After a 20 percent increase in use last year, the Rollins Counseling and Psychological Services (CAPS) has adjusted its treatment methods to accommodate more students.

The new emphasis on group therapy and a switch from weekly to bi-weekly individual appointments, leaves some students feeling concerned.

In the past, students began individual talk therapy at their first appointment. In this new model of care delivery, students will first attend a 30-minute consultation. They will work one-on-one with a counselor to design an individualized care plan and identify their needs and goals for therapy. In this way, resources can be delegated more efficiently.

Additionally, one-on-one therapy is offered on a biweekly rather than weekly basis, and group therapy and workshops are emphasized and integrated into individual plans.

Dr. Connie Briscoe, director of the Wellness Center, said that the changes are part of an initiative to move to a stepped care model of mental health service provision.

This approach is considered one of the most appropriate and cost-effective models for college campuses. A patients care plan is adjusted based on the severity of their mental health issues.

Briscoe said, We spent time at other college counseling centers talking to other people who are using a variety of different models and felt that because we are a highly individualized campus and were all about relationships, the stepped care model really fits our campus and our culture best.

The individualized care plans include self-help resources, group therapy, therapeutic workshops, biweekly individual talk therapy appointments, campus and community resources such as Student & Family Care. It can also include referrals to off-campus therapy, as well as any necessary specialized treatment options.

Were matching the needs of the students to the services much more intentionally, and so were seeing that students are receiving a much broader range of services, said Briscoe.

One of the consequences of this need-matching plan is that many students will have less one-on-one appointments, unless a student is receiving specialized treatment or experiencing a crisis.

Anecia Inbornone (22), a client of the CAPS program, said,I know that for me, if Im in a group setting, Im not as vulnerable as I would be in like a one-on-one session, and I know thats probably very true for many people; so, although its an alternative, I dont think that fixes the problem.

Students are not upheld to the same code of ethics that requires counselors to maintain students confidentiality. Therefore, in group therapy and workshops, students must place their trust not only in their counselors but also in their fellow students to keep their personal information protected.

A survey conducted at the end of last year indicated that Rollins students would prefer to see a larger number and variety of workshops in addition to an increase in the availability of individual CAPS appointments.

Briscoe said that the CAPS program is not meant to be used as a long-term individual therapy service.

If students really want and need long-term intensive individual therapy, something we dont have here, we can always work with that student to provide them with resources in the community where they can go out and get that type of care, said Briscoe.

However, many students at Rollins rely on the schools mental health services because appointments are free and on-campus. Some students feel that there are not enough individual appointments available.

Kendall Clarke (21) has been using the CAPS program since the fall of her sophomore year. She said she benefited most from the relationship she built with her counselor in individual therapy.

A lot of people use CAPS as a replacement for a therapist, and I get that its counseling and not official therapy but we are college students and our money and our mobility are really limited, Clarke said.

I wanted to go to a professional therapist, but I dont have a car, and I dont have the money to be paying a Lyft or Uber every week to pay for a therapist, so CAPS kind of is the only thing I can get to help with some of my mental health issues, she said.

From 2017 to 2018, faculty and staff referred students to CAPS at an increased rate of 300 percent. Last spring, roughly 350 Rollins students were utilizing CAPS.

From 2018 to 2019, the number of students using CAPS increased by 20 percent, raising the average wait time for a CAPS appointment from 6.5 days in 2018 to two weeks in the spring of 2019.

In August 2018, the Wellness Center was awarded the Garrett Lee Smith Campus Suicide Prevention Grant, a federal government grant matched by Rollins and totaling over $300,000 distributed over a three-year period.

Besides that, the Wellness Center has not requested any additional funding from Rollins, but Briscoe said she is always hoping for more resources.

However, there would be challenges along the way. Briscoe said, If we were to get a lot more staff, where would we put them? We only have this one building.

As this new model is implemented, Briscoe remains hopeful that the changes will be beneficial to a majority of students on campus.

I think it cant be anything but really positive for our students to have more options and opportunities and better ways to tailor our resources to their needs, said Briscoe. I wouldnt have put the model together if I didnt think that it was a more effective model than the one we had in the past.

Students in need of mental health assistance are encouraged to contact the Wellness Center. No matter the time of day or availability at the Wellness Center, students in need of someone to talk to are encouraged to call the 24/7 crisis phone line at (833) 848-1761.

Additionally, students may utilize the WellTrack self-therapy app for free by registering with their student email address.

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Twenty years ago, McKinsey predicted that the success of organizations would primarily depend on their ability to identify, develop, and retain top talent. Those employees are responsible for most of their employers productivity, revenues, profits, etc., and are therefore also the key to outperforming their competitors.

Today, few companies would disagree. There is also ample scientific evidencethat in any workgroup or team, a small but vital number of people have a disproportionately high impact on that units performance and success.

The last two decades of academic researchreveals that these indispensable individuals are far more similar across jobs, cultures, and industries than most people think. They havethree major traits that set them apart.They tend to be smart and curious, which means they learn faster and better than others. They tend to have better people skills, so they are more effective in their interpersonal relations. They are more driven and hard-working than their peers, which explains their higher productivity rates.

But one critical dimension of talent appears to have been mostly forgotten and is surprisingly absent from companies competency frameworksand high-potentialmodels. Its importance is such that it can amplify or extinguish any other aspect of talent, including the benefits of learning ability, people skills, and work ethic.

That trait is self-control, and it explains why some people are much better able to resist temptations and make short-term sacrifices to pursue more meaningful long-term goals, not just at work, but in any area of life. Without self-control, every other virtue, skill, or ability is rendered futile, as any significant accomplishment starts with the ability to manage yourself. As Plato said: The first and best victory is to conquer self.

Scientific research suggests there are five key reasons for the critical importance of self-control in the workplace.

We live in an age of information overload and ubiquitous digital distractions. And as Herbert Simon noted, a wealth of information creates a poverty of attention. Academic research shows that individuals with higher levels of self-control are better able to ignore distractions, which enables them to concentrate more and achieve higher levels of performance.

Curiosity is a sought-after trait by many top organizations, including Google and Amazon. But the type of curiosity they seek aligns with what psychologists call the bright sideof curiosity. That means those people can be so deeply immersed in a subject that they are able to develop superior levels of expertise and skill that provide a competitive advantage to both the employee and the employer. Unleashing this positive aspect of curiosity and key knowledge driver requires shutting down its dark side. That is the short-term glut that pushes individuals to consume trivial content, as a short-term cure to boredom, and a lazy alternative to focus and concentration. The more self-control you have, the less time you will waste binging on random YouTube clips or looking at the Facebook photos of your neighbors cat having breakfast.

As Daniel Markovits highlights in his excellent new book, The Meritocracy Trap, we live in an age of unprecedented competition for jobs and career success, where even the most highly skilled and employable individuals are pushed into longer and more intense working hours. In this ever more complex and unpredictable world, nobody can succeed unless they are able to marshal the necessary levels of resilience and stress tolerance. People with higher levels of self-control are more likely to be in this category.

As a recent meta-analysis shows, employees personality is as important a predictor of their level of engagement and job satisfaction as the actual job they are in. This means that one of the best ways to ensure that your workforce is engaged is to hire people with a predisposition to enjoy work and be enthusiastic about their careers. Self-control is one of the key traits that distinguish employees who are more engaged at work.

Self-control is a strong predictor of ethical and prosocial behavior. When employees who lack self-control are promoted into management or leadership roles, they misbehave. Sadly, this happens all too often, which explains harassment and the prevalence of leaders who engage in other reckless, entitled, and antisocial behaviors at work. Incidentally, if we selected leaders on the basis of their self-control, the majority of them would be female.

