billionaires Bill Gates and Warren Buffett agree that by choosing the right group of friends, you can push yourself to achieve bigger professional goals. "You will move in the direction of the people that you associate with," Buffett once said.

Making sure the relationship thrives and continues to do so over time takes a lot of work and commitment. Here are the four most common things the self-made millionaires in my study did every day to deepen and maintain their rich relationships:

We are only as successful as the people we spend the most time with. If you want to create and grow your wealth, you have to evaluate each of your relationships and determine whether it's rich or toxic.

Tom Corley is an accountant, financial planner and author of "Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to Be Happy and Successful in Life" and "Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals."

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THERE is a theory that a majority of Scots voted No in the 2014 independence referendum because as a nation we lack the self-confidence needed to take matters into our own hands. Believing in ourselves and being willing to portray an image of success doesnt always come naturally to us. It is why we specialise in self-deprecation and cast a suspicious eye at anyone considered acting above their station.

It perhaps also partially explains a lack of recent success on the sporting front. Despite the proliferation of sports psychologists and the recent fad for visualisation and mental stimulus techniques, you do sometimes wonder if our athletes really genuinely believe they deserve to be on the same level as the best in the world. Drilling deep into the Scots psyche to discover more on this would surely be an instructive but time-consuming exercise.

Recent national performances in our two most popular sports - football and rugby - have been largely lamentable. The mens football team have struggled for so long now that the country has almost become inured to their failures. An entire generation or two have known nothing but a world where Scotland doesnt compete at major events.

The womens team have offered some sunshine among the gloom but even their recent World Cup adventure ended in the sort of catastrophic fashion their male colleagues appear to have patented. Throwing away a three-goal lead in a decisive match before a finger-pointing post-mortem after a few drinks felt typically Scottish.

Rugby has offered little respite. Having pushed to be given the opportunity to qualify for a World Cup quarter-final place in the aftermath of a typhoon, it was Scotland who ended up being blown away. Japan showed national spirit and determination in droves as their visitors meekly capitulated. Ah well, a nation shrugged. Never mind.

It is in danger of becoming a vicious cycle. The lack of success on the international front not only damages those involved but has a detrimental effect on those coming after them, looking for inspiration.

Where are the role models? Who should young Scots be looking to emulate? Is it any surprise that many younger football fans prefer to pull on the shirts of Belgium, Brazil or France rather than their own? These, after all, are the countries their heroes play for.

The few who have broken the trend by succeeding at world level have done so by detaching from that debilitating Scottish cringe. Andy Murray may be self-deprecating and self-effacing away from tennis but on court his sense of belief has always been unshakeable.

Born in Scotland but nurtured in Barcelona, his confidence and desire to prove himself rather than worry what others may think seems almost un-Scottish. His tenacity to keep playing when the end seemed nigh was another indication of his unique mental strength. We should cherish him while we can as there may not be another like him for quite some time.

Josh Taylor is another blessed with the requisite focus and self-confidence to compete with the best. Scotlands only current boxing world champion faces his toughest test to date next Saturday when he takes on Regis Prograis in the final of the Muhammad Ali Trophy.

Self-belief is a vital component in any boxers make-up but Taylors calm assurance doesnt seem in any way contrived or artificial. If he could transplant that attitude into some of his compatriots then perhaps Scotland could go back to enjoying wider sporting success.

Nostalgia is rarely an accurate barometer for comparing eras but, growing up in the 1980s and 1990s, we never seemed short of national heroes. It proves that being Scottish need not be a barrier to success. As a nation we just need to somehow find a way to get that gallus swagger back again.

TALKING of boxing.there was sad news earlier this week when Patrick Day became the fourth fighter this year to lose his life as a result of injuries sustained in the ring. The Americans death has again promoted calls from brain injury charities and others for the sport to be banned.

It is a natural reaction to what many will consider an entirely avoidable outcome. And it is easy to see why opponents see it as an illogical, dangerous and often barbaric pastime.

But to throw the towel in on boxing completely would be an overreaction to a still mercifully rare tragedy. The argument that even a solitary death in the sporting arena is one too many is a strong one but misses the point when it comes to boxing.

