Dear Moneyist,

I have a money problem that is somewhat different from what I read in your column. It is a problem that many would not view as a problem, but its eating me alive. I am 22 years old. I graduated from college last May and, nearly immediately, started a career in management consulting. I make good money and have already built up an impressive (for my age) nest egg.

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I graduated from college with no debt and $45,000 in savings and investment. I saved and invested large portions of my part-time job paycheck for as long as I can remember. I have always maxed out my Roth IRA contributions. I now have around $70,000 saved and invested in my retirement, brokerage, and cash saving accounts.

And yet I am extremely unhappy. I am very grateful for the money I have at my age, especially seeing many of my friends who are drowning in student debt after graduating from college. However, I am so unhappy. I fear I will live my entire life with the miserable feeling of desiring more and more money. I do not want to live like that.

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I need to change my perspective on money, but I do not know what to do. I am addicted. I check my brokerage accounts multiple times a day and my mood is greatly affected by how the markets are doing. I am addicted to watching the total accounts number grow in my portfolio. Can you help? I do not want to live my entire life like this.

James

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Dear James,

Investing is a smarter past-time than gambling, but its also a second cousin, once removed. Neither provides the answers to all of lifes problems.

You are way ahead of the game. Just half (47%) of working millennials have $15,000 or more in savings, while only 16% have $100,000 or more in savings, according to recent Bank of America BAC, -1.70% report, which surveyed 2,000 millennials aged 23 to 37. The bank asked about savings, including bank savings/checking accounts, IRA, 401(k) and other investment accounts.

Our attention spans are getting shorter, our sleep cycles are increasingly interrupted by technology and our brains are hot-wired to the information superhighway. Facebook FB, -0.83%, Twitter TWTR, -2.07%, dating apps like Tinder IAC, -2.42%, video games and, yes, even investment apps can give us instant validation and lead to addictive behavior.

Technology can stop us from being present and become a source of escape from the realworld. Some people are lonely; others suffer from anxiety and depression and/or stress and social anxiety. Instagram even stopped telling users how many likes their followers get in order to reduce this never-ending search for validation.

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A couple of years ago, Joel Edwards, executive director ofMorningside Recoveryin Newport Beach, Calif., told me,The smartphone is the tool that helps exacerbate that addiction or its a tool they use not to deal with that addiction.These technologies are driving addictions faster and with more intensity than ever before.

Similarly, Cole Rucker, CEO of Paradigm Malibu, a mental health center, said people use smartphones as a coping skill rather than learning to sit with their emotions and developing relationships. It doesnt mean theyre scoring drugs, but they might be shopping on eBay EBAY, -0.70% and Amazon AMZN, -1.22% or, like you, obsessing about their stocks.

There are plenty of actions you can take. Exercise, healthy eating, volunteering and/or helping others, meditation and getting enough sleep are all key to our physical and emotional health. If youre already on the beam and have perfected that pentagon of good living and, honestly, who has? remove the apps from your phone and commit to checking your portfolio once a month.

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Only you can figure out what lies beneath. Did you have a financially insecure childhood? Is it an outlet for other anxieties? Or do you worry about the future and this has become an outlet for those fears? I cant answer that question and I dont want to play the part of armchair psychoanalyst, but theyre questions worth asking.

Putting my Moneyist hat on, I can tell you this: its better to answer these questions today because if and when there is a downturn in the market, you want to be emotionally and mentally prepared to ride it out, rather than panic. Financial advisers generally recommend against people making investment decisions based on emotion. You could see a financial therapist.

The Financial Therapy Association takes a holistic approach to managing your finances, including your personal history and relationships past and present. Money and all the trappings of wealth do give us the luxury of choice, but financial freedom will not make all of our other worries go away. The good news: You are on the road to financial independence.

There are many things in life beyond our control, and short-term fluctuations in stocks is one of them. Youve learned to plan for tomorrow. For 2020, your next task is to live for today.

Do you have questions about inheritance, tipping, weddings, family feuds, friends or any tricky issues relating to manners and money? Send them to MarketWatchs Moneyist and please include the state where you live (no full names will be used).

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Chetna Asmi announces publication of new self-help book

BRISBANE, Australia, Jan. 27, 2020 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ -- Having learned from one extraordinary spiritual experience, Chetna Asmi felt a responsibility to share it. Asmi's new self-help book "Reverent Whisper" (published by Balboa Press AU) shares his experience through the character James "Jimmy" Semper Digne.