When you look for talented people, focus not just on what they know or their likability. Pay attention to their ability to control their urges and keep their impulses in check. This evidence-based recommendation is in stark contrast with much of the popular self-help advice you will find online on just being yourself and bringing your authentic self to work.

Self-control is as underrated as authenticity is overrated. Theres no need to go against ones values and principles, but the most productive and rewarding version of you will require a healthy degree of restraint and self-censorship, and that can only be achieved if you exercise self-control.

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The world around is being cluttered with too many screens and India hasnt been slouching on that front either. An overload of screens, which was once considered an assault on our senses, has now become a part of our everyday lives. Moving beyond TV and computers or laptops, we are always connected through smartphones, often carrying more than one to segregate professional from personal. But thats not all! When running out of cash, the ATM screen is our go-to resource. At airports, we would rather get the boarding pass from a self-help kiosk and drop the baggage at the counter instead of bearing a long queue.

I sometimes pause and wonder How many screens per second are we living." With every passing day, the world around us is being increasingly populated with screens. No matter where we go, the black mirror follows usat workplaces, home, indoors and outdoors, buses, trains, airports, there is simply no escaping now. However, one may halt and wonder, what does this explosion of the screen mean for the evolution of laptops? From clamshell designs to athletic architectures, laptops have certainly come a long way. Yet, the future may hold true integration of multiple screens, with a pursuit to de-clutter and help multi-taskers prioritize better.

It was 1982 when Grid Systems, under the leadership of John Ellenby, popularly known as the godfather" of laptops, launched the first-ever laptop as we recognize todayclamshell and portable. Named the Compass, the laptop was, however, noting like a modern-day notebook. Despite the clamshell design, the laptop was heavy (weighing 5 kilos) and expensive (a present-day equivalent of over $20,000).

However, the Compass led to Apple, which released its first portable laptop in 1989, which may have been priced lesser but was still questionably portable, weighing 7.2 kg. It was the 90s when some other popular product ranges greeted us, for instance, the 1992 ThinkPad, which is still an active product line. It folded the screen at the top and keyboard at the bottom neatly in half, also offering TrackPoint allowing users to operate the mouse on the screen. In 1996, Toshiba Libretto may have been the first entrant to the subnotebook category, owing to its sleek design. With the dimensions of a novel, the laptop weighed only 840 g, garnering immense popularity within the market for its industry-leading easily portable attribute.

While tracing the evolution of laptops, a standout aspect has been the consistency in the design of laptops architecture. While the machines have surely shrunk, the year 2018 saw the growth of the thin and light" category priced at an affordable range. But not much has shifted in the age-old clamshell design.

We made a leap towards the weird and wonderful design of laptops when Windows 8 debuted over half a decade ago. It led to the rise of interesting designs, noteworthy to mention the Yoga laptop range and other athletic designs from the leading OEMs. However, the quirky designs have come and gone, without defining the generation. The industry, thus, in the need of a serious makeover and to de-clutter the proliferation of multiple screens, is perhaps headed what may be a significant epoch in the laptop space the advent of dual-screen laptops. Brands are tinkering with the idea of adding another secondary screen to the traditional design.

A dual-screen laptop allows the user to perhaps check the work emails on a secondary screen while focusing on the major task at hand on the primary one.

Professionals can develop the PowerPoint presentation on the main screen, while constantly brainstorming on the messenger app opened on the secondary screen. Gamers can utilize the dual offering to focus on the high-adrenaline action-packed formats and leverage the secondary screen to take stock of their arsenal, zoom in on the map, or simply stream music online. In a nutshell, dual-screen laptops are here to make life easier for the multi-tasking clan and take some pressure off from having to utilize multiple screens. They would also solve the conundrum for users to select between gaming devices and work laptops.

With their razor-sharp focus on delivering high horsepower to enable productivity and multi-tasking, the dual-screen offerings are the torch-bearers of an integrated and de-cluttered future.

In days to come, laptops will continue to get more powerful and play a significant role in the lives of users. The high-powered machines would empower users to venture into critical tasks such as 3D modelling, animation programs, and more. With the machines getting ready to take charge of critical roles, the market for consumer notebooks and laptops will only get enriched with superior and disruptive offerings.

Arnold Su is BDM, consumer notebooks & ROG, Asus India

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La Jolla, CA, Oct. 10, 2019 (GLOBE NEWSWIRE) -- MadCap Software, Inc., the leader in multi-channel content authoring, today announced that the MadCap Flare and MadCap Central October 2019 Releases are now available. Together, the latest versions introduce several industry firsts, including the drag-and-drop import of Microsoft Word and other files, responsive content personalization, and built-in business intelligence and data analytics on customer content and user activity, among others. With MadCap Flare and MadCap Central, users have more comprehensive functionality than ever for creating, reviewing, analyzing and delivering modern self-support websites, training content, technical documentation, and knowledge management centers.

MadCap Flare and MadCap Central are part of the MadCap Authoring and Management System (AMS). Combining the power of desktop authoring with the convenience of the cloud, MadCap AMSprovides a complete solution to support the entire content development lifecycle. MadCap Flare offers cutting-edge technical authoring and publishing capabilities with advanced features to maximize authoring efficiency, content reuse, and multi-channel publishing. MadCap Central is the first cloud-based platform for content and project management designed specifically for the documentation industry. As a result, content developers can leverage one integrated system to streamline their content deliveryfrom authoring, publishing and translation to cloud-based project, content and workflow management, to now gathering valuable business intelligence and user statistics on how end users interact with the content.

Today, more than 20,000 organizations worldwide and growing rely on our solutions to deliver an increasingly broad range of content to support their training, customer service, employee education, and documentation demands, said Anthony Olivier, MadCap founder and CEO. With the newest releases of MadCap Central and MadCap Flare, we are extending our commitment to innovating solutions that facilitate the development and delivery of these diverse content requirements. Now, customers have unprecedented power and simplicity in leveraging existing content by importing various file types, personalizing their output to users different needs, managing their content publication, and using analytics to consistently improve their content and create a superior user experience.

Unprecedented Ease with Microsoft Word ImportsMadCap Flare is used by thousands of companies worldwide to create and publish their technical documentation, user guides, instruction manuals, online Help, and support websites to any number of print, web, desktop and mobile formats in users languages of choice.

The October 2019 Release introduces two innovations that make it easier than ever to import Microsoft Word files and convert these into Flare topics for maximum content reuse. In a first for the industry, MadCap Flare enables users to simply drag and drop any number of Word files directly into Flare for a simplified content import workflow. Additionally, a completely redesigned import wizard simplifies the process of customizing the import of Word files and adds new options for streamlining the conversion process.

The MadCap Flare October 2019 Release also adds the ability to drag and drop any other file typesuch as image files, PDFs, and Excel spreadsheets among othersdirectly into Flare.

Business Intelligence and AnalyticsTogether, the XML-based MadCap Central and MadCap Flare provide a comprehensive, agile, highly extensible, and cost-effective alternative to enterprise content management (ECM) and component content management system (CCMS) solutions. In another industry first, the October 2019 Releases of these solutions extend their functionality with new business intelligence (BI) and data analytics.

Providing a Google Analytics-like experience, the new capabilities enable technical communications and documentation professionals to use analytics on Flare-generated content to analyze and continuously improve their content, thereby increasing self-help, ticket deflection, and overall user satisfaction. Technical authors can easily set up the analytics in minutes with no hardware or additional IT requirements and track usage on any hosted website or desktop outputcontent can be hosted anywhere, not just with MadCap Centralto start gathering data analytics immediately. Analytic data includes:

Responsive Content PersonalizationMadCap Flare is the only professional authoring and publishing solution that lets authors create and publish responsive HTML5 output out of the box with top and side navigationwhich more closely resembles a modern, search engine-optimized, and fully customizable informational websitealong with high-end print documentation from the same source of content.