Day and the others who sadly lost their lives this year stepped voluntarily and willingly into the ring every time. There was no conscription required.

There are a myriad reasons why boxers take up the sport to get fit, to scratch a competitive itch, in search of fame and fortune or simply for the visceral thrill of it all but all do so of their own free will and mindful of the dangers they face while doing so.

It takes a certain kind of bravery to step into a ring knowing there will be someone standing just a few feet away intent on delivering relentless physical damage to your wellbeing until one of you can stand it no longer.

But those who have tragically succumbed to their injuries all willingly accepted that risk to participate in a sport they loved.

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On Syokaun-Dori Avenue, about a half-hour train ride away from Tokyo Stadium where Johnny Sexton, on Friday, went through the captains run under heavy cloud cover, hard-charging city bikers like to wait until the lights turn green so they can then wheelie through the hundred odd-metres of open road in front of them, their machines screaming through a patch of the city where the bars stay open from early until early and the street soundtrack seems permanently set to Heartbeat City by The Cars.

And its just there, if you walk down the narrow alley between Sushi Zanmai restaurant and the Family Mart convenience store and keep going past the dentists and the small family homes, that you will come to the modest plaque at the elementary school marking the former home where Patrick Lafcadio Hearn died.

He remains Japans most famous Irishman and was gone in 1904, a year before Dave Gallaher took his New Zealand team on the tour of the old countries which started the All Blacks rugby furnace.

The only connection between the two men is a kind of restlessness and the creation of a new identity common to so many epic Irish stories. Hearns story has been well documented over this World Cup: his personality shaped by the horrific fact of his abandonment, in Dublin, by his Irish father and Greek mother before he was moved like an unwanted parcel by relatives from London to America, where he became famous as a journalist and writer, before discovering Japan at the age of 39 and never leaving.

By the time of his death 15 years later, he had achieved a kind of sacred status as a tireless collector of Japanese ghost stories and myths, had changed his name to Koizumi Yakumo, and had at last both psychically and geographically placed an enormous distance between himself and his grim early years in Victorian Dublin.

He was into trippy imagery, but its hard to know what Hearn would have made of Tokyo this weekend, with many thousands of Irish faces and accents drifting through the metropolis on their way down to the game.

The build-up to this quarter-final has been neutral on the surface, but its not hard to detect a slightly tetchy edge about New Zealands attitude to Ireland right now: that the feisty if once-reliably beatable party animals from the land that gave them Gallaher has become an itch they just cant wait to scratch preferably through a scatter of breathtaking tries.

Not for the first time, the issue of the Haka has been brought up at both media briefings and the responses from both squads predictably measured. The Haka is a ritual that will always divide opinion but, whatever advantage it does or does not give the New Zealand team, it is regarded as a jewel in the crown by World Rugby because the spectators love it. At all New Zealand games, the Japanese fans have been thrilled by the spectacle. And the Haka is a part of New Zealand culture: their national rugby team is entitled to interpret it as they see fit.

But what is interesting about the pre-match rituals in Saturdays game is that the symbolism and meaning behind Irelands chosen anthem is so often and so easily overlooked on these days.

Its probably to their credit that Ireland rugby as an entity have never made that much of a deal of the fact that even through the most poisonous and strained of times on the island of Ireland; even when the deaths were everyday occurrences and, in act and deed, beyond the darkest imaginings of anything Lafcadio Hearn might have dreamt, that the rugby fraternity managed to scrabble together southern Catholics and Ulster unionists with no common ground except for their love of the game. That they played together was, in the bleakest years, a tiny but vital reason for optimism. It was a small miracle that at least that much held.

Donal Lenihan, the former Ireland great and RT analyst, has spoken and written entertainingly about the shambolic prelude to Irelands inaugural World Cup participation in 1987 when, days before the game against Wales, the squad held urgent debates as to what song they should sing if any at all.