Mostly set on a farm by the sea with mangrove swamp and bush nearby, the story follows Jimmy and his imaginary friend Reverent Whisper as he sets out to save the world. "Reverent Whisper" is about Jimmy and others becoming aware of their spiritual nature and seeing the truth of who they are.

An excerpt from "Reverent Whisper" reads: There is an undiscovered frontier within us that is beyond comprehension, beyond our wildest dreams or our most glorious imaginings. Our ignorance and fear has entrapped a timeless and endless wilderness of wonder within us which is bursting to reveal itself.

"(My book) is different because I was not a writer nor am I an intellectual," Asmi says. "This book was born out of an extraordinary experience which allowed me to see the truth of who I was. This book (I believe) will touch all ages." "Reverent Whisper" is available for purchase at: https://www.amazon.com/Reverent-Whisper-Chetna-Asmi/dp/1504317270.

"Reverent Whisper" By Chetna Asmi Softcover | 5 x 8 in | 234 pages | ISBN 9781504317276 E-Book | 234 pages | ISBN 9781504317283 Available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble

About the Author Chetna Asmi was born, raised and still lives in South East Queensland, Australia. Asmi, as he is known, has worked as a cabinetmaker all his life and still runs his own small business. Asmi is a keen sports person and in his younger days played cricket and tennis and now golf. Over the years he trained as a life coach and also has a diploma in counseling.

Balboa Press Australia is a division of Hay House, Inc., a leading provider in publishing products that specialise in self-help and the mind, body and spirit genre. Through an alliance with the worldwide self-publishing leader Author Solutions, LLC, authors benefit from the leadership of Hay House Publishing and the speed-to-market advantages of the Author Solutions self-publishing model. For more information or to start publishing today, visit balboapress.com.au/ or call 1800 050 315.

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Monday, Jan. 27

Kripalu Yoga:9 to 10 a.m. (gentle/moderate). MaMA, Marbletown Multi-Arts, 3588 Main St., Stone Ridge.

Settled and Serving in Place (Kingston Chapter):Meets 9:30 a.m. at the Olympic Diner, Washington Ave., Kingston. Settled and Serving in Place is a social self-help group for seniors who want to remain in their homes and community. (845) 303-9689.

Mother Goose Storytime for Babies:9:30 a.m. Hyde Park Free Library, 2 Main St., Hyde Park. (845) 229-7791.

Toddler Romp & Stomp:10 a.m. every Monday. The folks at Little Pickles have been generous enough to lend the library their playroom for this music and movement program. Little Pickles is located at 7505 North Broadway, Red Hook. Event is free and open to the public. For more information, call the Red Hook Public Library at (845) 758-3241. The library is located at 7444 South Broadway, Red Hook.

What a Way to Start Your Day:10 a.m. Arlington Reformed Church, Raymond and Haight avenues, Poughkeepsie.

Happy Apple Thrift Shop:10 a.m., 24 E. OReilly St., Kingston. To 3 p.m. (845) 338-0833.

Mahjongg:10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Will teach if necessary. All welcome. Temple Emmanuel, Albany Ave., Kingston. Call Estelle Nadler, (845) 657-8476 for more information.

Yoga:10:15 to 11:45 a.m. Mountainview Studio, 20 Mountainview Ave., Woodstock. Mixed level class. Yang Yin Yoga. Classes are $15 with the first class free. (845) 679-0901.

Toddler Romp & Stomp:10:30 a.m. and Toddler FUNdamentals at 11 a.m. Red Hook Library, 7444 South Broadway, Red Hook. Free and open to the public.

Math Help:3 to 5 p.m. Phyllis Rosato welcomes all ages welcome. From kindergarten to calculus. Phoenicia Library, 48 Main St., Phoenicia. (845) 688-7811.

Stump Me!:3:30 to 4:30 p.m. Get help with elementary school homework. Saugerties Public Library, 91 Washington Ave. (845) 246-4317, http://saugertiespubliclibrary.org/

Movement Monday:4 to 5 p.m. This program is designed to help children find release from the normal stress and anxiety resulting from their daily lives. Pre-registration is encouraged. Call the Rosendale Youth Program at (845) 658-8982 or email rosyouth@hvc.rr.com for more information or to sign up. Walk-ins are welcome. A weekly commitment is not required.

Fitness Hour:4 to 5 p.m. Saugerties Public Library, 91 Washington Ave. (845) 246-4317, http://saugertiespubliclibrary.org/

Healthy Back Exercise Program:4 to 5:15 p.m. Exercises to strengthen back and abdominal muscles and increase flexibility and range of movement. 28 West Fitness Gym, Route 28 and Maverick Road, Glenford. Fee: $12 per class ($10 for gym members). Anne Olin, (845) 679-6250.