The October 2019 Release of MadCap Flare extends responsive output to now include responsive text. This intelligent, responsive content functionality introduces another industry first by adding the ability to personalize and create content with the intelligence to change based on not just the device but also the format or user type. Now text, images and video can be automatically modified based on the screen to provide the most appropriate and personalized content to end users, regardless of device, format or user type.

Atlassian Confluence ImportAtlassian Confluence is the content collaboration tool widely used by software development teams to collaborate and share knowledge efficiently. Increasingly, organizations are seeking to repurpose content from Confluence within their MadCap Flare-based documentation, Help websites, training content, and knowledge management systems. In this way, customers can capitalize on Confluence as a source of gathered subject matter expert information and then use the power and flexibility of MadCap Flare to extend the delivery of this content throughout the enterprise and across multiple channels. MadCap Flare is also being used by these businesses to better stylize the content to align it with their corporate brandingas reflected by the new Cloudistics case study published earlier this week.

With the October 2019 Release, users now have the ability to import Atlassian Confluence content directly into MadCap Flare, including HTM and Resource files for Confluence cloud and desktop, while respecting the Confluence structure.

Availability and PricingThe MadCap Flare and MadCap Central October 2019 Releases are available today as part of the MadCap Authoring and Management System. Per-user subscription pricing for MadCap AMS is $2,988 per year or $249 per month. The subscription includes 30 GB of storage per company account (with additional storage available), free product upgrades and updates, Platinum-level maintenance and support with unlimited email and telephone support, a knowledge base, and forum access. Standalone perpetual licenses for MadCap Flare and subscriptions for MadCap Central are also available. Visit MadCap Software at https://www.madcapsoftware.com/ or contact MadCap Software at sales@madcapsoftware.com or +1 (858) 320-0387 to learn more.

About MadCap Software MadCap Software, Inc. is a trusted resource for the thousands of companies around the globe that rely on its solutions for single-source multi-channel authoring and publishing, multimedia, and translation management. Whether delivering technical, policy, medical, marketing, business, or human resources content, MadCaps products are used to create corporate intranets, Help systems, policy and procedure manuals, video tutorials, knowledge bases, eBooks, user guides, and more to any format, including high-end print, online, desktop or mobile. MadCap services include product training, consulting services, translation and localization, and an advanced developer certification program. Headquartered in La Jolla, California, MadCap Software is home to some of the most experienced software architects and product experts in the content development industry. Learn more about MadCap Software at http://www.madcapsoftware.com.

MadCap Software, the MadCap Software logo, MadCap Authoring and Management System, MadCap Central, and MadCap Flare, are trademarks or registered trademarks of MadCap Software, Inc. in the United States and/or other countries. Other marks are the properties of their respective owners.

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Most productivity advice for the workplace tells you how to produce more and more, without helping you examine how much you really want to produce, and what external forces might be mitigating productivity. That amount can differ, largely depending on what you are required to produce in order to succeed at work. One could also argue that the standard productivity advice assumes that you are already treated fairly in the workplace.

If you work for yourself, there may be even more pressure to produce, because in many small businesses, you are the sole producer. But in all the talk about increasing productivity, weve lost a key question: what is a reasonable amount of work to produce? And how do you produce effectively when you may be sabotaged at work?

We logically cannot produce work product all the time. Aside from the standard breaks we take for eating and sleeping, there is also the question of practicing good self-care. For some, that means having time completely alone; for others, it means spending time with close friends and family; for others, it means having as much social time as possible. Its not a one-size-fits-all plan for mental replenishment. But it may appear that as much as you try to reach that mythical work-personal balance, the more it seems out of reach.

You may have read self-help texts that recommend you meet with your employer about prioritizing your tasks, ask for more meaty assignments, or even ask for support staff. But what chance do you really have for reaching your desired productivity when roadblocks are put in your path? Consider that women of color are more likely to be asked to do less-important office tasks (like putting paper in the copier and getting coffee) than their white counterparts, in addition to their regular work duties. In addition, women and people of color are more often given worse assignments than their white male coworkers.

Also considered being disabled in the workplace. If an employee has depression and his or her manager avoids talking to the employee about their needs, that employee is more likely to take days off of work due to depression. Likewise, when employers reach out to their employees with depression, they are less likely to miss days of work. Consider that having depression already leads to a decrease in the ability to produce work product. Missing days of work increases that amount of uncompleted work. As you read, a leader in the workplace can make a big difference in an employees comfort level and ability to continue with their work.

Discrimination in the workplace can be overt and covert. It can be a blatant slur, or it can consist of microaggressions smaller yet noticeable attempts to demean you. If you are experiencing bias in the workplace, call it out when you see it. You may be told that the person didnt mean it, or that you must have misunderstood what the person was saying to you. You may be told to look at someones intent rather than their actual behavior Oh, Im sure they didnt mean to say that to you. Still continue to speak out about it, keep documentation, and know the Equal Employment Opportunity Commissions guidelines on harassment in the workplace.

It is only when the issues of blatant and covert discrimination are addressed in the workplace, and consequences are given for that discrimination, can many members of the workforce truly be as productive as they want. Education in the workplace regarding overt and covert discrimination can also help make progress and only if everyone attends educational sessions, from entry-level positions to executives. Encourage open communication from employees about possible mistreatment in the workplace.

The more we educate ourselves, the more we are prepared to confront instances of discrimination. The more we speak out, the more we are empowered to make changes and also push for them.

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First things first: This is not another article that simply tells you to go on a date night.

Nothing against date nights. The best ones can remind you why you fell in love with your spouse or partner in the first place.

Or they can involve staring at each other in a sleep-deprived haze over an expensive meal while intermittently glancing at your phone for updates from the babysitter.

If date nights arent working for you, or if youve been struggling to maintain intimacy for months or even years after having children, here are some different ways to stay close to your spouse or partner, despite the stresses and frustrations of parenthood.

[Learn how your partner can take on more emotional labor.]

Just as there was never a perfect time to have children, there will rarely be a perfect time to rekindle a connection with your partner.

Its easy to push your romantic relationship to the side: Lets get through sleep training first. Or: As soon as I get back into shape. Or: Maybe when Im less tired.

Then winter arrives. Everyones sick again? Lets wait until we get better.

But if you keep waiting, experts say, regaining intimacy can become increasingly difficult.

It seems to have been the norm for so many couples to say to themselves, Now that the kids are here, well focus on the kids. Our day will come, said Michele Weiner-Davis, a marriage and family therapist whose TEDx talk about sex-starved marriages has been viewed more than 5 million times. But heres the bad news from someone whos been on the front lines with couples for decades. Unless you treat your relationship, your marriage, like its a living thing which requires nurturing on a regular basis you wont have a marriage after the kids leave home.

Couples may start to lead parallel but separate lives and discover they have nothing in common.

Theyre looking at a stranger, and they ask themselves, Is this the way I want to spend the last few years of my life? Ms. Weiner-Davis said. And for too many couples the answer is no.

But all of that is preventable, she added.

Its absolutely essentially not to be complacent about what I call a ho-hum sex life. Touching is a very primal way of connecting and bonding, Ms. Weiner-Davis said. If those needs to connect physically are ignored over a period of time, or are downgraded so that its not satisfying, I can assure people there will be problems in the relationship moving forward.

If you had a vaginal birth, you and your partner may expect to begin having sex as early as six weeks after the baby is born, if you have been physically cleared to do so.