Wales would lift Eden Park with their rendition of Land of Our Fathers. Three of Irelands rugby international stars Nigel Carr, Philip Rainey and Davy Irwin had, that April, been incidental casualties in the massive republican car bomb which killed Lord Justice Maurice Gibson and his wife. The trio had been travelling to Dublin for international training. It was a startling illustration to all living in the South of what happened if you happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Carr never played rugby again. Trevor Ringland, travelling separately, was just five minutes up the road. Jimmy McCoy, an RUC man, was heading to training on a train. He told Tom English in his acclaimed book No Borders that he immediately wondered if theyd been trying to get him. I always thought if they wanted to get me, they could get me. Representing Ireland, standing in Lansdowne, listening to Amhrn na bhFiann was hotly contentious and even a dangerous business for the players involved. It was a fraught time.

In 1987, the Irish teams chose James Lasts The Rose of Tralee as a last-ditch compromise. It went disastrously. By 1995, Phil Coulters Irelands Call was unveiled and was simultaneously acknowledged as appropriately safe and derided as an assault on music. The Derry man didnt care. It was there as a compromise, he told the Guardian just this year. And it has proven stubbornly resilient and serviceable. It has earned a kind of begrudging acceptance over the years through the absence of an alternative.

Over the past three years, as Brexit has forced a hardening of positions and attitudes in the North, memories of the pure horror and mental torture of daily life across Ulster have become sharp and refreshed. And, as the clock ticked and Westminster descended into chaos, tens of thousands of people across Northern Ireland must have shuddered at the thought that two decades of relative serenity and normality might again be threatened.

It was probably coincidental that Ireland enjoyed a golden era of rugby success in that period. But the rugby traffic across the border improved dramatically as supporters from the south made journeys for games in Dublin and Belfast that they simply wouldnt have dreamt of making during the worst of it. Ravenhill and Belfast afterwards became a good night out.

Its a good bet that people from all backgrounds and persuasions will sit down in front of the television on Saturday morning to see how the one strand in Irish life that remained united through the violence will get on in the big match.

And in the minutes beforehand, the world will pay attention to the Haka: the menacing Maori dance will steal the show. And that is fine.

But its worth remembering that when Rory Best leads off Irelands Call for what might well be the last time in his career, the vanilla words and wilfully safe music will run deeper than mere symbolism and hold the spark of what might be the most meaningful achievement in Irish rugby that its national team, its players from all corners, stayed soldiering through the worst of it so subsequent Ireland teams like this one might enjoy the best of it.

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On Saturday, No. 11 Auburn will play Akransas in Fayetteville at 11 a.m.

Auburn is coming off its first loss against Florida while Arkansas is on a three-game losing streak. The game will be critical for both teams, one whos looks to snap a losing streak and the other whos looking to prevent a losing streak.

Prior to the game, we reached out to Thomas Murphy who covers the Razorbacks for The Arkansas Democrat-Gazette to ask him some questions about the Tigers upcoming opponent. Follow Murphy on Twitter at @TomMurphyADG for more coverage on the game.

1. What was the attitude around the program following the loss to Kentucky and how has it shifted as it prepares for Auburn?

Clearly the Razorbacks are in a tough mental state after losing its third one-possession game in a row and its second SEC game in a row in which they had the ball trailing by four points with plenty of time to drive for a go-ahead touchdown. Both of those drives, with senior Ben Hicks at quarterback, were stopped on downs inside the red zone, which has been a trouble spot all year long.

The six Razorbacks who did post-practice interviews on Tuesday spoke about keeping up the fight and keeping a positive attitude in the locker room, which can be easier said than done when a team isnt succeeding in winnable games.

2. Auburn is a run-heavy offense, and its run defense is one of the best in the SEC. Will Arkansas be able to compete in the run game? Will it try to? Or will it rely on its quarterbacks completing passes?

I think the Razorbacks will have to be creative to make things happen on the ground. Running their inside zone against a mighty front with a lead back in Rakeem Boyd whose right shoulder is ailing doesnt add up to sustained success. Arkansas has not blocked well enough on the perimeter to make its jet sweep plays super productive and Auburns speed across its defense will factor into that. Arkansas will need to make some misdirection plays pay off and try to confuse the keys of the Tigers linebackers and defensive backs.