Cards:6 to 8 p.m. Play Pinochle. Ellenville Library, 40 Center St., Ellenville. (845) 657-5530.

Community Yoga:6:30 to 7:30 p.m. New LGBTQ + Allies. This is weekly beginners class taught by Michele Muller. $5 suggested donation. Hudson Valley LGBTQ, 300 Wall St.,Kingston.

Mens Choir:7 to 9:15 p.m. Men of all ages, who would enjoy singing in a mens choir, are welcomed to join the Catskill Glee Club. Community Life Church, 20 W. Main St., Catskill. For questions, contact CatskillGleeClub@gmail.com or call Bob at (845) 389-1503.

Gentle Yoga:7 p.m. Olive Free Library, 4033 Route 28A, West Shokan. (845) 657-2482. Fee $6 drop-in.

Lecture:7:30 p.m. Ralph T. Waterman Bird Clubs evening lecture, "Birding in South Africa.": Freedom Plains Presbyterian Church, Fellowship Hall, 1168 state Route 55, LaGrangeville.

Pickleball:9 a.m. to 12 p.m. Kingston YMCA. For experienced players. Free to Y members. $10 non-member day pass.Starting at 16 years old for all play.Call (845) 338-3810 or pballkingson@gmail.com for more information.

Aquoga class:9:30 to 10:15 a.m. at Kingston YMCA. Free to YMCA members; $10 non-member day pass available. (845) 338-3810 or amy@aquoga.com.

Settled and Serving in Place (SSIP 209):9:30 a.m. meets on Tuesday mornings, 9:30 a.m. at Lydias Country Deli, Route 209, south of Stone Ridge. SSIPs are local self-help, social groups which help seniors to stay in their own homes and remain active in their communities. For more information, call ViVi at (845) 331-0155.

Settled and Serving in Place meeting:9:30 a.m.Saugerties seniors meet at The Village Diner on Main Street. Settled and Serving in Place (SSIP) is a social self-help group for seniors who want to remain in their homes and community. (845) 246-3285.

Bridge Games:10 a.m. Church of the Messiah hall, Chestnut St. Rhinebeck. $10. For more information, call Pat at (845) 331-1743.

Computer Learning Center:10 a.m. to 3 p.m. Teaching computer-related and digital photography classes, Kingston Center of SUNY Ulster, 94 Marys Ave., Kingston. (845) 339-0046.

Preschool Story Hour:10 a.m. Olive Free Library, 4033 Route 28A, West Shokan. (845) 657-2482.

Toddler Time:10 to 11 a.m. Stone Ridge Library, Main Street, Stone Ridge. (845) 687-2044.

Happy Apple Thrift Shop:10 a.m. to 3 p.m. 24 E. OReilly St., Kingston. (845) 338-0833.

Mall Walking with OFA:10 a.m. Join a staff member from Ulster County Office for the Aging each week for a walk and talk. Every Tuesday at 10 a.m. sharp. Meet in the Food Court at 9:45 a.m. with a place for your coats. Hudson Valley Mall, 1300 Ulster Ave., town of Ulster.

Community Playspace:10 to 10:45 a.m. Gardiner Library, 133 Farmers Turnpike, Gardiner. Led by childrens librarian Amy Laber, a singer-songwriter, early childhood music.

Terrific two/three storytime:10 a.m. Gardiner Library, 133 Farmers Turnpike, Gardiner. (845) 255-1255.

Yoga:10:15 to 11:15 a.m. Energy Medicine Yoga will be taught by Maryanne. Mountain View Studio, 20 Mountainview Ave., Woodstock (845) 679-0901. Classes are $10 cash or check.mtnviewstudio.com.

Tots n Tales Story Time, For 2- and 3-Year-Olds:10:30 a.m. Hyde Park Free Library, 2 Main St., Hyde Park.

Preschool Storytime:10:30 a.m. For 3-to-5-years-old, Ellenville Public Library, 40 Center St., Ellenville. (845) 647-5530.

Story Craft and Play:10:30 to 11:30 a.m. together Tuesdays with Janice for children birth through preschool. Come to join the gang of local parents. Phoenicia Library, 48 Main St., Phoenicia. (845) 688-7811.

Toddlertime story hour and crafts:10:30 a.m. For children ages 18 months to 3 years, Kingston Library, 55 Franklin St., Kingston.