[Read our guide to sex during your pregnancy.]

For some couples, that signals the clock is now ticking, said f, author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life.

But a lot of women simply wont be ready that early. And thats O.K.

After the postpartum checkup, I didnt feel like myself, I didnt feel physically ready to have sex, said Emily Stroia, 33, who lives in Los Angeles. In terms of libido, I didnt really have one.

Ms. Stroia, the mother of a 10-month-old, eventually starting having sex with her partner once a month but before she became pregnant, they had sex nearly every week, she said.

I still kind of forget that Im in a relationship, said Ms. Stroia, who is struggling with sleep deprivation. I have to remind myself that I have a partner.

After any potential medical problems are ruled out, Dr. Nagoski advises couples to start over with one another by establishing a sexual connection in much in the same way they might have done when they were first getting to know each other: making out, holding each other and gradually moving in the direction of bare skin.

Thats especially important if theres a birth parent involved, she added.

That persons body is brand-new, Dr. Nagoski said. The whole meaning of their body has transformed.

It also helps to remember that intimacy isnt just hot sex, said Rick Miller, a psychotherapist in Massachusetts.

Its steadfast loyalty, a commitment to getting through stressful times together and, most importantly, enjoying the warm, cozy moments of home together, Mr. Miller said.

Taking the time to nurture your individual physical and emotional needs will give you the bandwidth to nurture your relationship, too, so that it doesnt feel like another task on the to-do list.

When you experience your partners desire for intimacy as an intrusion, ask yourself, How deprived am I in my own self-care? What do I need to do to take care of myself in order to feel connected to my own sexuality? said Dr. Alexandra Sacks, a reproductive psychiatrist and host of the Motherhood Sessions podcast.

That might mean going to the gym or talking to your partner about decreasing the invisible mental load that is often carried by one parent.

Enlisting the support of your family (or your chosen family) to take some time for yourself or discuss some of the struggles that accompany parenting can help you recharge.

Relying on others is an indirect way of working on intimacy, Mr. Miller said.

This is especially important for gay couples, he added, who may not typically share vulnerabilities because the world hasnt been a safe place.

Practicing self-care as a couple is equally important.

Dr. Sacks recommends making a list of everything you used to do together as a couple that helped you feel close, and thinking about how those rituals have changed.

Is your toddler sleeping in your bed, spread out like a sea star between you and your partner? Have you stopped doing the things together you used to really enjoy like working out or going to the movies? Dr. Sacks recommends thinking about how youre going to make an adjustment in order to create physical and emotional intimacy with your partner.

For example, if you always used to talk about your day together and now that time is completely absorbed by caregiving, the absence of that connection will be profound.

You cant just eliminate it and expect to feel as close, she said.

According to Dr. Nagoski, one way to nurture intimacy is to remind yourselves of the context in which you had a great sexual connection together.

What characteristics did your partner have? What characteristics did your relationship have?

Then, she said, think about the setting.

Were we at home with the door locked? Were we on vacation? Was it over text? Was it at a party in a closet at a strangers house against a wall of other peoples coats? What context really works for us? Dr. Nagoski said.

When doing this exercise, and when thinking about your current libido (or lack thereof) its also helpful to remember that not everyone experiences spontaneous desire the kind of sexual desire that pops out of nowhere. For example, youre walking down the street and suddenly cant stop thinking about sex.

Millions of other people experience something different called responsive desire, which stems from erotic stimulation. In other words, arousal comes first and then desire.

Both types of desire are normal.

Dr. Nagoski suggested cordoning off an imaginative protected space in your mind where you can bring forward the aspects of your identity that are relevant to your erotic connection and you close the door on the parts of yourself that are not important for an erotic connection.

With enough focus, this strategy can work even if the physical space youre using contains reminders of your role as a caregiver.

It can also help to think of your bedroom as a sanctuary, advised Ms. Weiner-Davis.

For couples who have spent years co-sleeping with their children, that can be somewhat difficult.

I do believe there comes a point where its important to have those boundaries again, Ms. Weiner-Davis said.

Its easy to forget how much time and effort we put into our relationships in the early days: planning for dates, caring for our bodies and (gasp) having long conversations with one another.

People feel sort of sad when they get that news that yes, it does require effort to build a connection across a lifetime, Dr. Nagoski said. You dont just dive in you dont just put your body in the bed and put your genitals against each other and expect for it to be ecstatic.

Karen Jeffries (a pen name she uses as a writer and performer to protect her privacy) said her sex life with her husband is better than ever after having had two children. Theyve always had a strong physical connection, she said. But they also plan ahead and prioritize.

There are times where Ill text him and Ill be like, Were having sex tonight, and hell be like O.K. or vice versa, she said. Sometimes Ill send him a picture of a taco and hell send me a picture of an eggplant.

Ms. Jeffries, 37, a fourth-grade dual-language teacher in Westchester County, N.Y., is the author of Hilariously Infertile, an account of the fertility treatments she endured to conceive her two daughters. Her children, now aged 6 and 4, are on a strict sleep schedule with a 7:30 p.m. bedtime, allowing for couple time in the evening.

Think of building good sexual habits just like you would develop good eating or exercising habits, she advised.

Sex begets more sex. Kind of like when you go to the gym, she said. It takes you a while to build that habit.

Then, she added, Youll notice little by little that it becomes more and more as opposed to less and less.

A small 2018 study found that attending group therapy helped couples with low sexual desire as well as those who had discrepancies in their levels of sexual desire.

Individual or couples therapy can also be a good place to start.

For many parents, however, and especially those with young children, finding the time and money to go to a therapist can be challenging.

Esther Perel, a psychotherapist whose TED talks on sexuality and relationships have been viewed by millions, offers an online course, currently $199, that includes a section called Sex After Kids.

Ms. Perel also hosts the popular Where Should We Begin? podcast, in which couples share the intimate details of their troubles during recorded therapy sessions.

A number of other podcasts also offer advice to couples, including "Marriage Therapy Radio and Relationship Advice.

Regardless of what steps you take to rebuild a connection with your spouse, experts say its important to take action as soon as possible.

The child is not going to take up less space over time, Dr. Sacks said. So the question is: How do you carve out space for your relationships around the child, as the child continues to develop with different but continually demanding needs.

Christina Caron is a parenting reporter at The New York Times.

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In the UK, approximately one in four people experience mental health issues, according to the mental health charity Mind. Although illnesses including anxiety and depression arent a new phenomenon, research proves that mental health issues are at an all time high and national health services, like the NHS, are struggling to keep up with the growing need for more accessible resources.

Multiple studies have proven that technology, specifically social media, is detrimental to peoples mental wellbeing. However, tech is taking on some of the responsibility to help those struggling with their mental health. One project is the Flow app, developed by the Malm-based medical device company, Flow Neuroscience. The chatbot therapist aims to help those struggling with their mental health while they wait to be seen by a medical professional.

The free app, which is currently available on iOS set to launch on Android within the month engages users in daily conversations to offer self-help techniques, mood tracking features, curated videos to better visualize mental health, and meditation and mental exercises.

The app was created by a team of clinical psychologists and machine learning experts and is based on the latest psychology and neuroscience research. The virtual therapist guides users through 18 sessions on why sleep, exercise, nutrition, and meditation are the main pillars in recovering from depression while gathering mood data to offer personalized behavioral therapy.

The always-on source of therapy provided by Flow ensures people get the help they need as quickly as possible, Daniel Mansson, Clinical Psychologist, CEO and Co-Founder of Flow said in a press release. Flow can provide anonymity without the fear of being judged by others. This is great as some people feel anxious when it comes to talking about their depression to another human.