Auburns ability to attack the defensive edges is well known and it has been a soft spot for this Arkansas defense. Clearly the Tigers will try to exploit that.

3. Nick Starkel played the majority of the game against Kentucky but Ben Hicks finished it. Who is more likely to start against Auburn?

My best guess is Ben Hicks. I would not be surprised if the Razorbacks execute some kind of rotation, because theyve been more explosive (and turnover-prone) with Starkel; more alignment sound and safe with Hicks.

4. How has the team been affected by the players who left this week?

Hard to say. The players in Wednesday interviews all wished linebacker DVone McClure and cornerback Devin Bush well. I thought McClure deserved more playing time. Bush, one of the fastest defensive players, had been used sparingly, so the rotation will be impacted only if there are injuries.

5. Where does Arkansas have the most potential to hurt Auburn and what do you think the final score will be?

The Razorbacks had trouble moving the ball on Auburn last year, so theyll need creative ideas and theyll have to get the ball out quickly vs. a ferocious pass rush. Matching tight end C.J. OGrady on linebackers, nickels and safeties should factor in; slants to talented WRs like Trey Knox, Treylon Burks and Mike Woods are likely possibilities, and involving Rakeem Boyd is a must.

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Hockey fans around North America will be rubbing their eyes and shaking their heads in disbelief, after viewing the NHL standings on Saturday morning. Sat right there at the top of the perch with 14 points, are no other than theEdmonton Oilers.

That would be the same Oilers team which has only made the playoffs once in the previous 13 seasons. However, things seem to be changing for the better in Edmonton.

The latest example of this came on Friday night when the Oilers ground out a hard-fought 2-1 win over the Detroit Red Wings. In fairness to the team, the game arguably wasnt as close as the scoreline suggests, as they actually hit the iron four times.

Regardless, the Oilers improved their record to 7-1-0 in eight games, with fans around Canada and the United States wondering how theyve managed to achieve this. Lets look at that right now, with five factors that have contributed to the fast start in Edmonton.

There are plenty of hockey media analysts who remain unconvinced by the Oilers excellent start to the season, with some pointing to the first five games as evidence. More specifically, the factthe team had to overcome a deficit on each occasion to win.

However, we would argue that this actually proves Edmonton is a good team. Surely its a sign of mental fortitude hard work and togetherness when a team can repeatedly overcome adversity to succeed?

Perhaps the best example of this never-say-die attitude came in the second game of the season, at home to the Los Angeles Kings. Consider that the Oilers came from behind four times during the course of the 60 minutes, to secure a dramatic 6-5 win.

No doubt critics will point to the Kings being an average team, but to repeatedly recover from deficits throughout a game is a good sign. And in this respect, Edmontons ability to continually come back after falling behind in contests should stand them in good stead during the coming months.

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A powerful editorial in a leading Bengali newspaper raised relevant questions on the issue of how logical and justified it is to compensate a rape victim in monetary terms when her rapists have gone scot free for lack of sufficient evidence.

This relates to the recent news that the West Midnapur rape victim who belongs to the poorest of the poor has rejected the monetary compensation offered to her instead of giving justice by punishing the rapists. She demands that the rapists be punished for destroying her body, her mind, her social status and her dignity which is a precise and fair demand.

The victim has said that she will not accept any monetary compensation until her rapists are punished because mere money cannot be equated with the torture, humiliation and insult she has suffered and more importantly, is a denial of justice to the five rapists who raped her repeatedly when she was in a mental hospital.

Medical tests have not only proved that rape has been committed but has also been produced as evidence in court. Proper police investigation and its presentation in the court would have taken care of lack of evidence.

Recent studies have proved that in only one of four rape cases is the rapist punished. The victim in question has reportedly informed the media that monetary compensation alone cannot rehabilitate the victims life in the present and future in any way.

The entire concept of monetary compensation is based on patriarchy that dominates our social, legal and administrative systems. Patriarchy dictates that handing some money to the victim and her family is the right evaluation of the physical torture, the mental trauma and the social ostracism.

In other words, this reasserts the patriarchal theory that the female of the species, like any object or service, be equated to an object that has exchange value and can be bought and sold in exchange for money. In the meantime, the rapists go scot-free and in all probability, rape again.