Tuesday Tales:11 a.m. For preschoolers ages 3-to-6-years-old, Saugerties Public Library, 91 Washington Ave., Saugerties. (845) 246-4317.

Classes:11 a.m. to 12 p.m. 8 Immortals internal Chinese straight sword (Jian) adapted to Tai Chi principles, Hawksbrother. (You may take both classes, or either Sword or Tai Chi Chuan). Marbletown Multi-Arts, 3588 Main St., Stone Ridge. (845) 687-6090

Free Caregiver Support Group:11:30 a.m. Community Center, 3 Veterans Drive, New Paltz. Join Miss Penny for a fun-filled storytime for the very young. Appropriate for ages 1-3.

Classes:Noon to 1 p.m. Second-generation Yang Tai Chi Chuan, with related Tai Chi Chuan chi gung, Hawksbrother. (You may take both classes, of either Sword or Tai Chi Chuan). Marbletown Multi-Arts, 3588 Main St., Stone Ridge. (845) 687-6090.

Thrift Store:12 to 4 p.m. Margaretville Hospital Auxilary Thrift Shop, 850 Main St., Margaretville.

Story Time:1 p.m. Preschool story time. Early literacy activities and stories for children ages 3-5. Ellenville Public Library & Museum, 40 Center St., Ellenville. (845) 647-5530.

Story Hours Grades 2 and 3:3:30 to 4:30 p.m. Stone Ridge Library, 3700 Main St., Stone Ridge. (845) 687-7023.

Pokemon Club:3:30 to 4:30 p.m. Saugerties Public Library, 91 Washington Ave., Saugerties. (845) 246-4317.

Scrabble:4 p.m. Saugerties Public Library, 91 Washington Ave., Saugerties. (845) 246-4317.

Aroma Yoga Flow:4 to 5:15 p.m. (moderate) with young living essential oils. MaMA, Marbletown Multi-Arts, 3588 Main St., Stone Ridge.

Terrific Tuesdays:4:15 p.m. For grades K-6, Ellenville Public Library and Museum, 40 Center St., Ellenville. (845) 647-5530.

Boxing Conditioning:4:15 to 5 p.m., children ages 7-12; 5 to 5:45 p.m., teens; 6 to 7 p.m., adults. Mountainview Studio, 20 Mountainview Ave., Woodstock. mtviewstudio@gmail.com

LGBTQ Community Acupuncture Clinic:5 to 7 p.m., 300 Wall Street, Kingston. RSVPs highly suggested, though walk-ins will be welcomed when space is available; book your appointment at lgbtqcenter.org/acupuncture or call (845) 331-5300. The LGBTQ Community Acupuncture Clinic takes place in a relaxed and low-lit group setting using points on the ears, hands and feet. Intake takes approximately 10 minutes and resting time (after the needles are inserted) will vary, based on your preference, but is typically 20-45 minutes. $5 suggested donation, no one turned away for lack of funds.

Meditative Movement:5:30 to 6:30 p.m. Meditative movement (a blend of Yin/Gentle/Restorative). MaMA, Marbletown Multi-Arts, 3588 Main St., Stone Ridge.

Scrabble:6 to 8 p.m. Serious (and fun!). Wordplay at Ellenville Public Library, 40 Center St., Ellenville. (845) 647-5530.

Meeting:6 p.m. Town of Ulster Library Board meets the fourth Tuesday of each month. 860 Ulster Ave., Kingston.

Craft Night:6:30 p.m. Highland Public Library, 30 Church St., Highland. Sara creates a new project with tweens and teens ages 8-13. (845) 691-2275 or http://www.highlandlibrary.org.

Scrabble and Other Games:6:30 p.m. Pine Hill Community Center, 287 Main St., Pine Hill.

Open Mic:7 p.m. with Cameron & Ryder. Club Helsinki, 405 Columbia St., Hudson. (518) 828-4800, liveatthefalcon.com.

Weekly Meditation:7:30 to 8:30 p.m. Free weekly community meditation at Education Annex Of Wellness Embodied: A Center for Psychotherapy and Healing, 126 Main St., New Paltz. For optional beginner instruction, please arrive at 7:20 p.m. Donations accepted. http://www.wellnessembodiedcenter.com/community-meditation.

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There was a point in life when I wasn't doing such a great job on the savings front. I was juggling a host of new expenses that came with having kids (think outrageously high child care costs), and I was also grappling with a variable income as a result of being self-employed. During that time, I wasn't doing a great job of adding to my near-term savings, and I wasn't making the progress I wanted on my retirement savings, either.