While theres hundreds of apps out there to help you better understand meditation and mindfulness, theres been little innovation in regards to treating depression. However Flow has been approved in the UK and EU to treat major depressive disorder effectively. The chatbot also works alongside Flows headset, a behavioral therapy brain stimulator to treat depression without the need for medication.

The New England Journal of Medicine and the British Journal of Psychiatry, outline that brain stimulation of the type used in the Flow headset had a similar impact to antidepressants but with fewer and less-severe side effects.

Depression is associated with lowered activity in an area in the front of the brain, as explained by the video above. According to Flows findings, 24 percent of its users overcame their depression completely while 41 percent felt at least 50 percent better after 6 weeks of brain stimulation treatment.

Currently, Flow is in talks with the NHS to potentially make its headset available on prescription, but for the moment it costs 399 in the UK.

As the company outlines, this type of behavioral therapy may not work for everyone, just like prescribed medication doesnt. While technology may not be the answer to diagnosing, treating, and preventing mental health illness, its exciting to see how innovative technology is being used for good while reducing some of the strain placed on the NHS.

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Do you feel like a loser? Do your friends' Facebook posts make you wonder why they have better jobs, vacations and children than you do? Then I have some amazing news for you: It's time to embrace your failure. Cherish your failure. Because according to some of the hottest self-help books, failure is the new success.

The idea behind these books is simple: Failure is like kale horrible, but good for you.

Let's take a look at some books that should be in everyone's personal failure library. There's "The Art of Failure," "The Value of Failure," "The Wisdom of Failure," "Fueled by Failure," and "Failing Forward."

Did you honestly think you could fail without the help of a book? If so, you have been failing at failing. These books will help you be the best failure you can be.

Now, let's say you really want to fail, but you can't afford all these books. The helpful people at TED Talks will teach you to fail for free!

Watching TED Talks is like stepping into a magical theme park of failure.

Speakers offer such nuggets of insight as, "Don't fail fast - fail mindfully"; "The unexpected benefit of celebrating failure"; and "The fringe benefits of failure."

That last talk is by J.K. Rowling. I'm not sure I want failure tips from someone who's sold 500 million "Harry Potter" books, but whatever.

Which brings me to the point of this whole exercise in failure. I don't need books or TED Talks to learn how to fail. I've already hit the failure mother lode: since the age of 10, I've been a fan of the Cleveland Browns. In the past 20 years, the Browns have had 18 losing seasons. That's an enviable ninety-percent failure rate. After the 2016 season, their coach said that if the team lost all their games he would jump into Lake Erie. They did; he jumped; and then he was fired. No book can teach you to fail like that.

Whenever I find myself in danger of succeeding, I just ask myself: "What would the Browns do?"

But in the pursuit of failure, nothing's as easy as it seems. This season, the Browns have done the unthinkable: they're actually in first place in their division! Some people even think that their new quarterback, Baker Mayfield, could someday lead them to the Super Bowl. Now that failure is finally cool, it's just like the Browns to screw that up.

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In June, 1994, at a pro-choice conference in Chicago, twelve black women gathered together to talk. One, Loretta Ross, was the executive director of the first rape crisis center in this country. Another, Toni Bond, was the executive director of the Chicago Abortion Fund. A third, Cynthia Newbille, was the leader of the National Black Womens Health Project, which was among the first national organizations to be devoted to the wellness of black women and girls. After the first day of the event, which was hosted by the Illinois Pro-Choice Alliance and the Ms. Foundation, the group met in a hotel room. We did what black women do when were in spaces where there are just a handful of us, Bond, who is now a religious scholar, recalled. We pulled the sistas together and talked about what was missing.

Abortion had been decriminalized in 1973, with the Supreme Courts Roe v. Wade decision, but, with the passage, in 1977, of the Hyde Amendment, which banned federal funding for almost all abortions, the procedure had become too expensive for many women. In 1993, Bill and Hillary Clinton had proposed an overhaul of the health-care system, but reproductive-health coverage was sacrificed to make the reforms more palatable to Republican lawmakers. To the women in the hotel room, the conversation at the conference about reproductive health focussed too narrowly on choice. There had been no discussion of the services that black women needed most, such as fibroid-tumor screenings, mammograms, and pre- and postnatal care. (Black women have a higher risk of fibroids than white women, higher percentages of late-detected breast cancer, and a maternal-mortality rate that is more than three times higher.) Nor was there an acknowledgment that the reproductive and parenting decisions of black women were limited by poverty, unequal pay, lack of access to adequate housing and schools, and the abuses of the policing and criminal-justice systems.No one was talking about black womens health as a whole, Ross told me, not long ago. Too many people were examining policies through the lens of white supremacy.

The women created the term reproductive justice to describe the scope of their activism. They were inspired by the work of the black legal scholar Dorothy Roberts, whose research traced the history of efforts in this country to control black womens reproductive freedom, beginning with the forced procreation of enslaved women. Abuses had continued into the nineteen-seventies, when thousands of womenincluding some who were receiving public assistance in North Carolina and others who were incarcerated in Californiawere involuntarily sterilized. In Arizona, South Carolina, Tennessee, and Washington, state-court judges often offered black female defendants reduced prison sentences if they agreed to get birth-control shots or implants. (This practice was happening as recently as two years ago.) As Roberts observed, black people had turned to their families, friends, and neighbors for the family-planning services and child care that the government had denied them. Bond said, Reproductive justice offers us an opportunity to talk about the ways in which black women have exercised agency and been resilient even in the midst of reproductive and sexual oppression.

The twelve women called themselves Women of African Descent for Reproductive Justice. After the meeting in the hotel room, they bought full-page ads in the Washington Post and Roll Call, publishing a letter to Congress that argued for unimpeded access to abortion as part of the full range of reproductive health services offered under health care reform, which should be available regardless of ability to pay, with no interference from the government. The letter stressed that reform should be comprehensive, and must include strong anti-discriminatory provisions.

During the following months, Ross and some of the other women led a reproductive-justice discussion in Cairo, Egypt, and wrote a public letter in support of Joycelyn Elders, the former Surgeon General, whom Bill Clinton had asked to resign after she said that she approved of educating children about masturbation to avoid the spread of AIDS. In 1997, with funding from the Ford Foundation, sixteen groups representing African-American, Asian-American, Pacific Islander, Latina, and indigenous women came together to form SisterSong, a national collective advocating for the reproductive and sexual health of women of color. SisterSong was based in Atlanta, the birthplace of the civil-rights student protests and the home of several historically black colleges; the city also had the largest black gay population in the South. Activists there had already created a parallel system of care, encompassing the Feminist Womens Health Center, an abortion and gynecological clinic in the North Druid Hills, which grew out of a womens self-help health group, in 1976; the National Black Womens Health Project (now the Black Womens Health Imperative); and SisterLove, founded, in 1989, to tackle H.I.V./AIDS.

In the next few years, the leaders of SisterSong and of newer reproductive-justice organizationssuch as Spark Reproductive Justice Now, founded, in 2007, to include queer perspectives in the movementheld round-table discussions and met up for dinners and happy hours, as well as get-togethers at Charis Books, a feminist bookstore downtown. In 2004, after the passage of the Partial-Birth Abortion Ban Act, SisterSong, Planned Parenthood, and the National Organization for Women, among other groups, put together the March for Womens Lives on the National Mall in Washington, D.C. In 2010, after the passage of the Affordable Care Act, several Atlanta-based reproductive-justice groups sent their members to D.C., to protest the Stupak-Pitts Amendment, which aimed to prevent federal funds from being used to pay for insurance plans that covered abortions. The current Democratic Presidential candidate Julin Castro, one of several politicians who have recently spoken about the importance of reproductive justice, told me that he was thankful to the Atlanta community who had launched the movement. Their voices are crucial, especially now, to get us out of our comfort zone, he said.