Can a rape victim be compensated with money? Should she be compensated with money? Will that remedy the violation of her soul and body and restore her dignity? Will it punish the rapist and be a deterrent? These questions arise in the wake of the West Bengal CM Mamata Banerjees public announcement about the State organizing monetary compensations to rape victims for having been raped!

On September 6, 2012 the CM of West Bengal, in response to the rising rate of rape across the state, said that genuine rape victims would be paid Rs.30, 000 as compensation if they were minor, Rs.20, 000 if they were adult, Rs.50, 000 if the victim suffered from 80% disability, Rs.20, 000 for 40% to 80% disability. In case the victim died during the assault, her family would be paid a compensation of Rs.2 lakh!

How will the infra-structure be set up? When? How long will the process take till the victim can lay hands on the money? No one knows.

Mamata Banerjee is not the first CM to have made this humiliating proclamation. On August 26, 1983, PTI published a news report in the Times of India that stated that the Andhra Pradesh Government had announced a monetary compensation of Rs.5000 over and above the already-in-practice compensation of Rs.1000 to rape victims belonging to Scheduled Castes and Scheduled Tribes within A.P. District Collectors would sanction this relief.

The rape victim would need the certification of a government doctor below the rank of a civil servant. It was as if, by announcing this monetary compensation, the A.P. State Government was not only admitting rape as a frequent occurrence among women of Scheduled Castes and Scheduled Tribes but also legalizing it with compensation so that the victims did not file their complaints or approach the legal machinery for justice! In the mid-1980s, the Criminal Injuries Compensation Board, London, proposed a reasonably handsome compensation to each rape victim. Womens organisations in the country rose up in arms. They insisted that not only was the amount small but it was also insulting to the dignity of women.

Measuring rape in monetary terms is tantamount to equating the rape victim with a sex worker who sells her services for money. It is like putting a monetary value on the act of rape and rationalizing it by remaining silent about what steps will be taken to book the rapist. The sex worker does it by force of circumstance poverty, lack of education, trafficking, etc. The element of force is present here. But the rape victim has sex forced on her person without her consent and mostly, by physical force when she tries to resist. Rape is an attack, not forced sex alone. The rape victim is often killed by the rapists so that she cannot identify them in court.

Rape cannot be separated from the larger spectrum of violence against women that could range from simple harassment to murder. It is just another weapon in the arsenal that keeps patriarchy alive and thriving. It is the attitude of misogyny central to the institutional structures responsible for maintaining individual violence, including rape.

This misogyny results in the blaming and the shaming of the victim, two accepted modes of treatment. Such treatment creates and sustains a deadly conspiracy of silence around rape. It punishes the victim and makes her bear the burden of violation in isolation, thereby allowing the perpetrator undeserved freedom. The four rapists of Mathura, the 14-year-old girl who was raped in Chandrapur district by four men including two police constables, Ganpat and Tukaram way back in 1972 is an example.

All men are socialized by their own economic, social and political oppression, as well as by the overall level of social violence in the country in which they live to inflict social violence on their women, which includes rape. Rape, therefore, is not a simple by-product of maleness. Nor is it, as is commonly portrayed, the result of man's anatomical construction. Neither does it result from an immutable male psychological constitution.

For, if this were true, then sexual violence would not flow directly from official policy. Arlene Eisen in Women in Vietnam points out that US soldiers received instructions for their search-and-destroy missions which included the raping of Vietnamese women phrased in political terms, Rape, as is common knowledge today, is frequently a component of the torture inflicted on women political prisoners by fascist governments and counter-revolutionary forces. The Ku Klux Klan in the USA has used rape as a weapon of political terror.

Political leaders who offer humiliating solutions to grave problems, leaders who surrender to acceptable responses defined by a patriarchal culture can never understand the extent of female oppression and the tenacity of patriarchy. Nor can they offer real solutions to complex social, historical and political problems arising out of the very gender-bias patriarchy thrives on.

Can monetary compensation restore the lost dignity and self-esteem of the victim?

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Can Compensation Replace Justice in Rape? - The Citizen