Thankfully, a few tweaks turned things around for the better and got my savings back on track, so much so that a year after implementing them, I had managed to save twice as much as I did the year before. These are the tricks that really worked for me -- and can easily work for you, too.

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Having a household budget helps me keep track of my spending and make adjustments to my expenses as needed. But a while back, I realized one important thing was missing from my budget -- a line item for savings.

Once this hit me, I reordered that budget so that savings came first, and from there, I worked in my remaining expenses. Doing so helped me realize that to meet the goals I'd set for myself, I'd need to cut back on some non-essential spending. That meant going out to eat a little less frequently, spending less on entertainment, and taking low-cost vacations instead of springing for nicer hotels. But once I made those changes, I learned to not only live with them, but live happily with them, especially with the knowledge that I was helping my savings grow the way I wanted them to.

Being self-employed means I can't sign up for a company 401(k) and have retirement plan contributions deducted from my paycheck. But I still managed to automate my savings, and doing so has helped me stay on track.

Each month, I have a portion of money from my checking account get transferred into savings automatically. From there, I can keep that money in regular savings, or I can send it to my retirement plan. The key, however, is that it leaves my checking account before I get a chance to spend it.

Anyone who's struggled with self-control in the past would be wise to take advantage of automated savings. Many IRAs have this option, too, so even if you don't have access to a 401(k) through work, you can still set yourself up to send money from each paycheck to a retirement plan automatically.

Like many consumers, I tend to have a hard time saying no to a bargain. But once I realized I was spending too much money on unplanned purchases, I knew some changes were in order.

To this end, I instituted the 24-hour rule, which goes as follows: When I'm tempted to buy something I wasn't intending to purchase, I must wait a full 24 hours to go through with it. And to be clear, I'm not talking about grabbing one extra $3 bag of chips off the shelf at the supermarket, or buying an extra $5 package of socks for my kids because I see it on sale. I'm talking about substantial purchases that clearly aren't necessities (in my world, snacks are). But since implementing that rule, I've avoided spending money by coming to my senses and realizing I can do without most of the things I've been tempted by.

If saving money were an easy thing to do, more of us would do it -- and do it well. But the reality is that saving money is hard, as evidenced by the fact that 39% of Americans reportedly don't have enough cash reserves to cover an unplanned $400 expense. If your savings need a pick-me-up, give the above tricks a go. They could really make a world of a difference.

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MEADVILLE, Pa., Jan. 27, 2020 /PRNewswire-PRWeb/ --"Journal to Your Power": a therapeutic tool that will help a person prioritize what is needed and also handle emotional and mental barricades through allowing spaces for self-reflection and self-expression. "Journal to Your Power" is the creation of published author Trish Moore, an entrepreneur and a licensed massage therapist of over 18 years who has studied Life Coaching, Personal Training, Nutrition, and EFT. She is a single parent and an only child raised by her mother. Her passion is to be a blessing to people who come into her life whether it's through massage, listening, nutritional advice, or coaching in a positive direction of empowerment.

Moore shares, "The purpose of this book is to bring out 'your power' that you already have within. Journal to Your Power is a positive book that you are going to write in daily, journaling your answers to each chapter. This book will encourage you to help you feel good about yourself and great about helping others. It will give you inner power and help you find out the power locked inside of your heart, deep within, a power you never knew you had.

"This book will help you know who you are and what you can achieve as you follow each chapter.

"Journal to Your Power is great for everyone, male or female; adults or teenagers, as well as a great teaching source for a classroom setting. This book will empower you to do things you never thought about, but willing to try for a fulfilling purpose or just for fun. You can read this book over and over, and I promise it will be different each time you start at the beginning. Go, Do, Be."

Published by Christian Faith Publishing, Trish Moore's new book is a thought-provoking manuscript that carries hope, self-help, courage, happiness, and peace of mind which will lead to bringing out the power that is within an individual.

View a synopsis of "Journal to Your Power" on YouTube.

Consumers can purchase "Journal to Your Power" at traditional brick & mortar bookstores, or online at Amazon.com, Apple iTunes store, or Barnes and Noble.

For additional information or inquiries about "Journal to Your Power," contact the Christian Faith Publishing media department at 866-554-0919.

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TYLER, Texas Hundreds of woman gathered in Tyler Saturday to help mentor other young women to success.

"We just really think that that's an age group that really needs self-confidence instilled and a lot of values being pushed towards them," said Monica Miller with the Junior League of Tyler, who sponsored the event.