Oriaku Njoku was twenty-five when she visited Atlanta, in October, 2010, to attend the Atlanta Pride Festival. The daughter of middle-class Nigerian immigrants, Njoku had grown up in a mostly white neighborhood in Bowling Green, Kentucky. While attending the University of Kentucky, she came out to her siblings, then to her parents, and participated in L.G.B.T.Q. activism. After graduating, she worked in retail in Kentucky and Indiana. At the Pride celebrations, she was drawn to Atlanta, with its ambitious black residents and its queer scene, and moved there a few months later. In January, 2013, she attended an event held by Spark that was an introduction to reproductive-justice organizing, and later volunteered on a Spark initiative to stop the practice in Georgia prisons of shackling pregnant women during childbirth. Doing reproductive-justice work has been the one place where I feel like I can bring my full self to the table, she told me recently. Being a first-generation queer black Southern fat femme, I can bring all those identities to work and do it unapologetically. Njoku, who is now thirty-four, calls herself a giver. She has the Southern female tendency to go out of her way to put others at ease, filling in an awkward silence with a caring question, a compliment, or a wavering um. When she is frustrated, she is just as accommodating, but her voice takes on a slight edge. She likes to wear Igbo dresses and head wraps in vivid colors, and has a sprawling tattoo on her forearm that reads Love is lifeforcea quote from the queer Jamaican-American poet and activist June Jordan.

After the 2013 Spark event, Njoku started travelling to other reproductive-justice gatherings, including the annual summit held by the National Network of Abortion Funds, where people talked about intersectionality and abortion access. She briefly dated a trans man, a human-rights defender from Uganda, who was seeking asylum and trying to bring his children to the United States; she realized that trans men also had trouble exercising their reproductive rights. She began to ask people for their gender pronouns.

In February, 2014, Njoku got a job taking patients information and making appointments at the Atlanta Womens Center, an abortion clinic near the wealthy enclave of North Buckhead. As of that year, legislatures in Georgia and twenty-five other states had enacted laws restricting the coverage of abortion in the Affordable Care Act health-insurance marketplaces. Women who contacted the clinic were often struggling to come up with the money for their abortions, which became more expensive as their pregnancies progressed.

Njoku regularly directed such women to call the National Abortion Federation, which, in 2014, donated to more than a hundred thousand women based on their needs, with the expectation that the women would raise as much as they could themselves. Its hotline was often busy for hours on end. When Njoku looked for regional sources of assistance, she discovered only one in Georgia: the Magnolia Fund, which helped women pay for abortions performed at the Feminist Womens Health Center. (Magnolia closed last year.)

In May, 2014, Njoku and two colleagues decided to set up their own abortion fund to help women in Georgia, Alabama, Florida, Mississippi, South Carolina, and Tennessee. I was, like, We gotta do right by our people, she recalled. Theres no reason that our folks should be calling multiple numbers and waiting on hold forever to try and get in touch with someone for basic health care. Kwajelyn Jackson, of the Feminist Womens Health Center, called abortion funds the conduit through which people are going to be able to get connected with care in the long run. That November, Njoku took a job at Summit Medical Associates, assisting in the operating room and caring for women in post-abortion recovery. Meanwhile, she approached the National Network of Abortion Funds for advice. Njoku and her colleagues worked from coffee shops and buffet restaurants, applying for grants and organizing fund-raisers, including a fish fry. Their fund, Access Reproductive Care-Southeast, began operating in May, 2015. Its first grant paid for a headquarters, in an airy arts center in downtown Atlanta. By January, 2016, Njoku was working there full time.

The following spring, Njoku went on a tour of the Deep South, hoping to form relationships with employees at independent clinics, which, in that part of the country, are more numerous than Planned Parenthood centers. At each one, she made note of the affordable hotels nearby, the schedules for intakes and procedures, waiting lists and patient backlogs, and whether there were translators on hand. The fund set up a hotline in July, 2016. As it received more calls, she needed more volunteers to take women to and from appointments. (Clinics require that women receiving sedation have someone with them to take them home.)

That year, ARC-Southeast gave funding and assistance to about fifty women each month; it now serves more than three hundred a month. The average cost of an abortion is around five hundred dollars, with later-term abortions sometimes in the thousands of dollars. ARC-Southeast gives most women between seventy-five and a hundred dollars. The fund now employs a staff of seven, who are mostly black and queer, and has more than a hundred volunteers. They provide a kind of care that might be considered familial, booking travel and hotel rooms, taking women out for meals, and even putting them up for a night or two in their own homes. We try to lead with love, Njoku said. In 2017, Njokus sister Dirichi, who goes by Chi Chi, joined the organization to run the hotline. A former nurse, Chi Chi had little knowledge of reproductive justice, but she felt a connection to the funds mission. When she was nineteen, she got pregnant after being raped by a friend and had an abortion, an experience she often shares with callers.

ARC-Southeast has found rooms for homeless women who would otherwise have spent the night outside the clinic, and counselled mothers and daughters who needed abortions at the same time. Not long ago, the fund referred an undocumented Honduran woman living in Atlanta with her two children, whose husband had been detained by Immigration and Customs Enforcement, to the National Abortion Federation, which agreed to pay for her procedure. The woman was twenty-six weeks pregnant, six weeks past the limit for abortions in Georgia. She could have taken a bus to a state where the gestational limit was higher, but shed heard that immigration raids on buses were common. Njoku decided that the funds hotline operator, Crystal Zaragoza, who had previously run a clinic for queer migrants in Phoenix, should drive the woman in a rental car to a clinic in Bethesda, Maryland. Zaragoza and the woman stayed in an Airbnb for four days. The fund paid more than a thousand dollars for the car, the accommodation, the womans medication, and care for her children while she was away.

Abortion in Georgia is legal up to the twentieth week of pregnancy, and fourteen of the states seventeen clinics are in the Atlanta area. Calls come in to the fund from all over the Deep South; for some women, the clinics near them have closed, or offer only limited services. In South Carolina, there are just three abortion clinics. In 1995, the state put into place regulations requiring that all clinics terminating second-trimester pregnancies meet the same design and construction standards as ambulatory surgical facilities. Ostensibly meant to insure womens safety, the regulations dictated, in overwhelming detail, specifications including the width of the corridors, the number and size of procedure rooms, and the size of the janitors closet. Pro-choice organizations and physicians agreed that the regulations were politically motivated; the necessary changes would be too costly for most clinics to make, and, ultimately, they would do little to improve patients care. More than half of the South Carolina women who had abortions in 2017 travelled outside the state for their procedures.

Spring is the funds busiest season. (As Chi Chi put it, People get it on in the winter.) In April, 2018, ARC-Southeast assisted a hundred and eighty-two women. This past April, it helped three hundred and ninety-seven callers, and Njoku spent much of her time in her car. One morning, she woke up early to pick up a woman from her home in south Atlanta and took her to the Atlanta Womens Center, in the northeast of the city. There, she met up with another woman, who was accompanied by her partner and their child, and gave her cash for food and a hotel. Then she took the first woman home and headed back to the office. In the parking lot, she received a call from Chi Chi about Naomi (a pseudonym), a woman who was waiting at Summit Medical Associates, four miles away, in need of an escort. Naomi had driven more than two hundred miles that morning, from Columbia, South Carolina, for her appointment. She believed that she was fourteen weeks pregnant. Twenty minutes after the call, Njoku arrived at the clinic and signed Naomi in. The process for second-trimester abortions, known as dilation and evacuation, usually takes place over two days. After the first appointment, Njoku gave Naomi a ride to her motel and learned that she and her partner were not speaking, that her best friend had wanted her to have the baby, and that she hadnt told her parents she was pregnant, because she was too ashamed. Naomi knew that she needed an escort, but another friend, who had agreed to accompany her, had cancelled at the last minute. She had hoped to persuade the clinic to make an exception.