From online safety to self-defense there were all sorts of topics covered to try and teach these sixth-grade girls how they can become their best selves.

Chapel Hill Middle School counselor Frances Palmer says making sure young women are educated is key to their future.

"Young women who are in their 20's and 30's place value on teaching the young girls giving them power, giving them information, giving them a plan for their future," Palmer said.

Former CBS 19 host Tashara Parker returned to the East Texas for the event. She says mentoring young women is embedded deep in her heart.

"To help young girls continue to succeed in whatever it is that they want to do because I want to show them that as long as you're preparing yourself for whatever opportunity and when it presents itself, then you're going to be ready," Parker said.

Both women believe girls have the power within them to succeed if they seize the opportunity.

"If they can walk away with a sense of community, knowing why it's important to give back and if they can walk away with knowing how to fulfill their greatest potential when it comes to confidence, then definitely, that's two things at the very least, that I want them to walk away with," Parker explained.

"I want them to grow up a little bit today and walk out with head high and feel better about themselves in their future," said Palmer.

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As some of us are more than halfway through those new year detox diets and rigorous fitness programs, its easy to argue its time for some treats. Amidst a busy January of workout classes, strict nutrition plans, spa treatments, reorganizing both closets and finances, practicing mindfulness and self help (the list goes on), lets call on our significant others and go-to gift givers to deliver us some pick-me-ups for our dedicated attempts to kick off this decade on a healthy foot.

In the spirit of a month widely dedicated to all things health, beauty (inner and outer of course) and wellness, this months extravagant gifts and special treats must supplement and benefit these laborious attempts to achieve the utmost wellness.

So, lets kick the last few days of the month into gear and put some pep into our nearly detoxed other halves to help them fully reset for a dynamic decade ahead.

Dear Boyfriend,

I know you care deeply for me, but it is that time of year for the both of us to care for me a little extra. Deferring from my usual suggestions of fancy gift requests, I am shifting the focus to treats that will benefit my health and beauty.

This list is a selection of thoughtful items that will encourage a journey of self care and catapult me to a the special nutrient filled, total inner peace, overflowing with endorphins level of wellness.

As January is often a month for workouts, it would be wise to give your shoe addict girlfriend a pair of fresh kicks to get those January workouts a fashionable boost.

At the end of the day, I will need to rest my precious feet, so you may as well consider this a two for one and throw in some of these fabulous fluffy slippers to give me the cloud-like comfort I deserve.

Couples activities are strong for a relationship right? What better way to bond than completing a detox program together. The Clean Program is a seven day cleanse full of supplements, herbal teas and protein shakes geared to give your body the rejuvenation it needs.

Water is the elixir of life as they say. This hydration reminder that sits on my water bottle and blinks when my sipping has slipped will save you the trouble of being my personal hydration butler.

This wouldnt be a true wellness wish list without a nod to the chic health mecca, Goop.

Because nutrition is paramount, and as a reward for making it though a week long detox chock full of fruits and vegetables, its appropriate to gift me my very own special piece of produce as a reward. This Big Apple pendant adorned with 63 rubies and three champagne diamonds from charming French jewelry designer Aurlie Bidermann is the perfect collision of style and nutrition.

This Irritability Treatmentfrom clean skincare guru Tata Harper will equip me to go forth into a year full of chaos as calm as a cucumber. The aromatherapy treatment is the ideal blend of essential oils designed to put the nerves at ease, restore optimism and promote wellness. Ill be just a dab away from ultimate wellness.

After all, who ever said a little self care couldnt be a little indulgent?

Sincerely Yours,

Your eccentric, almost detoxed and healthy girlfriend

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Learn how to use self-care strategies to help your colleagues in the workplace at this event by diversity education organization She Geeks Out. Monday, 6 to 8 p.m., WeWork, 745 Atlantic Ave., Boston. Free. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

Tuesday

CLASS

Back to the basics

Learn the fundementals of business networking at this workshop by consulting company AIMC Solutions. Tuesday, 6:30 to 8 p.m., Microsoft Store, 800 Boylston St., Boston. Free to attend. $25 for an additional 15-minute consultation. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

NETWORKING

Business night

Meet your peers, exchange ideas, and advance your career at Young Executive Networking Night hosted by Boston Young Professionals Association. Tuesday, 6 to 9 p.m., Troquet on South, 107 South St., Boston. $29 to $40. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

Wednesday

INFO SESSION

Using a shared workspace

Attend this informational session about LaunchedBy ROXBURY, a new shared workspace program from Venture Cafe New Englands Roxbury Innovation Center. Wednesday, 5 to 6:30 p.m., Roxbury Innovation Center, 2300 Washington St., second floor, Boston. Free. Register online or or go to the business agenda at bostonglobe.com.

POWER HOUR

Network and work

Get out of your home or office and work alongside others at this work hour hosted by local female professionals. Support local businesses in the Boston Public Market for breakfast and networking and then enjoy silent work time. Wednesday, 9 to 10:30 a.m., Boston Public Market, 100 Hanover St., Boston. Free. Register online or or go to the business agenda at bostonglobe.com.

Thursday

PANEL

Study overview

Discuss the findings of the 2019 Women in the Workplace study by McKinsey & Company and LeanIn.org at this event hosted by professional development organization Lean In Boston. The overview will be followed by a panel discussion with members from the Harvard Business Review. Thursday, 6 to 8 p.m., Hill Holliday, 53 State St., Boston. Free. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

LIVE EVENT

Make your pitch

Watch five companies take the hot seat with 99 seconds to pitch their company to a live audience at this competition from community organization Founders Live. Thursday, 6 to 8:30 p.m., CIC - Downtown, 50 Milk St., 20th floor, Boston. $10. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

Friday

NETWORKING

Coffee break

Join fellow entrepreneurs at this informal coffee meet-up hosted by community organization Female Millennial Entrepreneurs. Discuss goals and make connections with like-minded women. Friday, 11 a.m. to 12:30 p.m., Cafe Nero, 416 W. Broadway, Boston. Free. Register online or go to the business agenda on bostonglobe.com.

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First-person essays and interviews with unique perspectives on complicated issues.

I know Im getting older because my Kindle is turning into a self-help library, says comedian Ali Wong in her Netflix special Baby Cobra.

My own early-30s self-help library was brimming with advice: on how to get my finances in order, make relationships work, and get comfortable with uncertainty. When I was 33, a divorce and an up-and-down writing career had left me wondering what my personal and professional future held.

My friends and I all seemed to be taking stock considering having kids or feeling exhausted by new parenthood, searching for meaning in careers or seeking balance after working nonstop in our 20s and speculating all the while thanks to social media if others were enjoying happier relationships, better jobs, and fitter bodies.

This is expected, of course. You make a plan for your life, and then life gets in the way. What is new is that were less happy than our 30-something predecessors, possibly because this taking-stock moment is happening during a decade when adulthood milestones and lack of milestones are converging in a unique-to-this-cohort way.

Its true we already have the quarter-life crisis Id had that post-college what now? moment after quitting music school and backpacking abroad on a shoestring budget. But at 33, I was past the average age of this real world rude awakening. In my 30s, I knew who I was and what I wanted, but that didnt mean everything had gone according to plan. Not by a long shot. And I wasnt quite old enough for a midlife crisis (if it even exists). Maybe I was having a bit of both kinds of crises, another convergence of sorts.

In our 20s, living in New York City, my friends and I were focused on our careers. We thought we had plenty of time to marry and pop out a kid or two. In our 30s, though, something shifted. Suddenly we were discussing parental leave policies and the cost of preschools over brunch with the same horrified enthusiasm once reserved for retelling bad dates.

I was 25 when I married, an outlier given the age at first marriage has accelerated sharply, reaching a peak age of 29.1 for men and 27.8 for women in 2013, according to historical demographer Steven Ruggles. However, the average age for a first divorce is 30, so at least I was right on track there.

While the age at which someone has their first kid varies based on geography and education, in cities like New York and San Francisco, that age is 31 and 32 for women, respectively. For American men, its 30.9. So, its safe to say that more 30-somethings than ever before are newlyweds and new parents in their 30s.

There are upsides to waiting to marry and have kids, of course. In my early 30s, I wasnt sure if I wanted to have children. Even at 34, when I had my son, I was on the younger side of my soon-to-be-procreating NYC friends.

But for some, there can be complications to waiting. Clinical psychologist Caroline Fleck says she sees many patients who are dealing with fertility issues. The resources for supporting families through these physically, emotionally, and financially demanding treatments are lacking and she often sees men, women, and marriages hanging on by a thread.

Then add economic pressures to relationship and biology ones. The median age of a first-time home buyer is 32. (It was 29 in the 1970s and 80s.) That is, if you can afford to buy a home given student debt, the gig economy, and rising house prices. Tara Genovese, a counselor in Chicago, notes that for 30-somethings who came out of college during the recession, economic milestones have been pushed back.