When I recently talked to Naomi, she still hadnt told her family about her abortion, and she said she would take the secret of it to the grave with her. On her first night in Atlanta, she recalled, she had been in pain and lonely, and had slept badly. In the morning, when Njoku picked her up for her second appointment, Naomi was amused to see Njokus Pomeranian-Shiba Inu mix, Marley, in the passenger seat. She felt comforted by Njokus presence. I didnt have nobody there with me, and just in the moment of time being in that car with herthat really meant a lot, Naomi said.

This past spring, after the confirmation of Brett Kavanaugh to the Supreme Court, in October, 2018, legislatures in Alabama, Arkansas, Georgia, Kentucky, Louisiana, Mississippi, Missouri, Ohio, and Utah all passed bills that placed restrictions on abortion, which were intended to undermine Roev. Wade. In May, Alabama passed a bill that, if it goes into effect, would outlaw abortion, even when pregnancies are the result of rape or incest, except in cases where the mothers life is at risk; doctors who performed the procedure could go to jail for up to ninety-nine years. The new law is being challenged in federal court by the American Civil Liberties Union and Planned Parenthood on behalf of Alabama abortion providers.

In Georgia, a heartbeat bill was passed, banning abortion after about six weeksbefore most women know that they are pregnant. In June, the A.C.L.U., the A.C.L.U. of Georgia, the Center for Reproductive Rights, and Planned Parenthood filed a lawsuit, representing SisterSong, Georgia medical providers, and their patients, arguing that the law disproportionately affects people of color and rural and poor residents. Stacey Abrams, who ran for governor of Georgia on a platform that included a call for reproductive justice, described the law, on Twitter, as a forced pregnancy bill.

When I visited the ARC-Southeast office this summer, Njoku and Chi Chi were worrying about the bill, too. Ive probably only had one or two callers who were under six weeks, and that scares me, Chi Chi said. Because, when this law happens, whats going to happen with all these other women? Hows it going to be like next year when these women call me and I have to tell them that they cant do this? Abortions arent going to stop, even if they make them illegal. And then I wonder, Well, whats going to happen to me? Am I going to get in trouble because Im helping these women? I told my sister, Ill go to jail. I want you to keep fighting for this.

In May, Njoku and her colleague Quita Tinsley made the same tour of clinics that Njoku had in 2016, anxious to see how abortion providers were faring in the aftermath of the legislation. At the West Alabama Womens Center, in Tuscaloosa, the director, Gloria Gray, a gruff, kind woman in her sixties, wearing dark-blue scrubs, greeted Tinsley and Njoku in the reception area. She showed them into her office, which was decorated with pictures of her grandchildren and Alabama football mementos. Affixed to the back of her computer monitor was a bumper sticker that read, If you still support Trump, stay 500 feet behind. I dont trust your judgment.

Gray and Njoku talked about the recently signed Alabama abortion law. Njoku explained that many callers to the fund assumed that it had already gone into effect. One woman living in Gulf Shores had called all the clinics in her area and discovered that they had closed. She had surmised that the ban was to blame. But the closures were more likely due to a range of licensing requirements known as the Targeted Regulation of Abortion Providers (TRAP) laws, which have been passed by the health departments of Republican-controlled state legislatures since the nineties. As in South Carolina, the stipulations in TRAP laws are cumbersome, usually having little to do with medical necessity, and, in recent years, they have become more onerous. In ten states, including Alabama, Florida, Texas, and Mississippi, doctors performing abortions are required to have admitting privileges or similar arrangements at a nearby hospitalprivileges that some hospitals, for political or budgetary reasons, refuse to grant. As a result of various TRAP laws, the number of clinics in Alabama has declined from twenty in 1992 to just three. In 2016, the Supreme Court struck down Texass law requiring that any doctor performing an abortion have admitting privileges and that clinics be set up as ambulatory surgical centers; the decision, in Whole Womans Health v. Hellerstedt, deemed that the requirements placed an undue burden on people seeking access to abortions and were therefore unconstitutional. Last week, the Court said it would hear arguments in a case from Louisiana that is nearly identical, raising concerns that the 2016 decision will be overturned.

In 2015, Gray hired the renowned abortion doctor Willie Parker to replace the clinics former physician, who had retired. Parkera well-known Christian reproductive-justice advocate, who has been honored by the United Nations Office of Human Rights and by Planned Parenthood for his work in Mississippi and Alabamaapplied to the local hospital for admitting privileges, but was not granted them. The clinic had to shut down for eight months. It filed a lawsuit, and reached a settlement on the admitting-privileges requirement. But Gray said that she had sensed an unwelcoming atmosphere at the hospital ever since. The West Alabama Womens Center was often surrounded by protesters; one of them, Gray noticed, was the wife of a doctor at the hospital. Abortion is a safe procedure, but, in the rare case that a woman experiences complications, she needs to go to the hospital. I hate to send a patient out there and not know how shes being treated, Gray said. As a result, at the end of 2015, Gray decided that the center would stop providing abortions to women who were past the seventeenth week of pregnancy. A clinic in Huntsville, about a hundred and fifty miles away, was now the only one in the state that did late-term abortions.

Some obstacles had arisen from less expected places. In March, the Alabama reproductive-rights scene was shaken when Parker, who had also worked in the Huntsville clinic since 2016, was accused by the reproductive-rights activist Candice Russell of sexual assault. He denied any misconduct, but resigned his chairmanship of the board of Physicians for Reproductive Health. We lost a very high-profile, vocal person who spoke out on womens rights, because everybody is cancelling his speaking engagements now, and thats unfortunate, Gray said.

The day after the stop in Tuscaloosa, Njoku and Tinsley visited the Huntsville clinic, which was homey, with lilac walls. Its nice to finally meet, the receptionist said. Yall send us fundsyou got to know who youre working with, honey.

The clinic has a majority-black staff. The full-time physician, Yashica Robinson, who was polished even in scrubs, with dark, curled hair and elegant jewelry, greeted the women warmly. Dr. Parker says this is Wakanda, she said. She led Njoku and Tinsley into a tidy linoleum-floored break room, where she and Dalton Johnson, who started the clinic, in 2001, were having lunch. The Huntsville center was the last abortion clinic to have been certified in the state; TRAP laws had made opening new clinics prohibitively expensive and difficult.

The main thing with us is the constant financial strain, Johnson told Njoku. In March, a man had sued the clinic, claiming that when his girlfriend had had an abortion there, two years earlier, he had not given her permission to do so, and calling the termination a wrongful death. A county probate judge allowed the suit to proceed under the personhood amendment to Alabamas constitution, which passed in November, 2018, with the intent of declaring and affirming the public policy of the state to recognize and support the sanctity of unborn life and the rights of unborn children. Johnson said that, in April, the clinic had paid its lawyers fifteen thousand dollars in retainers.

Robinson joined the clinic in 2005, and in 2013 she applied to Huntsville Hospital for admitting privileges. The hospital stalled for such a long time that she hired a lawyer to push her case. The privileges, when they were granted, meant that she had to be within a thirty-minute drive of the hospital at all times in order to keep them. This is standard for ob-gyn providers in the area, and other doctors had formed groups to cover one anothers shifts, so that they could travel, but they excluded Robinson. Some of them did not want the lady who does abortions to deliver their patients babies, Robinson said; others were afraid of attracting protesters to their offices. She was desperate to hire another doctor for the clinic. She laughed, darkly. Its going to take somebody with a strong backbone to come and join us, and to put up with all it takes to live and work in this community, she said.