And then there are the more nebulous anxieties of our 30s. Nearly every therapist I spoke with over email or phone talked about unmet expectations.

One of the main words I listen for in a session is should, said Megan Bearce, who sees many 30-somethings. I should have a child, I should be married by now, I should love my job.

If people are hoping to get married and start a family, or be at a particular place in their career, their 30s is usually when they imagine they will do so, says Los Angeles marriage and family therapist Saba Harouni Lurie. For those who achieved certain goals or benchmarks, they can be surprised if they are not as happy as they had anticipated.

Lurie gently framed this gap between expectations and reality as coming as a surprise. But I and many of my friends were often struggling with something more akin to failure when it came to feeling like we werent living up to our potential.

Happiness peaks at different ages, depending on the study. For instance, psychologists look at raw data, University of California, Riverside professor Sonja Lyubomirsky, who studies happiness, told me. Those studies show people get happier with age, she said. Economists would say its a U-shaped curve, with the lowest dip around 45-50. They are controlling for lots of variables, like wealth, for example.

Happiness itself is a slippery concept. In one of my favorite studies, people in their 30s and 70s were asked what age group was happier. Both groups answered the 30-somethings, but when the researchers asked each group about their own subjective well-being, the 70-somethings scored higher.

I find people to err systematically in predicting their life satisfaction over the life cycle, says economist Hannes Schwandt. They expect incorrectly increases in young adulthood and decreases during old age.

For Americans, happiness has become the ultimate self-help project, which only adds to the pressure of our 30s. Thanks to a wise therapist friend who suggested it, I spent a lot of introspective time in my early 30s focused on deconstructing various abstract happiness clichs (pursue your passion! never give up! fail forward!) and replacing them with more concrete and specific definitions of personal and professional fulfillment.

There are positives when it comes to being in your 30s. Its a more empowered age than your 20s, says psychotherapist Alyson Cohen. Were clearer about what we want and more equipped for the struggle, as Lurie eloquently put it.

I like how therapist and coach Shoshanna Hecht sums up being in your 30s: Whereas in the 20s, the cynicism for whats possible hasnt yet set in, and the I know who I am and so dont give a ____ of the 40s hasnt yet arrived.

So what to do? In our 30s, we are perhaps finally old enough to heed some good life advice. Dont compare yourself to others. Practice gratitude. Embrace the beautifully messy, ordinary adult lives most of us lead. Dont adhere too rigidly to any one vision for your life. Be flexible and adaptable. Figure out what you want versus what you think you want and adjust accordingly.

But we need to go beyond self-actualization solutions for this overwhelming decade. We are living in an era of what journalist Barbara Ehrenreich calls relentless optimism. Ehrenreich dismantles the self-help premise that The real problems in our lives are never discrimination or poverty, bad relationships or unfair bosses ... but our own failure to ... think positive or practice mindfulness, to take personal responsibility or count our blessings. She argues instead that many of the problems we face require policy solutions, not positive psychology.

We also need to intervene earlier to teach our kids that failure is a necessary and valuable part of growing up, because by our 30s we will inevitably have faced some setbacks. Ive realized that how we handle those moments whether we choose to see failure as evidence that we are screw-ups rather than as natural, or even admirable, consequences of taking risks makes all the difference in being mostly dissatisfied versus mostly fulfilled. I admit I have no idea how we tackle the social media nonstop comparison problem, but we all know weve got one.

Im 38 now, and there have been more plot twists in the last five years than I could have ever imagined: both significant failures and substantive successes. Maybe its because my (hopefully) dont give a shit 40s are looming, but I take it more in stride now than I did in the earlier part of this decade.

Welcome to middle age! a friend recently emailed me in response to some of these 30-something musings. Isnt it nice to realize that the stakes arent quite as high as they once seemed?

Nice, indeed.

This essay is inspired by the authors new book, And Then We Grew Up: On Creativity, Potential, and the Imperfect Art of Adulthood.

Rachel Friedman is also the author of The Good Girls Guide to Getting Lost: A Memoir of Three Continents, Two Friends, and One Unexpected Adventure. Find her on Twitter @RachelFriedman.

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Moore shares, The purpose of this book is to bring out your power that you already have within. Journal to Your Power is a positive book that you are going to write in daily, journaling your answers to each chapter. This book will encourage you to help you feel good about yourself and great about helping others. It will give you inner power and help you find out the power locked inside of your heart, deep within, a power you never knew you had.

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