After the passage of the Alabama and Georgia restrictions, in May, Senators Bernie Sanders and Kirsten Gillibrand and the comedian Kumail Nanjiani encouraged their Twitter followers to donate to abortion funds, praising the work of ARC-Southeast and Yellowhammer, a fund that a University of Alabama graduate, Amanda Reyes, had co-founded, in September, 2017. By mid-July, ARC-Southeast received more than three hundred thousand dollars in donations. Yellowhammer, which funded three hundred and thirteen abortions in 2018 and is extremely active on social media, received more than two million dollars; it had not taken in as much in its entire existence before then. The singer Maggie Rogers pledged profits from her merchandise sales, and, in July, Pussy Riot played a sold-out concert in Birmingham benefitting the fund and Planned Parenthood.

While Njoku and Tinsley were in Tuscaloosa, they went to supper at a Tex-Mex restaurant with Reyes and some of her employees, including Candice Russell, the activist who had accused Parker of assault, who had recently joined the Yellowhammer staff. We all introduced ourselves, giving our preferred pronouns. The pro-choice movement, Russell said at one point, used the term reproductive justice too freely. Russell referred to Yellowhammers work with underhoused people, a near-synonym for homeless that Njoku and Tinsley later confessed they had never heard before. The dinner was surprisingly tense, with the Yellowhammer staff mostly ignoring their peers at ARC-Southeast, and Reyes focussing her attention on me. Later, when I asked Njoku about the tension, she shrugged it off, saying that she still hoped the funds would continue to work together on the cases of people in Alabama.

In June, the local news outlet AL.com published a story in which the directors of Alabamas three abortion clinics and a former Yellowhammer board member complained that Yellowhammer had used its donations for inflated salaries and unnecessary purchases. Reyes denied the claims, saying that the money was being spent appropriately. When I asked Reyes about the complaints, she said, Things moved so fast, and the speed at which we went from a really small organization with an all-volunteer workforce to becoming an organization that was poised to be so much more... resulted in those misunderstandings. Since then, she said, Yellowhammer had sought management advice and had hired a communications firm.

Njoku was glad that the abortion bans were inspiring people to donate and to volunteer. On social media, people were posting selfies of themselves wearing Everyone Loves Someone Who Had an Abortion T-shirts. Now everyone was an intersectional feminist, she said. But there was a danger, she thought, that people would forget the black women who had founded the movement to address ongoing injustices. Its not because its cute or because its sexy or because Stacey Abrams said reproductive justice in the State of the Union response, she said. Its because its real.

One Monday morning in June, Njoku and Chi Chi were training a new intern, Imani, a sophomore at Clark Atlanta University, to answer the hotline. Slight and bespectacled, Imani grew up in the Bronx and attended an all-girls Catholic school, where talk of sex and abortion was hush-hush. She had become a convert to reproductive justice after attending a conference hosted by the advocacy group Civil Liberties and Public Policy.

Njoku pulled up on her computer screen the voice mails that had been left over the weekend. She and Chi Chi have a teasing rapport, and make videos of themselves as Nigerian aunties who critique rap lyrics, a pastime that often makes its way into the office. Are you starting from the bottom, now were here? Njoku asked Chi Chi, quoting a lyric from a song by Drake.

Chi Chi said that she was; Njoku would start from the messages at the top of the list. Imani scooted her chair over to Njokus screen. Njoku turned on one of the Samsung Galaxy phones they use for the hotline. This is the trap phone, she said, referring to the prepaid cell phones typically used by drug dealers. Imani laughed.

Part of the job, Njoku explained, was to help callers by brainstorming how to hustle for the money they needed. They encouraged women to ask their family and friends for help with their abortion fees just as they would if they had any other bill they couldnt pay. Just because theres shame and stigma around it doesnt mean we cant still use that same energy to make sure you get what you need, Njoku said. Chi Chi added, Its sort of like, Were your friendwere your friend who you never met who will steer you in the right direction. She and Chi Chi often call clinics on behalf of patients who are a hundred or so dollars short of the total fee and ask the staff to see them anyway. More often than not, the clinics agree.

Njoku returned the call of one woman whose parents were against the idea of abortion, and urged her to ask to borrow money from them anyway. Folks dont need to know all your business, you know? she said. Its enough to be, like, Hey, Im needing some help right now. Yall think that you can lend me a little bit?

Later, Njoku and Imani listened to a message from a woman in Florida. A child could be heard crying in the background; the callers voice sounded small and panicked. When Njoku called her back, the woman told her that she was in her early twenties, with two children, and that she was on Medicaid, unemployed, and eight weeks pregnant. Her abortion, scheduled for the next day, would cost nearly six hundred dollars, and she had only a little more than two hundred. Njoku asked what she had been doing to raise more money. The woman was thinking of pawning her wedding ring. Oh, goodness, I dont want you to have to do that, Njoku said. Hold on to that. Well figure it out before it has to get to that point.

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Prince William, Prince Harry, Meghan Markle, and Kate Middleton have come together for a very special reason that s near and dear to all of their hearts. Theyve easily slammed all the rumors of a feud while lending their support and voices to a mental health PSA for a new initiative called Every Mind Matters.

Prince William, Prince Harry, Markle, and Middleton can be heard narrating a short film thats part of a new initiative with Britains National Health Service (NHS). Other celebrities involved are Gillian Anderson, Glenn Close, Davina McCall, and former cricket player Freddie Flintoff.

Every Mind Matters is a new online program, with Harpers Bazaar explaining that the website allows people to create a personalized action plan that recommends tailored self-care actions to help deal with stress, boost mood, improve sleep and feel in control.

The video begins with Prince William noting: Everyone knows that feeling when life gets on top of us. All over the country, millions of us face challenges to our mental health. At all ages, at all intensities and for all sorts of reasons. We feel stressed, low, anxious and have trouble sleeping. Me, you

Prince Harry continues, your brother, your mother, your friend, your colleague, your neighbor. Waiting. Wondering. Hoping. Hurting. We think theres nothing to be done. Nothing we can do about it.

Markle adds, But now, theres a new way to help turn things around. Every Mind Matters will show you simple ways to look after your mental health.

Middleton explains: Itll get you started with a free online plan designed to help you deal with stress, boost your mood, improve your sleep, and feel more in control.

They further note: We can all benefit from taking simple steps to look after our mental health and help those around us. Because good mental health makes such a difference.

The 60-second version was released today, but the full two-and-a-halfminute version will air Monday at 8:45 p.m. on all major British TV networks.

The royals each recorded their piece individually at theirhomes at Kensington Palace and Frogmore Cottage in September.

Both the Sussexes and Cambridges have been involved in initiatives involving mental health, with Health Secretary Matt Hancock sharing the couples bravery at a screening of the new film. Hancock shared: I want to put on the record my admiration for the way that the Princes and the Duchesses have contributed to changing how our society here in the UK and I think around the world think about mental health, and their own bravery in speaking out about it.

He continued: This is one of the most clear examples of them taking that lead and they do so much for so many people. Our health both mental and physical is an asset that needs to be nurtured. Every Mind Matters will benefit us all with an accessible tool to help manage our wellbeing at the click of a button.

PHE chief executive Duncan Selbie further noted: Every MindMatters aims to help people to better handle lifes ups and downs. This is notabout the very severe end of mental illness. This is about a preventionintervention, a digital innovation. Its about reaching people with the helpthat theyre looking for.

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